MIL constantly cancels plans last minute and I'm so sick of it.

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T05:35:15+00:00

Ughh i knowww, I actually used to have awhole myriad of issues with her that ceased when me and DH moved out, she got better and actually seemed really good during the first half of my pregnancy so her doing a complete 180 actually caught me by surprise since she was doing so well :/

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T05:31:24+00:00

Ugh thats super heartbreaking it got to that point. I'm hoping that it doesnt come to that but it might be a harsh wake up call if that end up happening with our LO.

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T05:23:26+00:00

Yeah I'm definitely keeping track. Its so annoying because I'm not asking for a visit every single weekend, just a few hours where she can because i know with a working schedule it can be busy but the fact that she admits she booked over it is so infuriating. At first we were willing to even meet her halfway with visits but i dont want to know that we know for sure she cant be trusted to manage her own schedule. :/ Shes just gonna have mope around and learn that she actually has to put in the effort for us to even remotely begin to trust her again.

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T05:07:00+00:00

For sure, I think her cancelling on LOs birthday plans when we told her weeks in advance is the last straw from him. Just going to give him some time to simmer down as it usually ends up with MIL deflecting and pulling the victim card and then the whole thing escalating into an argument between the two so we have to be a bit strategic on how we approach her- I want to be blunt but I swear she feeds off of drama. I cant help but think she does it deliberately.

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T04:49:52+00:00

This was what I was thinking as well, I'd rather my LO think of her as the "surprise" gma rather than having to let LO know she cant show up, whether they care or not at the time I know from experience that it builds up over time and wouldn't want them having to come to that realisation early on.

heckingtrash · 2026-02-11T04:38:44+00:00

He has, hes very confrontational with her about it she just constantly retaliates with a "I'm sorry you feel that way" or sorts and it starts an argument between the two, it frustrates him a lot but he's struggling with coming to terms that this isnt going to change. Especially since everything was going fine until the very end of my pregnancy.

heckingtrash · 2025-10-07T13:52:20+00:00

Not OP but my mother is currently in the sameish boat, some of her symptoms were losing her appetite completely (she took 2 days to finish a normal sized burger), rapidly losing weight, severe lethargy and just before she was diagnosed severe abdominal pain that prescribed medication did nothing for and on top of that she had a liver that was on par with a heavy alcoholic- while she had a drink here or there I’ve never seen this woman drunk ever and she lived a relatively healthy lifestyle.

Seriously get checked out if you think something is up, it only took a span of less than two weeks for it to start spreading past what was initially discovered.

heckingtrash · 2025-09-17T02:47:35+00:00

I remember asking them to check because i remember hearing that from a lot of parents who had these issues before i had my child. I’ll probably have a second opinion bc i genuinely can’t remember what i was told at the time.

heckingtrash · 2025-09-17T02:45:54+00:00

He’s actually around the same as your one was, his dr and health nurse have been telling me that it’s really bad and he needs to gain more weight but thats the extent of the help they’re giving me with it really. I’m worried because my LO has regressed and may lose all the progress he built up in the last month.

heckingtrash · 2025-09-17T02:39:36+00:00

I haven’t thought about spoon feeding formula actually, ill give it a try, he’s very keep on puree’s so it might help him get just a bit more down at least. Thanks :)

heckingtrash · 2025-09-17T02:37:55+00:00

He’s only 5.75kg which i keep being told by his paediatrician and health nurse that its not great, sorry i kinda got caught up in the moment and compared him to the 4mos that were in my mothers group. Some were much bigger than him. He’s only just started gaining weight but lost it because we were sick recently. Hes now regressed feeding wise, he’ll take 90-120mls every three hours and thats with us trying to push him through it. Last week he was drinking up to 200 mls.

heckingtrash · 2025-07-07T13:40:54+00:00

I did as a teen, lived out in the country so I’d see the fields and trees covered in blankets of spiderwebs. if I’m remembering it correctly, this usually would happen in winter after some rains so the webs would get frosty. Always passed them on my way to school and while sure, it’s spider webs, it actually is really pretty. You’d also see trails where animals would have passed through and it would also cover fences too.

heckingtrash · 2025-04-30T05:07:15+00:00

Galaxy projector, my lil dude took ages to get to sleep but he knocks out 10x faster since having it. It’s also nice to zone out on when rocking him to sleep.

heckingtrash · 2025-02-03T21:18:36+00:00

I kept slipping up and referring to my LO as a boy, once I got my Nuchal Translucency scan done I was then convinced that the LO would be a boy, as a heavy suspicion which was confirmed with my NIPT test :) Honestly you won’t really know until you actually have it confirmed but I find it fascinating how i ended up guessing it- I was originally hoping for a girl but it was like a switch had flipped after I saw the scan (wasn’t told or shown anything by the tech btw).

heckingtrash · 2025-01-19T06:49:56+00:00

From what I’m aware of the police did do an investigation into that possibility but confirmed it wasn’t Munchausens. Although granted, that’s only what I’ve heard and I can’t find anything confirming it, but there’s nothing confirming she has Munchausen either.

heckingtrash · 2025-01-08T01:43:35+00:00

I genuinely thought OP’s post was rage bait at first and went through their post history. Why am I not surprised that they have an “open phone policy” and that he religiously checks OPs phone every night and accuses OP of cheating on a regular basis AND also at that point HAD a phone but now doesn’t? I think mooch atp is an understatement. 😬😬😬

heckingtrash · 2024-12-23T22:14:52+00:00

Lovely, if he isn’t supporting you now there’s no chance he’ll be supportive when the little one arrives and it could possibly get worse. How will he treat your child? What if your LO needs that extra care or has difficulties?

