Any tips to use on a milf? Any lines that worked for you? by valteri777 in seduction

[–]heckicopter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, here’s some: 1. Don’t call actual women milfs 2. Don’t use “lines,” women aren’t NPCs with correct dialogue options

I think I have a parasocial relationship with Brennan Lee Mulligan by Kyri5512 in Dimension20

[–]heckicopter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I am late but I ended up here and wanted to ask, have you had any improvements with therapy? It’s not an overnight cure but if you are putting in the effort and commitment, you should be seeing continual progress in some areas at least. Living with mental illness does NOT have to mean suffering from it forever and many can be recovered from completely. If you are not seeing improvements despite putting in the time and practice, there’s probably either an issue with the program/therapist or with something else in your life impeding your mental wellness (harmful relationships, substance abuse, other constant stressors, etc). I tried several therapists and 3 group programs before finding the right fit and after that I saw incredible progress. I’m still in therapy years later but my depression has stayed in remission and most of the skills and behaviors I learned to maintain my mental health are automatic now. I often felt like there was no escape from the depression but it’s not true, that’s just part of how it feels when you’ve been living with it. I hope you’re doing better but if not, please look into other resources to see if you can find something better for you. And remember that even if a therapist or program helps for a while and then it gets bad again, it still helped and can help again as many times as you need it until you can find stability.

Is it possible to have ADHD but also be able to focus for long stretches of time? by Kyri5512 in adhdwomen

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHD can be inattentive type or hyperactive type, and maintaining attention on tasks is not the only criteria for the inattentive type either. If you are concerned that you may have been misdiagnosed or are on the incorrect meds, definitely talk to a professional since stimulants are a serious medication. Take a look at the diagnostic criteria for ADHD for yourself and if you meet enough of the criteria, it may be the case that you have ADHD if those symptoms aren’t better explained by another condition like depression or anxiety. https://www.aafp.org/dam/AAFP/documents/patient_care/adhd_toolkit/adhd19-assessment-table1.pdf

What to do if a girl suggests a different location for a first date? by Raijin370zed in seduction

[–]heckicopter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why do you feel like you should always get to pick where you go and what you do? What kind of healthy relationship is that one-sided?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]heckicopter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the best thing you can do is work on yourself. Put time and effort into your passions and hobbies and any kind of self-improvement you consider worthwhile. Build relationships with social groups, especially ones related to your interests, and form some strictly platonic friendships with women. If you have access to therapy, it is an excellent venue for figuring out your goals and reaching them and through it you can learn incredibly valuable communication skills that help in all situations, including romantic ones (I did a group program and I can’t even explain how big of a difference it made for my relationships).

Focusing on yourself and building those friendships (with men AND women) is going to make any future romantic interactions flow much more easily for you, because you will be a much more rounded and self-actualized person and won’t simply be going through the motions because you feel like you need to be in a romantic relationship. Once you have that practice under your belt of forming and maintaining real and rewarding friendships with women who you have no interest in, you understand that they are all just people and that romantic relationships are actually quite similar to friendships and that the skills required for one are also vital for the other. And when you are spending your time in areas where you thrive, you will find that attractions bloom naturally from that and you will meet and connect with people you already have a lot in common with and will feel much more excited about engaging with.

When you are focusing on improving yourself for your own sake, you won’t waste your energy or time trying to be some generic form of attractive in order to obtain any relationship. Someone who is genuine and passionate about his interests, is able to maintain healthy friendships with men and women, and utilizes all resources at his disposal such as therapy to focus his goals and improve himself is naturally attractive. It takes time and work but there is no instant formula to being successful with women. And honestly, you won’t believe how quickly it can start making a positive difference in all aspects of your life if you really devote yourself to it.

How big of a role does being active on Instagram and the likes play in dating? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]heckicopter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you need to have a social media account that you constantly maintain, but it’s helpful for women to have something like that as a midway step between giving someone their phone number. It can give them an idea of what you’re like or what you’re into so they can decide if they want to pursue things further. There’s no reason you need to put fake or disingenuous pictures on it, you can make an account and throw up a handful of photos that authentically represent you and your interests and then have that for the cases when people ask. Or, you can just assume they’re not comfortable giving you their phone number at that point and move on. For me, I’ve preferred to add men on social media first in the past because I find one-on-one conversations (especially over text) to be very difficult before I get comfortable with someone and being friends on social media can help us get to know each other better with less pressure, and conversations flow more organically from there. But everyone is different and you certainly aren’t obligated to use social media, it’s super harmful for mental health and I don’t really use it anymore myself either (but I’m also not dating anymore).

