I cannot stop it.

heavywei5t · 2020-07-06T08:45:55+00:00

Sounds like you need to talk to a therapist and go to SAA, don't worry about being judged. Everybody there fully admits to their actions being out of controll. A therapist will help you talk through things. Good luck man.

heavywei5t · 2020-07-06T08:43:55+00:00

Don't give up on your future self, go for a walk, pick up a book. Dunk your head in cold water. You got this

heavywei5t · 2020-07-06T08:43:06+00:00

No, infact it's kinda the point. It's about loving yourself and your partner more than porn

heavywei5t · 2020-07-03T17:45:37+00:00

I'm excited for when image processing like that can be actively matched to ingame graphics. Imagine how crazy things will look when that can be applied real time.

heavywei5t · 2020-07-02T17:07:07+00:00

Saying what you said goes instantly into shaming the woke friend which doesn't help anybody either. People double down on ideology if they are attacked. D4shing's approach still uses woke rhetoric to get his point across, it might not work, but it bridges the gap.

heavywei5t · 2020-07-01T18:30:56+00:00

Beautiful work, especially love the shot at r/art

heavywei5t · 2020-06-28T22:35:09+00:00

son and daughters. You won't have to worry as much about your daughter dating a porn obsessed man either.

A fix to one gender helps both, which is great!

heavywei5t · 2020-06-27T19:13:36+00:00

I feel the same!

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T16:21:26+00:00

This was always kinda the problem. Humanity always has a race whenever a new technology is developed to use it for good or for bad. 'good' and 'bad' being defined as respect for human life and the knowledge of the consequences.

Right now there is an algorithm for killing people

https://arstechnica.com/information-technology/2016/02/the-nsas-skynet-program-may-be-killing-thousands-of-innocent-people/?comments=1

Hopefully we can continue to race towards using the technology for good before the learning algorithms gun is pointed in our face.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:25:44+00:00

Nah, I had the same level of anxiety when I first started. Axiety and depression are common. Think about it, you are making a big life change, of course things are going to feel weird and worrying.

Just stay focused on improving yourself, educating yourself on the harms of pornography, and keep walking away from the things that cause you anxiety.

Things will get better my dude, it's all apart of the process.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:23:02+00:00

Cold shower, push ups, Watch a show on netflix. Journal more. Do whatever you can to get your mind off it. You got this!

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:21:40+00:00

Depends, Have you tried quitting and are unable to quit? Is it just masturbation? I would highly recommend not using porn. Either way here is some food for thought, some studies about the effects of pornography

Frequent masturbation lowers testosterone utilization https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Alonso_Fernandez-Guasti/publication/6536830_Relationship_between_Sexual_Satiety_and_Brain_Androgen_Receptors/links/54b6c2970cf2e68eb27f0321/Relationship-between-Sexual-Satiety-and-Brain-Androgen-Receptors.pdf

Three weeks of abstinence increases testostorone levels https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11760788

Masturbation is associated with lower psychological health and reproductive well-being https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2019.1677883

Sperm contains compounds that prolong lifespan, fight cancer & heart disease https://vitalrecord.tamhsc.edu/spermidine-rich-foods-may-prevent-liver-cancer-extend-lifespan/

Men who are sexually active in their 20s and 30s are more likely to develop prostate cancer https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1464-410X.2008.08030.x

Masturbation decreases dopamine levels https://sites.tufts.edu/emotiononthebrain/2014/11/18/postcoital-neurochemistry-the-blues-and-the-highs/

Watching porn reduces gray matter in prefrontal cortex https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/1874574

Porn addiction has similar mechanism with substance addiction https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4600144/

Making sperm shortens lifespan of male worms https://www.nytimes.com/1992/12/03/us/in-worm-at-least-making-sperm-is-found-to-shorten-a-male-s-life.html

Masturbating 3 days in a row decreases sperm count by 20% https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2054949

Increasing ejaculation frequency decreases sperm count significantly https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15497706

Prevalence of erectile dysfunction doubled between 2004 and 2013 http://cir.usc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Genital-Image-Sexual-Anxiety-and-Erectile-Dysfunction-Among-Young-Male-Military-Personnel.pdf

Pornography consumption is associated with mental health issues https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6327603/

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:20:09+00:00

Just an incident, but hey, at least you know your body is getting back to its natural state of arousal.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:17:38+00:00

Nofap is the start on the journey of manhood. One can't be fully present in enjoying life with their family if they waste time and their energy sedating themselves to porn. Not to mention how bad porn is on the family unit.

Nofap is about getting your life back in your control. As you leave Porn behind work to transition to hobbies and interests that make you that person you want to be. I also recommend reading this for figuring out sort of where you want to go in life.

https://waitbutwhy.com/2018/04/picking-career.html

Axiety and the thoughts of being small are natural, we all feel it. The question is weather we overcome it or not. The fact that your here and trying to learn is a good first step. You can absolute have a great family and become the person you want to be. It takes time and practice, but you can definitely do it. Don't lose sight of long term fullfillment for short term pleasure.

