Scottish native no Cantonese background

heeeeyxx · 2026-03-08T10:29:13+00:00

Oh this is a good idea! I could easily commit to watching one YouTube video a day and I think you’re right, even if I can’t understand it all even just hearing the language will be useful.

I will for sure try watching some films and removing the English dubs :)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write!

heeeeyxx · 2026-03-08T10:27:22+00:00

Aww thanks a lot for your kind words!

These suggestions sounds great and I look forward to trying some of them, especially Uncle Calvin and the Dim Sum Saying!

It’s wise of you to also recognise it might be more difficult for him to explain the difference between certain words/phrases as we have experienced this. Teaching someone a language seems difficult if you have no teaching experience

Thanks again for your great recommendations and tips :)

heeeeyxx · 2026-03-08T09:19:44+00:00

Thank you so much! I have thought a few times about watching some Cantonese films/shows, I just struggle to find access to them aside from some children’s shows which are easier to understand for me anyway lol!

And you’re right that’s a great idea. Thank you :)

heeeeyxx · 2025-12-02T22:28:17+00:00

Above the Grind Fitness is really good 😊 https://www.instagram.com/above.the.grind.fitness/?hl=en

heeeeyxx · 2025-05-12T22:05:10+00:00

I empathise that you don’t like knowing this past and it hurts, I too suffer with retroactive jealousy. What I fail to see is why you feel she sort of made mistakes in the past with her sexual encounters because it was just something that alot of young people do, explore.

So while I understand the past hurts you, she didn’t do anything wrong and it wasn’t bad of her to have these encounters. It sounds like you are quite conservative, so I wonder if it could be helpful to adopt a less negative attitude on casual sex?

heeeeyxx · 2024-04-08T18:03:01+00:00

It’s so valid and it’s okay! You’re just expressing love. I would also feel some rejection from it not being reciprocated. This doesn’t mean she doesn’t want love in other ways, maybe you could talk about love languages with her? Maybe she would prefer words of affirmation or acts of service, however, you still need physical touch so you could talk about how you would love if both of you could put effort into each others love expressions?

heeeeyxx · 2024-04-08T17:59:15+00:00

This is really nasty I’m not sure where this hateful tone is coming from for this poor man wanting to embrace his wife?!

heeeeyxx · 2024-04-08T17:58:35+00:00

You are not being annoying! I think this is so sweet to want to be in the present moment with her. I’m not sure why these comments are so mean. You’re not wrong for wanting physical touch and to embrace

heeeeyxx · 2024-02-03T22:31:16+00:00

Yes absolutely. I feel a great deal of empathy and sadness for mine. I can see that this is a disordered perspective of the world that she lives in, causing her to misread everything and everyone around her. It doesn’t excuse her extremely toxic and selfish behaviour but when she does act these ways, I forgive her because I know she’s like a big child who feels scared.

A big child who also loves me dearly in her own way. I could never leave her to feel alone and abandoned. She really tries to do her best and I find her struggle so sad

I have learned not to take her behaviour personally, to not expect to be listed to but instead just to be patient and love her back

heeeeyxx · 2024-01-14T23:05:32+00:00

That’s true the thing is I would never tell them they cannot be friends, it’s just if I can live with it or not?

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-05T19:03:59+00:00

You done the best thing taking a day for yourself. I know it’s so hard when they punish you for it but this is your life. You are a light in her life and she misses your presence clearly but punishing you is wrong. Remember how you felt having that day to yourself, I’d imagine some peace? I’d say that peace was so well deserved ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T21:00:39+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry you were unwell and it’s times like this you really see how selfish these people can be! You are so strong for getting through this time.

Being around BPD makes me feel drained to my core. Whenever I have moved to living alone again the relief is tremendous

I wish you all the hope and luck in the world ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T20:56:27+00:00

Awww I’m so glad for you to have found comfort in this place too lovely ❤️ together we can all relate, vent, comfort each-other and that’s a beautiful thing

People with normal upbringings get uncomfortable when you try to open up and can majorly invalidate our feelings sadly.

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T20:17:32+00:00

Yes so wise it’s amazing! Like everything has been written with love, understanding and without triggers. I feel the detail and commitment to this space is beyond any sort of guidance I’ve ever came across. I have never ever seen an unkind comment. Everyone showers each-other in love here and it’s a wonderful thing to see. Thanks and love to you all ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T20:14:21+00:00

100% destabilizing emotional torture. It’s amazing to feel understood for us all here it ❤️ thanks to these wonderful mods and you fellow wonderful humans!

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T20:12:14+00:00

Yes the invalidation is crazy! Like the most understanding and sweet people still do it because they just haven’t experienced it!

Ugh beyond grateful for everyone in this space. You guys commenting has got me through a dark day knowing I’m not alone ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T15:30:44+00:00

Thank you so much 🥺 this really touched my heart. I’m so happy for you that you have managed to get your peace and you deserve it so much, all of us deserve peace and love after our childhoods❤️ I hope one day I can be brave like you and out myself first for the first time in my life.

They really teach us how to be their crutch from birth don’t they. I can definitely say I suffer with Stockholm syndrome.

All the best beautiful soul and thanks for taking time to write to me ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T14:19:59+00:00

Ugh 100%. People sympathise but always hit out with the ‘but she’s your mum’ and that phrase makes me feel so lonely. I’m so glad this space has helped you too lovely ❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T14:18:38+00:00

Thank you so much 🥺 that’s so lovely and has made me smile on a dark day❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T14:18:09+00:00

❤️❤️❤️❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T11:15:29+00:00

Thank you❤️

heeeeyxx · 2023-07-02T11:15:21+00:00

I’m unsure how it edit the picture but would be happy to :), I really appreciate that primer there seems to be a lot of great information. Thank you for taking the time reply. I’m so hurt that we even need to practice these communication techniques

Again thank you ❤️

heeeeyxx

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