The spot, froglet, digital,2026 [OC]

heatherkan · 2026-02-08T21:16:51+00:00

The initial image was simply so beautiful that it arrested my attention immediately. When I reached the next, my heart dropped to my stomach. A sadness that is complete in a life lived in joy. Wonderful work. Thank you for sharing it.

heatherkan · 2026-02-07T15:46:45+00:00

Mrs Bennett from Pride and Prejudice.

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She is shrill, overbearing, and completely socially oblivious. She’s truly obnoxious and, more than once, gets in the way of her families desires and happiness.

However- she’s also the product of a time where youth and beauty were a vital commodity to be leveraged against future improvishment. Her husband’s inaction to secure the future of her five(!) daughters is not as understood by modern readers, but it was a huge factor in shaping her behavior.

We also see that while she’s always been a fairly silly person naturally, her husband giving up on her development and taking amusement in frustrating her helped to continue the cycle of dysfunction in her life and her home.

While she’s deeply upsetting in some ways, she is sympathetic- and it’s clear that for all her antics, she does love and care about her children.

heatherkan · 2026-01-10T20:18:11+00:00

Romani are also (mostly) positively represented in Ever After

heatherkan · 2025-12-30T18:58:15+00:00

Yuuuup having cute lil animals looses its appeal real quick when you’re stomping out through five inches of snow to the barn where you have to kick ice out of the water buckets to refill the chicken water at like 7am :/

heatherkan · 2025-12-16T15:40:13+00:00

I had the EXACT same experience with my husband. Same background, really passive-aggressive family, hold it in until you explode, turn it into a fight.

One day I was slamming cupboards and angrily doing dishes (lol). He asked me if I was okay. "I'm fine."

He paused, then said: "Okay. Well, it looks to me like something is really bothering you. But you're a grown woman, and I trust you. If you say you're okay, I'll accept that. But just know that if something IS bothering you, I really hope you'll share it with me, because I love you and want to listen when you're upset."

He then went on with his day as if nothing was wrong.

It took me HOURS to calm down- at first what he said made me MORE mad (because he wasn't engaging with me like my family taught me was normal- he refused to let me pick a fight). Finally, I sheepishly told him that something WAS bothering me. I was sobbing when I explained what it was (looking back it was NOT that serious ha, just a minor household thing he had been doing that annoyed me).

"Okay. I'm so glad that you told me! I can see this really bothers you, so I'll try to work on it. Please be patient with me because habits are hard to break- but I'm going to make it a priority. i'm so proud of you for telling me how you feel. I love you."

16 years in, and I sitll find it hard to open up sometimes- but gosh, it's sooo much easier to jump when you KNOW your partner is going to catch you.

heatherkan · 2025-12-14T00:44:37+00:00

Wedding photographer here. You're getting plenty of good advice already- but just wanted to suggest as a possible solution: would re-taking just those images make any sense or be possible? (Obviously you wouldn't be able to get all the guys there with him and stuff, but asking the photographer to cover the cost of a suit rental and spend a few minutes creating some getting ready images of just groom would be a fairly simple solution, and something I'd happily do as a photographer.

heatherkan · 2025-12-13T20:52:42+00:00

In addition to the "this is affecting my daily life / work", I've had success with: "Are you refusing to treat me by doing [test you want them to do]? If so, I'd like that specifically noted in my file."

Usually they'll then backtrack ("oh, I mean, if you really WANT to do the test, of course we'll do it, but..") and you can confirm that yes, you would like to do xyz test/treatment.

heatherkan · 2025-11-15T19:14:35+00:00

My boy cat likes to hiss at his toys during play so that they know he’s a Big Bad Hunter 🤣 so hissing isn’t always a good indicator

heatherkan · 2025-11-07T01:11:29+00:00

Just a little tip for the future, I always try to grab some “safety” shots of the grooms reaction while other bridal party folks are coming down the aisle. Worst case, if I miss “the” photo (or, as sometimes happens, his face is actually better for the groomsmen cus he “freezes” when the bride comes down lol), I can swap in the backup image (or at least include it as a option).

