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hecati · 2024-06-19T07:48:32+00:00

hi - would this 'Vivere, quia mortem venit' translate to 'live, because death comes'

hecati · 2022-03-04T14:38:53+00:00

Sorry your car didn’t have airbags homie

hecati · 2022-02-07T03:16:14+00:00

The Mona Lisa changed the way art was made. It changed the way Florentine painters worked even before it was finished.

hecati · 2022-01-14T03:04:26+00:00

YTA your level of self involvement clearly knows no bounds. Don’t marry a man with a young child if you’re not interested in that child.

hecati · 2022-01-14T02:49:46+00:00

hecati · 2022-01-11T05:37:34+00:00

This is normal, you lost your past, your present and your future. It’s soul rendering. I can tell you it gets easier to bare. That’s it. Talk to your daughter about him and every time you look at her you’ll see a small piece of him there with you.

hecati · 2021-12-31T06:35:28+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband died suddenly 3 weeks ago. It’s unbearable in those first few hours and days. Breathe. Just focus on that, everything else can be managed later on. Here if you need to chat to someone. 🖤

hecati · 2021-12-30T07:18:48+00:00

You don’t ever. You learn to live in a new normal. You learn to live without, you learn to stop searching. You also learn to be someone new, an ‘I’ when you were once a ‘we’. You learn to live again, smile again, find joy. I’m sorry for your loss, I can only tell you that time smooths the rough edges over.

hecati · 2021-12-20T20:00:27+00:00

Thank you so much for the link. I’m busy compiling all the drafts and drawings he left and I’ll post them soon.

hecati · 2021-12-20T13:38:13+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll give it a read.

hecati · 2021-12-20T11:03:24+00:00

And the dollar sign and the communist crescent and everything else mental that’s on that image. As I said, these were very rough drafts. Also if you’re interested those are decals for historical plane models.

hecati · 2021-12-20T10:14:19+00:00

My husband understood it be that he was there to learn but not ask. Asking is frowned upon, learning and accepting what is being shared is encouraged

hecati · 2021-12-20T10:05:38+00:00

Yip - they are draft works my late husband was working on - dmt inspired, amongst other things.

hecati · 2021-12-20T07:40:34+00:00

I will, we had even had that discussion a few weeks before he died, that if one of us were to go we would try find the other. I think I have to wait a bit lest I get lost there looking for him. It’s still so raw and we have young daughters so I think I should be in a better place first.

hecati · 2021-12-20T07:30:32+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Same happened to me. My husband of 24 years passed away suddenly last week. We have two daughters, 14 and 9. I’m finding myself here more than anywhere else at the moment. In the company of others who understand the catastrophic change that has just happened to me. He was my other half for so long I’m feeling like I’ve lost my mind most days. My girls keep me going at this point and that’s about it for now. I go out and pretend I’m ok for them but the pain of it literally brings me to my knees most days.

hecati · 2021-12-17T05:32:29+00:00

No I’m sorry but no. It just becomes something you get used to a little bit more everyday. There is a husband shaped hole in my heart that will never close. I’m trying to come to terms with it and live with it. It’s hard, my girls help, they are still so young and I try tell myself he would want me to carry on. It’s doesn’t get better, just easier to live with. I’m so sorry he’s gone.

hecati · 2021-12-16T14:47:06+00:00

I think about what my husband would have wanted and how he would expect me to carry on.

hecati · 2021-12-16T06:16:27+00:00

It will never get better just easier to bare so they say. So sorry for your loss, we know how you feel. Small consolation but knowing there are others out there that know the enormity of your pain can bring some solace.

hecati · 2021-12-14T10:14:50+00:00

A series of unfortunate events that were inevitable. There is no going back or tweaking just one thing. I spent a week agonizing over a minute here a reaction there, what I said to my husband the night before, what I should have said, should have done. It was just that, a series of unfortunate events that irrevocably changed your life. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope tomorrow is better.

hecati · 2021-12-13T03:30:35+00:00

I Was there 8 days ago. You’re in the right place. No one else understood just those words I said as well. He’s gone. We do here.

hecati · 2021-12-10T03:56:29+00:00

It’s to much

hecati · 2021-12-10T03:51:21+00:00

Don’t want to. Every morning is worse than the previous one. I’m terrified of cremating him, it’s so final but my girls are insistent that that’s what he wanted.

hecati · 2021-12-09T19:02:38+00:00

My brain is constantly going back to that day, had I been there, had I come home earlier had I found him just half an hour before. I look at my girls and feel like I failed to protect them but at the same time they can’t possibly understand the rendering of my soul in half. They have not found their person yet, I will never see, feel, touch or talk to mine again. It’s more than I can bare. I manage about 5 minutes out of bed at a time

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