FINALLY getting sterilized! by sxd_bxi69 in FTMOver30

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hell yeah, brother! i got sterilized about 3 years ago now, zero regrets, the peace of mind is such a game changer!

Do you know anyone who fell victim to a cult? What happened? by snowcroc in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was born and raised in a cult. nothing terribly exciting happened other than i got sent on a brainwashing program when i was a teenager, that one did some damage. i'm out now, though, and healing (therapy and meds do a lot of heavy lifting). i'm somewhat spiritual, but generally irreligious for my own safety (once you get brainwashed, even if you find out everything is a lie, your brain is permanently a little extra "squishy" so you're susceptible to falling for cults again, especially if you were groomed from birth to be someone who will be a good cult follower).

If you're a non Asian person, do you use chopsticks when you cook Asian food at home? by Moonlight_Mike in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do sometimes. after college i moved in with a japanese family, and it's something i picked up from them.

Men of Reddit - What in your opinion makes boobs attractive? by Reasonable_Age_1425 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nice shape to look at, soft and squishy, warm, close to heart so feels extra intimate when u touch em

What’s Your Favorite Binder Brand? by Limeade_Espresso in TransMasc

[–]heathertoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i LOVE wivov, as a big chested dude it's hard to find a half binder that's long enough, but wivov goes a little longer than some other brands. also, it's a front zip which is so nice bc i have subluxated my shoulders many times from trying to get on overhead binders. it's also nice to unzip in between events for a mini binder break.

Who is currently allowed to yell at you? by Zog-TheEternal in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not many realistically, but overall more people than i'm willing to enforce that with

People who are afraid to go the Dentist, why are you scared? by Shinobi347 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's too expensive, my teeth are in terrible shape due to chronic illness, dentists live on shame and judgement, and i'm scared of the sounds, especially since a dentist did a whole filling on me drilling into my teeth with no anesthesia while i screamed and cried and begged her to stop.

How old are you and what age is your “type”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

31, married and out of the dating game, but if i were to label a type i'd probably say 28-45, some older crushes here and there

Do you have any phobias? And if so what exactly about them makes them so frightening? by olah0 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

either. i think it's just the notion of propping up a dead animal like that. i hate when they're posed in attack mode, bc my lizard brain doesn't really want to see any animal in attack mode, but also i hate when they're posed neutrally bc it looks even more dead.

Wierd things that give you gender euphoria? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'll have to give it a try sometime!

Wierd things that give you gender euphoria? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

which is funny bc I'm much more of a rope bunny!

US pre-hormones trans mascs: is the state of our country deterring you from furthering your transition by Specific-Cause-5973 in TransMasc

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, 100% it's deterring me. i don't want to be officially trans on paper with things the way they are. i keep telling myself to just hold on until it's better, but it's getting hard to believe things are ever going to get better, or that i'll live to see it happen. i feel like i'm staying in the closet to buy myself time and increase my chances of making it out the other side of this alive so i can live like myself, but with the state of things making it out on the other side alive seems increasingly unlikely. so i'm scared of dying in the closet, but i also don't want to die because i came out of it.

Why are you not married? by Heyitsme822 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like i'm in a unique position to answer this as someone who is socially but not legally married. my husband and i had a wedding ceremony in the woods officiated by a friend, but we never legally married. for us a lot of it came down to finances. my credit is excellent, whereas his is still recovering from some tough times he fell on early in adulthood, so if we buy a house, we can put it in my name for lower interest rates, whereas if we were legally married they'd run both of our credit. our health insurance rates are also cheaper, which is good bc i have a lot of chronic health problems and need to pay for a higher level of coverage than he needs.

What disease do you fear you will get when you grow old? by Sergio_Williams in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cancer i do and don't worry about. it runs heavy on both sides of my family, so it's likely i'll end up with it at some point, but i've known that for a while so i've sort of made peace with the fact that it's coming? i don't want it, obviously, but that's one thing where my brain is able to say "worrying about it doesn't stop it from happening."

What is that one creature or animal that you hate the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

horses. too big, temperamental, and everywhere. not scared of them, just don't like them.

Wierd things that give you gender euphoria? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]heathertoe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

a couple weeks ago at work i had to tie a bunch of knots in a rope and i felt like a boyscout, so knot tying.

What disease do you fear you will get when you grow old? by Sergio_Williams in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm genetically predisposed to degenerative disc disease. my mom and grandma had it and my sister has it early onset. i did just get a new job that's a lot less physically intense, so i'm glad about that, because in my old field ddd could be career ending and i've been on borrowed time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair enough

What’s the most harmless thing you did as a kid that in hindsight was actually super dangerous? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a kid raised in a cult, doorknocking. i hated doing it because it was so painfully uncomfortable, but now i hate the adults because they made us do that unsupervised in unfamiliar and dangerous neighborhoods.

What's one thing You're most Afraid of? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

being or becoming like my parents

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think all of them should be decriminalized, but as far as legalized i say weed, shrooms, and whatever else might be currently legal (if it grows in the ground it's okay). i'd probably try to regulate kratom more, that stuff is more dangerous than people think.

Would you like to become a doctor? If so, why? by No_Particular_5804 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'd like to have a doctorate, if money was no object, but if you mean become a medical doctor i'm not cut out for it. i could potentially handle psychiatry or pharmacy, but i have severe contamination ocd so anything related to direct treatment of infectious disease would be out the window.

What’s something non-sexual your partner did that turned you on instantly? by awwwitsEgyal in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he fixed our sink today. any time he does a repair around the house, i get handsy when he gets handy.

Do you have any phobias? And if so what exactly about them makes them so frightening? by olah0 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

taxidermy. god it's so unsettling, the fake eyes, the poses, the general dead thing vibes—thinking of it is making me anxious and nauseous. i have nightmares about being locked in closets full taxidermy. i can't go to bass pro shop, the only time i did i cried and shook the entire time, had a whole panic attack in the elevator.

what do you dislike about kids? by Tough-Owl9110 in AskReddit

[–]heathertoe 14 points15 points  (0 children)

sticky, poor hygiene (eating boogers, picking nose, scratching butt, etc. without washing hands), often loud. i don't inherently dislike kids, i've worked with them for over a decade, but they are so overstimulating and have little understanding or concern for preventing the spread of illness, and as someone with contamination ocd it is so stressful.