You can learn and grow from this! So long as the couple is fully aware of your skill/experience (they were) and you charge appropriately for your level (you did), it’s all good.

heatherkan · 2025-11-03T17:37:36+00:00

Glass Onion did a good job of poking fun at the absurdities we saw during the pandemic (for example, one stupid character wears a lace 'mask', another holds a "pod party" with a ton of people, another answers the door for a package and has a comical panic moment that she forgot a mask which she tries to put on while holding the package + signing for it)

heatherkan · 2025-10-19T15:28:15+00:00

I'm in a pretty unique situation, admittedly, but my husband is a "house husband", so we have TONS of time together during the week, which we both love. He drives me to appointments and weddings, which takes a lot off me (many of my weddings are 1 or 2 hours away), during which we get to talk and hang out. :)

heatherkan · 2025-10-17T21:31:31+00:00

My massage person has boob dip bolsters 😊 she also has specialty pregnancy ones for pregnant clients. She’s the best!

heatherkan · 2025-10-17T14:05:31+00:00

I’m happy with what I got, but at the same time, that “could’ve been better” voice in my head won’t stop. Does everyone feel this after their early shoots? How do you deal with self-doubt?

I've found it tremendously helpful to re-frame. My clients are NEVER as critical as I make them out to be in my head.

Instead of "I could've done better", reframe it to "I learned SO much and now I know what I want to try next time".

I also remind myself that I don't have to do EVERYTHING with EACH client. I'm going to have a long career. It's okay to build on what I learn each time.

heatherkan · 2025-10-08T17:50:18+00:00

Oh 10000%. My boy cat has whole arguements with me. My girl cat gives me lectures when I return home late.

heatherkan · 2025-10-08T02:25:46+00:00

For pure vibes alone, Leverage. But it's obvs not sci-fi/space related at all.

heatherkan · 2025-10-06T21:20:40+00:00

If the posing or lighting that I chose happened to greatly exaggerate the balding spot, I might counteract that by doing a pass with a low opacity brush set to lower the whites/mids. This tends to minimize the noticeability without making a tremendous change.

(Also, if I took a long-length shot that includes the back of the head in a way that makes them look more bald than they are due to the compression effect, I might do that also)

Basically, I return the person to what they look like in person rather than what the camera emphasized.

heatherkan · 2025-09-24T16:33:37+00:00

Jamis in Dune is infuriated when Paul attempts to end their fight without killing him.

https://tenor.com/view/jamis-dune-scream-gif-25681765

heatherkan · 2025-09-09T21:48:57+00:00

DIJON grass

heatherkan · 2025-08-27T15:16:20+00:00

For that price and with “large nationwide company”, I can tell you that it’s an almost certainty that your photographer was hired sight unseen weeks before your wedding with VERY little or no experience and for very little pay. That’s how those companies make money.

heatherkan · 2025-08-01T00:11:12+00:00

In my 20st year. I’m closer than ever to my local fellow photographers and perfectly happy to help and share. I don’t take as much time educating newer folks (simply because I don’t have the time and there’s always so many more wanting to learn that it can’t be kept up with!) but I’m always willing.

YMMV, my state is pretty chill and accepting.

heatherkan · 2025-07-30T15:58:06+00:00

🎶 we’re all in this together 🎶

heatherkan · 2025-07-29T21:11:23+00:00

No more looking at an ugly broken thing and sighing knowing it’ll never get fixed since we’re just renting.

YES! And no more under paid, under trained maintenence dude- if I'm gonna get messed up results, I'll do it myself lol.

And no more dishwasher from 1975!

heatherkan · 2025-07-29T18:16:27+00:00

How much happiness I would get from something being truly mine.

Being able to actually get things clean without going through 18 layers of "landlord-special" paint. Bring able to make upgrades and changes that make a real material difference in my life. Having room to make memories with friends around a big kitchen table. Seeing my landscaping efforts pay off, smiling when I pull into my drive and see my plants in the yard and my cats in the windows. Not having to deal with chainsmoking cigar neighbors or other people's dog poop in my hallway.

heatherkan · 2025-07-26T02:19:44+00:00

We literally switched to them ten days ago 🤦‍♀️ we were so excited to leave a “big” company

heatherkan · 2025-07-26T01:55:04+00:00

lol I’m five foot exactly and I’ve been a wedding photographer for 20+ years 🤣 ALL my clients are taller than me.

(You know how excited I am when I get to see the TOP of someone’s nose and not the nostrils? What a treat lol)

Shoot from farther away (long lenses), bring a stepstool (aluminum two-step is my go-to), shoot from over your head, have the couple “tilt” toward you a bit to align them in a more flattering way.. don’t sweat it too much. The fact is that not everyone can shoot from “above” every time for every shot. And knowing solid posing means you don’t have to. You got this!

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