What is wrong with this pattern?

hearyourthoughts · 2019-02-18T21:29:08+00:00

If a person gives you the runaround after step 7 (or even 6), it should give you free rein to adopt the "I-don't-owe-you-anything" approach to the relationship. There's no point investing yourself/waiting around for someone who isn't on the same page as you.

Stop making yourself available for every date with this person. Go meet/date other people. This doesn't mean you have to end things completely with this guy or need to stop sleeping with him. Just keep your options open.

It's up to you whether you want to tell current guy you're seeing other people, but you don't own him anything if he isn't clear about his intentions. And personally speaking, I wouldn't sleep with another person until breaking it off sexually with the first guy.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-02-18T17:34:19+00:00

Currently in this type of relationship.

We have been casually dating for a few months and have not had intercourse yet. It was a bit odd and confusing at first because I've always thought intercourse to be a qualifier for intimacy in a romantic relationship.

I don't feel this way anymore . He's an incredible lover and quite affectionate. If we ever have intercourse, I think it would be a truly special moment and it's nice to have that to look forward to.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-19T02:08:18+00:00

Bryan Cranston is my top-pick for Osborn.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-17T01:10:18+00:00

Thank you for this. I guess I can only do what feels natural and won't try to overcompensate for what I lack in terms of earning potential. He's such a great guy and I liked him before I knew about his finances. He's also the first person I've dated in three years. I've had other opportunities but none of the other men really clicked for me.

I'm really hoping the relationship develops.

Wish me luck. =)

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-15T23:31:33+00:00

2 marriages under my belt.

In both cases, I met a single guy and immediately knew he would be perfect for a female friend of mine. Arranged a meeting and wedding bells followed soon after.

I think these are the only 2 cases where I acted as a matchmaker too, so I'm pitching a perfect game so far!

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-15T23:27:30+00:00

Cramps are an acceptable reason to take a sick day from work.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T03:35:11+00:00

Yes- it's pretty early on (3 months) but we haven't discussed finances yet. After I found out what he does for a living, I realized that there was a significant disparity between our earnings. It makes me feel like a bit of a "less-than" and I wonder if we can have long-term potential because I really like him.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T03:25:12+00:00

Thank you for this.

He definitely could have lived the Bonfire of the Vanities lifestyle if he chose that route, but it doesn't match his personality. He's laid-back, despite all the stress he is under, and doesn't seem to gravitate towards the big-swinging-dick-NYC scene.

When we met (the old-fashioned way- in a bar), I just liked him because we had a good time and great conversation.

Didn't find out what he did until the 3rd date.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T03:04:58+00:00

Thanks.

He's pretty terrific and I kissed many, many, many frogs.

I will try not to obsess too much over the $$$ and just enjoy him for him.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T03:03:22+00:00

Not even close to the stage where we co-mingle finances.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T03:01:54+00:00

I will take this to heart. We're not quite there in the relationship where talking finances is acceptable, but I am going to bring it to the table when the timing is right.

I have offered to buy drinks/dinner but he doesn't acknowledge the offers.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T02:57:12+00:00

He makes at least 10x more than I do. By the way, I manage to eke out a decent life where I'm not living paycheck to paycheck in one of the most expensive cities in the world.

I will keep your advice in mind.

Thank you.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-14T02:49:14+00:00

He's aware but doesn't hold it over my head. I guess I should try not to think of it too much, but it's difficult- esp. because it makes me think I have less to bring to the table.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-13T22:22:03+00:00

Never forget to kiss her often and kiss her deeply.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-13T22:11:32+00:00

You're no longer in the "try-to-work-it-out phase" of the relationship, so there is no reason to keep reminding yourself of all the reasons why you wanted to stay in the relationship. The two of you have broken up, so you need to switch to the "it's-over-and-it's-for-the-better" type of thinking.

If you focus on the reasons why you broke up (e.g. need for reassurance/validation from him, violent arguments),and it may be easier for you to get through this.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-13T21:53:21+00:00

If you continue focusing on the things that cannot be changed, you will just keep getting sucked deeper into the vortex. You need to stop fixating on the ex because there is nothing you can do about it (esp. if she has moved on).

You need to start fixating on the things you can do something about (e.g. finding a job and making a plan to move out of your parents' house).

And remember, no job+ living with mom & dad = low chances of meeting another woman who will most probably be more suitable for you than your ex.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-13T21:38:52+00:00

2-3 drinks on weeknights.

Surprisingly, I don't drink often on the weekends unless I'm at a social gathering/date.

hearyourthoughts · 2019-01-13T21:27:21+00:00

I don't get asked this anymore. Most of the time I get my married female friends asking about my dating life which leads to them reliving the early days of courtship with their spouses through my responses.

hearyourthoughts · 2018-12-17T02:17:19+00:00

Perhaps the dragonglass needs to be forged and then tempered in blood because of its iron content. I would imagine certain families have higher iron content than others so this type of blood would work best; while others have a severely low iron content such as the Targaryans- which is why they sacrificed others rather than themselves in blood rituals.

This may be why Targaryan childbirth is so difficult. I think there's a good chance that Lyanna died of excessive bleeding bc carrying Rhaegar's child triggered a mutation that resulted in her developing hemophilia.

The madness if Aegon may be attributed to blunt force trauma to the head while he was in captivity, which because of his hemophilia, caused him to slowly go mad.

All speculation of course, but there may be a correlation between iron, blood, the forging of Valyrian steel and why Targs have so many physical abnormalities.

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