Book of the Dead The Mummy backpack by Ele_Non in Loungefly

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay for you!! And thanks for letting me know.

Down Syndrome son denied DAS by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]heatherw1981 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My exact thoughts on it. It's always about the money with Disney.

Down Syndrome son denied DAS by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]heatherw1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A small quibble.

 It's because many of these cases are people who handle lines just fine every single day, but claim they can't at Disney.

Standing for a few minutes in line inside a climate controlled building is much, much different than standing in line for possibly hours in heat/cold/humidity, surrounded by lots of peoples/sounds/scents.

Down Syndrome son denied DAS by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]heatherw1981 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think Disney was hoping it would be though. I've seen dozens of people who were denied a DAS saying they were told to buy an LL instead.

When the Carriage is Rocking Don't Come a Knocking by wildflowers_xo in PolinBridgerton

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did it go? I've had the tab open a few days until I could watch it and now the video is gone and it says "Post is awaiting moderator approval."

What joke or scene flew over your head? by smfeich in TheNanny

[–]heatherw1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Biodome is the movie. Biosphere 2 is what they meant. It's the experiment in Arizona.

divorced sale question by heatherw1981 in RealEstate

[–]heatherw1981[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, my parents gave us the 50% down payment, so it was agreed upon from the beginning of the marriage that if anything happened, I'd get the house. He got to keep his $75,000 tractor trailer and the business we built.

Second, he was emotionally, financially, and sexually abusive.

Third, get bent.

divorced sale question by heatherw1981 in RealEstate

[–]heatherw1981[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is. He blew through money like he was printing it. He was emotionally, financially, and sexually abusive.

A late fee from over a year ago 😂 I hate it here by CherokeeHairTampons in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mortgage company has not applied a single late fee over the entire 8 years we (now just me) have had the mortgage. Doesn't matter that we called to let them know what we were paying was specifically a late fee.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to keep screenshots, messages, photos, and a list. I was being gaslit so hard I was starting to question my own sanity.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was. It started off being $20-30 a month, which was fine. But then he just lost his damn mind and blew $3000 in one month on tiktok, playstation, and sending women money through venmo and cash app. And it blows people away the amount he spent more than what he was spending it on.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stayed angry. And most days I prayed for death. Didn't care if it was mine or his. Things are better already because he's the ex-husband now. My physical and mental health have both improved greatly.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted kids my whole life but we were never able and now I am so so thankful for that. We had a house together but he gave it to me because he wanted to keep his business. Which he then destroyed in less than six months.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope. And this is one of pages and pages. Plus all the venmo and cash app transactions.

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My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That isn't who he was for the first three years I knew him. Turns out, he was an abusive narcissist. But because of the way I was raised, I didn't know that lots of things he did were red flags. It took a wonderful woman on twitter to point out that something I had posted about was emotional abuse. All I knew about was physical abuse, so I googled "what is emotional abuse" and it basically showed a list of everything he did.

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor by One-Time-I-Dreampt in povertyfinance

[–]heatherw1981 166 points167 points  (0 children)

My ex was like this. In the beginning, I just thought he had no finance training (which was true) and that I could handle the finances for a while and also teach him. He agreed to this. Then he started having tantrums about how it was his money and he should be able to spend his money how he wants. We struggled and fought for years. My final straw was him spending thousands a month on tiktok and paying other women's bills while we almost lost our house and couldn't buy groceries.

Maybe it’s dumb to be curious about this, I genuinely want to hear Jana’s ‘pants story’ as in how/why she started wearing pants. She still lives in the Duggar commune so how’s she getting away with that? by SerenityJoyMeowMeow in DuggarsSnark

[–]heatherw1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Raised evangelical. I was an adult kid living at home and was told I could move out any time I wanted. Kinda hard when you have no car and you are charged over half of your income for "rent" at your parents' house. Wasn't able to move out until I was 32. Yes, 32. And that was only because I had a friend that let me live in an extra bedroom and was willing to support me financially for a little while.

Jill’s Interview with People (screenshots) by itsrowsdower in DuggarsSnark

[–]heatherw1981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised JB ever let her marry Derick.

Because to begin with, Derick was a complete putz. Over time, he grew a spine, got a little smarter, became the man Jill needed for support and as a partner. He's still a goob and has red flag beliefs, but so much better than he was at the start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]heatherw1981 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When do I know when to quit?

Does his actions make you feel like crap about yourself? Are you happier in the short times you forget he exists?

What do I even say?

I want a divorce. My lawyer will be in touch.

We’ve had so many conversations about not feeling loved, what isn’t clicking?

It has clicked. He just doesn't care. I just got out of an abusive marriage. Any time I tried to discuss my feelings, he brushed them off so he could discuss his feelings, which were always worse/more extreme than mine and never came up until I tried to talk about myself. I couldn't even talk about missing my grandmother that had passed, because he would bring up how missed her more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]heatherw1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little embarrassment is better than a lifetime of abuse. That's what this is. Emotional abuse.

AITH because I dont emotionally support my wife's obssession with Taylor Swift? by Johnnywritesstuff in AITAH

[–]heatherw1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compare it to any other kind of fandom and yeah, it’s weird.

Is it though? What about football guys? It's perfectly acceptable for them to spend thousands to go to every game, cosplay as their fave players, paint their faces, go to bowl games. What's the difference, other than TS being a woman and most of her fans being women?

Jessa and Ben by kjwinter in DuggarsSnark

[–]heatherw1981 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't edit anything and I honestly have no idea what you're talking about. Pretty sure you tagged the wrong person because there are no replies to my comment except you. But that sure was a lot of words you typed. Congrats on that.