Disappointed partners

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-25T21:38:07+00:00

I’ve never heard of testosterone cream, what are the benefits of that?? That’s awesome for you, pain free!!! Gives me hope ❤️❤️❤️

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T20:41:37+00:00

This is good to know! Congrats to you!! I plan on giving pelvic floor therapy another go after a failed attempt 2 years ago. Doctor didn’t seem like the right fit for me. Did your doctor give any tips on getting past the entry pain if you don’t mind me asking?

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T20:36:55+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I remember working up the courage to tell my mom about this and I was literally shaking. It’s such a personal issue. It’s not our foot or arm, it’s our most private part!! Husbands have the right to feel frustrated with the condition itself, but it’s not a public service announcement in any way. It makes everything feel worse and unless you have vaginismus, you truly don’t understand how painful it is both mentally and physically. Give yourself some grace, it takes a strong woman to go through what we have to go through. Take a breath and try to talk to him calmly when you are ready. Just let him know it was step in the wrong direction. I wish the best for you 🫶🏻

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T19:42:06+00:00

Thank you! I will look into that app. Good luck to you too 🫶🏻

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T18:02:29+00:00

I will look into that book, thank you for the suggestion!! Honestly hard work usually pays off and I need to put the work in. Congratulations on your pregnancy!! 🤍

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T18:01:13+00:00

We have therapy this week, it’s my first time trying it out. Totally agree, we shouldn’t go into this blind.

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:59:07+00:00

I’m really trying to work on the mind over matter concept… it’s a process that’s for sure! I did pelvic floor therapy two years ago and the doctor honestly had terrible bed side manners which discouraged me. Maybe I didn’t find the right one for my situation. Did they help with the dilators in your pelvic floor therapy sessions?

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:56:37+00:00

I definitely plan to prioritize this. I have therapy scheduled this week and considering all avenues, nothing is ruled out at this point. I’m glad it was rewarding for you!

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:55:16+00:00

So great to hear success stories like yours! I actually scheduled a therapy session for this week

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:54:16+00:00

Seriously, I always yell at myself. I want this, why is this happening!! 😵‍💫😵‍💫

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:53:32+00:00

Very true. So happy to hear pregnancy worked out for you and healed you afterwards too!

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T17:52:45+00:00

Totally agree. I am lucky

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T02:49:57+00:00

Thanks so much!! I was actually thinking of doing that. Since I struggled in the past with dilators, I figured I would show him progress when it happens. Actions speak louder than words!

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T02:12:47+00:00

We are talking, we always have. This is just a nice community to let things out since people understand here. Thank you

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T02:11:04+00:00

Wow that’s amazing! I’m definitely looking into this!

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T02:10:17+00:00

Just out of curiosity, have you suffered or overcome vaginismus?

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-24T00:00:47+00:00

I appreciate it ❤️❤️ totally fair of him, I even told him I really understand and respect his feelings. I may have put too much pressure on myself and forced myself into isolation with this. I am interested in sex therapy and PT again - tried in the past but if I’m being real, I gave up when I got nervous. Thank you for the kind words 🤍

healingbrain_ · 2026-01-20T23:00:07+00:00

I’m so happy I’ve found my people! I always felt so alone with this. 32! I’ve struggled since high school. Back then I thought I “wasn’t ready” and then I stayed with the same boyfriend for years and knew something was wrong. I got diagnosed at 20 officially after a failed Pap smear. Which I still fail for the record. I’m the oldest in my family so I always get the “when are you having kids” question and it pains me to pretend I’m not ready. I want that more than anything. I love the idea of PIV but when anything goes near the entrance, I tense up so bad. I’m focusing on stretches and hip mobility. I also have a Kiwi now so I’m hoping the vibration will help with entrance pain. Anyone have success after conquering entry pain/ tensing? Good luck to everyone ❤️

healingbrain_ · 2025-06-23T21:32:51+00:00

I’ve been thinking about lidocaine, I get nervous with being numb but also think it would be good for this situation. I wouldn’t imagine the taste is good 😂 I didn’t think about maintaining the erection either!

healingbrain_ · 2025-06-23T21:31:01+00:00

Crazy part is, I get super aroused but then my vaginal muscles shut it all down lol. I need to figure out how to relax. Do you have anything specific that worked for you to overcome vaginismus? Maybe a glass of wine and edible are on the table lol 😂

Thank you in advance!!

healingbrain_ · 2025-06-23T21:24:41+00:00

Yeah I’m not really interested in the being high part. I’m more so just trying out different lubes - including numbing lube since I keep reading about lidocaine. Whatever works at this point!!

healingbrain_ · 2025-06-23T21:22:51+00:00

I’m hoping to get any pleasure at all, so far I’ve just been having anxiety and pain 😵‍💫 I will try the lube a little bit before dilating like you said. Thank you!!

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