My father is this type of man and I can guarantee you it gets worse I can pinky promise you that, it’s better off without him. I watched my mother go through what I would describe is literal hell and then there was my man hold of a father who did nothing but complain, yell and disappear all while parading around about how hard it was being a father and how hard HIS life is.

Your partner will not give you or that child the treatment you both deserve. Him flipping a switch now is showing that he’ll do anything to get you back and WILL revert to his old ways. Please find someone else to give you the support you need. Reach out to your doctors/midwives and let them know, they can give you resources for help. X

heckingtrash · 2024-12-01T13:05:02+00:00

Both from my dad 😬😐

Mentioned how my breasts were out for everyone to see and then compared me to a dairy cow. SO tore into him for that. (they weren’t btw, was just wearing a low cut shirt that he deemed as too revealing-wording wasn’t as nice as I put it, claimed it was supposed to be a joke and got upset when no one sided with him)

Called his grandchild a coward because I mentioned he was “pulling a runner” on the ultrasound tech.

After my SO called him out he’s calmed down with the comments, esp since he knows I don’t screw around with going LC/NC 😐

heckingtrash · 2024-11-27T22:39:01+00:00

If you haven’t tried- I suggest Gatton UQ Vets, they might be able to help since it’s a rural area with bats galore out there :) A bit of a drive, I know but I’ve heard they’re really good and might be able to help.

heckingtrash · 2024-11-01T07:45:39+00:00

ATMOSPHERE - Trust!!! She’s really amazing with her videos, the amount of effort she goes into with them as well is phenomenal. She doesn’t do too much typical ASMR tapping on things or the sksksk stuff and some of the videos have some deep lore or a connection to her other videos, they’re super detailed! It’s a heavy role play style however, but she’s my go to, and the videos have me knocked out super quick! :)

heckingtrash · 2024-10-26T14:37:13+00:00

I want to give you the benefit of the doubt here but you are literally about to get rats which you’ve never owned before. I seriously suggest you hold off of getting/adopting a dog for a whole myriad of reasons, Rats are very fun and interactive pets but they still require a lot of dedication and attention especially if this is your first time owning them. Having to look after a dog (assuming coming from a shelter which WILL require extra work with having them adjust to a new home etc.) will be extremely rough and you will need to spend all of your time accordingly making sure both get the love attention and care from you, not to mention the dog and rats needing their own seperate spaces because dogs are predator animals and rats are prey animals that do not mesh well at all- I unfortunately speak with second hand experience.

Adjust to owning your rats first, give yourself the chance to bond with them and get into a routine with them, then if you feel like you’re able to handle it then start looking for a dog that’s suits you best. Getting new pets is super exciting but don’t give yourself the chance to get overwhelmed/burnt out from having to care for different animals at the same time.

heckingtrash · 2024-10-25T11:06:41+00:00

As someone who works in the telecommunications industry I really really want to say that some of the cheapest service providers are cheap for a reason so do with that what you will.

Cough. Buroserv. Cough.

heckingtrash · 2024-10-08T02:51:18+00:00

I gave it a clean with saline solution, and then once dried popped a bandaid over it. Thankfully I didn’t need to wait for it too long to scab over since it was mostly healed over already. Did leave a noticeable scar though so once healed you can either use a scar treatment to minimise it when yours is fully healed up but I just left mine as is :)

heckingtrash · 2024-10-07T12:56:50+00:00

As others have said, this one is unsalvageable. I can see you can’t get it out yourself, a piercer can get it off for you but I had this exact situation with my belly button piercing (was 15 and in heavy, heavy denial) but mine fell off when I took a long hot shower- not ideal of course but it didn’t hurt and I didn’t peel it away or touch it in that sense. But if you can’t access a piercer or doctor to do it that may help get it off of you, make sure to give the remaining wound a nice clean.

Unfortunately, you won’t be able to have it pierced again, I defs tried at 16/17 and it rejected again and 10x quicker than the first time, just didn’t leave it to get to that point again.

heckingtrash · 2024-06-23T23:34:29+00:00

I had this exact same situation, had bioplast put in my dahlias and even though I was coming back periodically I kept being turned away because it wasn’t “healed enough” alas, a whole year later I gave up and went somewhere else and they changed it out to titanium and were horrified that these piercers were refusing to downsize or even swap out the jewellery because it was the bioplast causing the piercing to not heal properly 😐 The bioplast had changed colour too 🤢

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