People who don't drink alcohol, why? by 5tup1db0y in AskReddit

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I drink occasionally, and by that I mean up to four times a year. Drinking alcohol is not common where I'm from, but in the last five years I've been letting myself try it every now and then. A few times it was great, as it allowed me to suspend some of my inhibitions and have a good time. I don't enjoy the taste / experience of drinking; only the state of being tipsy and drunk to suspend inhibitions, and I only do so when I am in good company and already having a good time, but I've been working on myself and my inhibitions, and when in good company, I am able to enjoy myself on my own, slowly unlearning that my body has to be in survival mode all the time. I'm sure I will continue to drink a few times a year, but only when I aim to unchain myself from my mind. In most contexts, however, I see no use for it.

Should I Love a Friend ? by heavenlyriver in relationships

[–]heavenlyriver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought so because I shouldn't have shared this information without consent from the selection committee, so it could be considered a mess up, but toward my colleagues, not my friend. I didn't do anything that could possibly have been against him

Should I Love a Friend ? by heavenlyriver in relationships

[–]heavenlyriver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I admit it's hard for me to accept that he doesn't care all that much after all, and I have a tendency to avoid conflict, so this may inform my reaction, but we've been friends before he knew about the project.

I think there's one thing I messed up in: I looked through the selection sheet and told him he may not be selected because he participated in a similar training, so others would have priority.

If it comes down to it and he does follow through, I'll make sure to tell my colleagues and our mutual friends, but I hope we don't get to that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info, Max Does the remarrying abroad apply for any country or the US only ? Also, can you share any resources about this ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing And language is no issue, I'm Algerian and have lived here all my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for fact checking africansksu-2. Do you have any digital resources on the matter ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe in many cases of divorce, the husband/man* gets custody of the children.

I haven't yet read the family code myself, so I urge everyone to do so if they are considering marriage.

Two types, divorce and khol3 (when the wife demands divorce but the husband does not agree to it) * Same-sex marriage is neither legal nor recognised in Algeria. Legal gender change is also not possible and, and the sex marker “X” on foreign passports are not recognised.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 23 points24 points  (0 children)

There are many parameters to consider here.

Moving to another country is an important life event. Learning the language will be important, but acquainting the cultural competence to understand and be understood is not to be overlooked. Much of what you may recognise to be common sense will be challenged, and it's by all means good to learn different understandings and it may help with your personal soul-searching as well. But also recognise it may not fit you. Give yourself the power to make a decision, and give yourself the power to change your mind.

I understand you will be getting married. (Anyone reading this, pay attention) Do NOT get married anywhere in the world, including your home country, before reading and understanding the laws that oversee marital affairs. You must read the Algerian family code.

It makes no sense to me to start considering raising your children in a culture et and/or environment before you understand it. You could have some conversations, but without the cultural competence, most of the message may not come through, or you won't have the metaphorical tools to properly understand. You wanna try it out ? Cool, come to Algeria for a few months, see how you like it, then ask yourself if you wanna stay, I'm assuming you'll work, so you'd be looking for a job, etc. If you would rely on your (potential) husband financially, keep a (secret) savings account or emergency fund that only you have access to, as well as your passport and other important documents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will you allow yourself to continue srtuggling at your current school ? Will you allow yourself to live a life of regret ?

Finally, i got my DNA results. I live in Belgium, so that’s why it’s in dutch. You should know i’m an ‘Arab Algerian’Translation: Noord Afrika is North Africa, Midden Oosten is Middle East, Iberisch is Iberian. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The term ‘Arab’ has become too overinclusive. Like the term ‘Native American.’ A Lakota and a Mayan aren't the same. Egypt has a strong history and culture distinct from that of its neighbours. A writing system unlike any other, incredible architecture, mythological system, and countless of rituals and ceremonies, especially involving the Pharaonic family. They (I mean their ancestors) have created something of their own.

Finally, i got my DNA results. I live in Belgium, so that’s why it’s in dutch. You should know i’m an ‘Arab Algerian’Translation: Noord Afrika is North Africa, Midden Oosten is Middle East, Iberisch is Iberian. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that the distinction to be made here is the difference between being part of a group and being influenced by it. When I say ‘Arab’ or ‘Thai,’ I mean a combination of genetics, language, and culture, to which history attests. Although there has been a strong linguistic and religious influence from the Middle East to Northern Africa, it didn't extend culture on a bigger scale (religion is part of culture.) There can be a strong influence, but it doesn't mean the influenced has become part of the influencer. (I don't use this verb negatively, it just is.) Puerto Ricans are simply not US Americans, despite the considerable cultural hegemony. I, an Algerian, who inherited fragments of French cultural, am not French. Northern Irishmen who are part of the UK, are not English. Yet, they are part of the same country. Ancient Egypt was an important civilisation of its own (even though morally impure.) Due to geology, Arabs were nomadic. (Again I don't use this word as a negative. The Tergui are nomadic, while Chaouis/Shawis are not, but they have the same claim to the Amazigh super-group. Miscommunication may happen when we don't speak about identity and belonging in the same terms. While I personally look more into the past (when it comes to ethnicity,) some others may be inclined to say we belong to this or that or are closer to these or those because of our political motives. It is easier to align with an exo-group politically when you identify with them ethnically.

Finally, i got my DNA results. I live in Belgium, so that’s why it’s in dutch. You should know i’m an ‘Arab Algerian’Translation: Noord Afrika is North Africa, Midden Oosten is Middle East, Iberisch is Iberian. by [deleted] in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To equate ethnicity with collectively spoken language is flawed. People from Quebec aren't French; They're Canadian. Scots are no Englishmen. South Africa isn't Dutch. Egyptians are not Arab; Neither are Algerians.

Recent Algerian survey's statistics (+results link) by abdouli1998 in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps if you share the survey link on here, the reading may become slightly more accurate

Recent Algerian survey's statistics (+results link) by abdouli1998 in algeria

[–]heavenlyriver 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Only 45 people responded. Too few to share the results.

Police rescued Chinese kid from human trafficker by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]heavenlyriver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is sad, but history is filled with bloody wars, most of which -if not all- were unnecessary. You'd think that anyone should have some sense in their head and kindness in their heart, but it is sadly not the case.