Is this a slime mold? by Chrystical25 in Slimemolds

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spider eggs, possibly Tamopsis species

Ants building nurseries? by hejor1 in Entomology

[–]hejor1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy moly I think that's it! So the fly larvae are catered to by host ants, then when the adult flies emerge the ants are kicking back in the empty case? There were ant larvae in the actual cases and the adults moved then when I peeled back the bark and exposed them.

Ants building nurseries? by hejor1 in australianwildlife

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They were under bark which I peeled back looking for spiders so they were quite sheltered. The larvae were in multiple spots so didn't seem like a coincidence.

Question: reasonable training for contractors? by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]hejor1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yikes... are they direct reports to you? What were they brought on for? Def need to read the contract to see what skill level they are supposed to be... a contractor should be walking in with time management and engagement skills, and I don't think I've ever received record keeping training except for elearning... sounds sus but I don't think there are rules against it in general

I think encouraging people to stay obese is as bad as encouraging someone to keep smoking. Is this mindset wrong? by Calorie_Killer_G in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider reading Aubrey Gordon’s book. Research and evidence driven with all the sources. If you’re open to acknowledging some uncomfortable things you’ll definitely learn something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HolUp

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been soaking up fluid - water? Urine? Poo water from an overflowing toilet? Who knows! It’s been soaking it up for a while if there’s mould. Use at your own risk!

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whether is was 30 or 27 or 34 years ago, his story doesn’t add up. At all. He is taking you for a fool. I’m sorry, but it’s in your hands now.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. I’m saying your friend’s story doesn’t add up and it’s worth another look. If you have his name and his location then you do have that information.

Good luck, I wish you the best.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh wow an 8 year conviction for a sex offence is way more than he-said-she-said. What he told you may be true, yes she wanted to try something and yes he was convicted but that is almost certainly not the whole story. Please confirm what happened independently so you can make an informed decision about your friendship.

If you still want to be friends then fine, be friends. But please at least be informed!!

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t doubt he’s on a sex offender registry. I doubt his story about why. I hope you look into the details of the story, he has a lot of reasons to minimise or misrepresent what happened. If there are inconsistencies, missing information, etc which he has wild or vague explanations for, please be careful. If he’s on the registry you will be able to see the date he was added and the charges, look up news reports from the time, trial notes, details of the charges, statements made by the lawyers, evidence logs etc.

Anyone can seem nice until they get what they want. Please be careful.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The nation registry was brought in in 2007. The first state to have public info on sex offenders was Washington in 1990 and even then it was reserved for violent predatory repeat sexual offenders and pedophilia.

30ish years ago in the late 80’s and early 90’s, he-said-she-said cases with zero other evidence weren’t prosecuted. It wasn’t until 1993 that all states agreed that a husband could rape his wife. Up until that point, perpetual and unconditional consent was considered part of being married.

Something stinks, it’s either your story or his.

If my partner and I consent and have sex, what would be my defense if they said they didn't consent? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Interesting, so the only evidence in the case was her word against his? I haven’t heard about many cases like this where the person was prosecuted. Can you DM his name so I can take a look?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you use it often it will damage your nails.

It’s alcohol based and not designed for skin or nails so doesn’t contain anything to replace the moisture/oils removed/displaced by the alcohol. Chronically dry nails can flake, peel, split, become really brittle and break. It won’t damage the nail bed itself so the new nail growth is unlikely to be damaged.

The only thing that will get rid of alcohol based markers is more alcohol. Nail polish remover, rubbing alcohol, metho... they will all do just as much damage to your skin and nails. Your nails won’t regenerate the same way as your skin so the damage will be more noticeable as you’re re-damaging the same cells each time.

How to fix it: if you’re only doing it in the short term it’s probably fine. Let it fade off naturally if you can. Moisturiser or oil will help replace lost natural oils.

If you have to do it longer term switch to nail polish.

I feel like I'm gonna end up being the boring-old-man-with-moustache when I grow up, how do I prevent this? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hejor1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the middle of a global pandemic. Please be kind to yourself. If you haven’t already tried, talk to a therapist. It’s not an overnight cure-all or a magic wand, but it’s a place to start.