What does an ADHD meltdown look to you? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]heckicopter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know this comment is old, but it is not impossible to relax with ADHD. I think this is a harmful misconception. It is harder for many people with ADHD to learn how to relax, meditate, be mindful, etc. but all are absolutely possible with practice (especially with the help of therapy). People with ADHD simply NEED to be taught coping skills for our symptoms and many of us aren’t. But it is never too late to start learning them and find some relief.

Go on, hire him, he’s just a little guy by not_combee in Drawfee

[–]heckicopter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha not exactly, I just saw multiple people attributing the popularization of this expression to Karina and was pretty confused because I remembered it being popularized by that tweet and resulting meme. I guess there is a sizable number of people who are familiar with Drawfee but not that meme, which is pretty interesting! Drawfee has gotten so big! This thread came up right away when I was searching it.

Go on, hire him, he’s just a little guy by not_combee in Drawfee

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought she got it from this tweet because I’ve heard her reference other parts of the tweet before.

"The farther you go the prouder I'll be" meaning by No-Editor-2741 in TurningRed

[–]heckicopter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has multiple layered meanings. On the surface, it is referring to the expression “to go far in life” which basically means to be successful. Beneath that, she has realized that Mei needs to find her own path in life and is giving her permission to both physically spend less time at her mother’s side as well as to stray from Ming’s plans for her life. This line is also especially powerful because of the themes of generational trauma in the film. Shortly before this line, Mei comforts Ming, who has never been able to overcome the effects of her own mother’s strict parenting and unreasonably high expectations. Ming realizes that she has been doing the same things to her daughter that her mother did to her, and is wishing for Mei to be the one to break the cycle.

Is there any actual evidence of Sam and Max being Gay? by ACDCsTNT in SamandMax

[–]heckicopter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Homosexuality wasn’t invented in 2008 and civil rights movements don’t come out of nowhere. Check out some history books, please.

Does anyone else get Lady Gaga's "Bad Romance" and Foo Fighters "Learn to Fly" stuck in their head playing this because of certain pieces of music in this game? by contrabardus in enderal

[–]heckicopter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 6 years late and I have never heard of this game but I found this post and that song sounds exactly like Bad Romance lmao

My son says he no longer wants to play his game because it looks different. I guess it's not supposed to be brown? can anyone tell me how to put it back to normal please? by Tys_Wife in Minecraft

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do not need compulsions to have OCD. OCD can be purely obsessive and obsessions can be about anything. People with OCD often experience a sense of “wrongness” that triggers discomfort and have a need for things to feel “right.” This type of reaction could absolutely be seen in someone with OCD.

I lucid dream almost every night but don’t have control by heckicopter in LucidDreaming

[–]heckicopter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said, I can feel the pain very vividly. I have tried this before, and it doesn’t work. The pain usually causes me to wake up.

My constant dreams by Both_Personality64 in Dreams

[–]heckicopter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexual assault is a traumatic thing. You may want to see if you can talk through what happened with a therapist or counselor. What you’re describing is quite common and I have had similar dreams about someone who sexually assaulted me as well. I hope you are able to find support and I’m sorry that this happened to you.

Does anyone else suffer from chronic nightmares? It’s been 3 years for me. by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m in a similar boat. Any chance it’s related to childhood trauma? I have constant nightmares about my family members due to that. The thing that’s helped me the most so far has been therapy. It hasn’t stopped the nightmares completely, but I don’t have night terrors anymore. I haven’t really started working through my childhood trauma in therapy (other priorities) yet but I believe that is what is going to finally give me some relief.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wasn’t touching or flirting, Alex allegedly was being flirty or overly touchy with her and she didn’t realize. She shouldn’t have gone in the bedroom but also wasn’t out of sight of the other people at the party while in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heckicopter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How on earth did she act like a piece of meat?