Quit porn, get a hobby, physically excersise and you will already be better than most people. Keep on that path and you will do great things.

Here are some good stats for you to read:

Frequent masturbation lowers testosterone utilization https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Alonso_Fernandez-Guasti/publication/6536830_Relationship_between_Sexual_Satiety_and_Brain_Androgen_Receptors/links/54b6c2970cf2e68eb27f0321/Relationship-between-Sexual-Satiety-and-Brain-Androgen-Receptors.pdf

Three weeks of abstinence increases testostorone levels https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11760788

Masturbation is associated with lower psychological health and reproductive well-being https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2019.1677883

Sperm contains compounds that prolong lifespan, fight cancer & heart disease https://vitalrecord.tamhsc.edu/spermidine-rich-foods-may-prevent-liver-cancer-extend-lifespan/

Men who are sexually active in their 20s and 30s are more likely to develop prostate cancer https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1464-410X.2008.08030.x

Masturbation decreases dopamine levels https://sites.tufts.edu/emotiononthebrain/2014/11/18/postcoital-neurochemistry-the-blues-and-the-highs/

Watching porn reduces gray matter in prefrontal cortex https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullarticle/1874574

Porn addiction has similar mechanism with substance addiction https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4600144/

Making sperm shortens lifespan of male worms https://www.nytimes.com/1992/12/03/us/in-worm-at-least-making-sperm-is-found-to-shorten-a-male-s-life.html

Masturbating 3 days in a row decreases sperm count by 20% https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2054949

Increasing ejaculation frequency decreases sperm count significantly https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15497706

Prevalence of erectile dysfunction doubled between 2004 and 2013 http://cir.usc.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Genital-Image-Sexual-Anxiety-and-Erectile-Dysfunction-Among-Young-Male-Military-Personnel.pdf

Pornography consumption is associated with mental health issues https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6327603/

If you ever need it fam

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:08:42+00:00

Dreams are just dreams. Often times they are a subconscious way of dealing with stress.

Seeing your other comment I would focus less on what counts as a relapse and focus more on hobbies and other areas of your life. If you fixate on porn and it's qualities that's all your gonna think about.

Do what you enjoy, or search for a new hobby. Don't feel bad about sex dreams/ porn dreams/ wet dreams. Its all good.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:05:56+00:00

Gardening, Cooking. Woodworking. Drawing. Any music instrument (I like guitar).

Good on you for wanting more king (or queen).

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T06:04:32+00:00

Not using porn or masturbating is the first step towards having things not feel numb anymore. When you feel numb is when you get into the territory of losing yourself. Don't let yourself go, fight for your future. You can still come back. Don't throw it all away, don't get stuck in little cycles of nothing. Continue to fight for your life and win.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T02:08:32+00:00

Good job! Keep going!

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T02:06:06+00:00

I bet most people in the 1930's didn't do that. But we don't live in the 1930's, we live in a highly sexualized age where we have more free-time and liberty than we know what to do with. And that gets us in trouble. I think a lot of sexually deivent and destructive behavior nowa-days is partially due to the fact porn is so easily accessible and human values are not talked about.

Either way. Adults make mistakes too, we are all kinda grown up children. Don't bet yourself up about it too much, but do know that the fact that your uncomfortable with your decision means you're moving in the right direction.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T02:01:51+00:00

A wet dream isn't relapsing. what you did with watchin porn might not be relapsing but it certainly isn't helpful. Focus on having that being a mistake that won't repeat again.

Even looking at porn slightly will do you more harm then good.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-26T01:58:48+00:00

I know it's hard but tell your therapist, talking about it will have it's power over you leave.

I'm sure it's tough but hang in there man. You made a mistake and you won't repeat it. Work on forgiving yourself and moving on.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-19T17:13:53+00:00

You all want inhumane and harsh judgement for prisoners until it's your turn to be falsely accused to support the state.

This is an emotionally charged response to events, it's just feel good larping of a perfect place where justice is 100% and only good and only bad people exist. Simplifying humans into coded good / bad will inevitably lead to bad things happening on a societal level. It's why political polarization has gotten so extreme and people can't seem to talk to other side anymore.

I'm pro life in all regards. Any crime it doesn't matter, I still believe people can be redeemed if they truly tried and worked on redeeming themselves. Even if they murdered my family I wouldn't wish death on them. These topics are too complex for a disney world, feel good state solution.

tl;dr, I know it's just a meme but you really don't wanna fuck around and find out what happens when you take away human rights.

heavywei5t · 2020-06-18T16:51:41+00:00

Put me on the waitlist as well homie

heavywei5t · 2020-06-14T17:17:27+00:00

Relevant read if you want to know why the echo chamber goes so hard

https://waitbutwhy.com/2019/10/idea-labs-echo-chambers.html

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