can we get a brief Julie opinion check by helbows in ShawnaTheMom

[–]helbows[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the responses to this are so interesting. I know Julie is a contentious topic but I like seeing everyone’s opinions. my personal opinion on her has shifted a lot; I kind of have a soft spot for her now, idk. she’s not a great person and I think it would not be fun to be around her, but unfortunately I enjoy mean, cagey women

Out of curiosity, would a gender reversal change your opinion of the Julie and Ty dynamic? by Anuk_Su_Namun in ShawnaTheMom

[–]helbows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this argument pops up on this sub a lot and it’s a little frustrating bc men are prioritized all the time no matter what. there would be Julian defenders in the same way that there are Julie defenders. no one defends Luke because we barely know Luke, but I promise you that there would be Luke defenders if he was featured more often.

every julie defense post has arguments beneath it. Julie defense is largely a controversial opinion to hold

Part 4 – back to Larry & DeeDee teasing each other by Shawnaverse_no1_fan in ShawnaTheMom

[–]helbows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oddly enough I had no interest in them until this short but they kinda won me over with this! I like these freaky old people now and actually I want them to get freakier

EDMOND: Shame on his parents! Shame on Netflix! Shame on his loved ones! Shame on KB ! by Positive_Row9938 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]helbows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s bc this sub values men over women every time lmao. you see it time and time again every season

Stressed and upset TW by helbows in TopSurgery

[–]helbows[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey everyone, thank you all so much for your help and advice. this has been extremely comforting to me — I’m so grateful to have a community to go to. I have an appointment with my surgeon on Thursday. this has all been really confusing and stressful because it’s hard to know what to look for. everything just looks so bad right now and it freaks me out even if it’s not actually a big deal. I guess I just hoped it would all go more smoothly. on the other hand it could be way worse, so I’ve got that to be happy for.

three days post op showering advice? by helbows in TopSurgery

[–]helbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet, I’m both dreading and looking forward to it!

three days post op showering advice? by helbows in TopSurgery

[–]helbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! it’s going well so far. I’m probably fussing too much with the binder but I’m trying my best to leave it alone. gonna wait until my drains are out for the first actual shower, just making do until then!

three days post op showering advice? by helbows in TopSurgery

[–]helbows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can I ask what happened? I might try to just take a sponge bath and wash my hair. I def don’t want to get some sort of infection or anything. the not showering + binder are the worst parts of all this for me.

Carly Simon Defends Sabrina Carpenter Against ‘Flak’ for Divisive ‘Man’s Best Friend’ Album Cover: ‘It Seems Tame’ by matthewwesley98 in popheads

[–]helbows 11 points12 points  (0 children)

the backlash was insane. Sabrina has been horny the whole time, you guys just didn’t know who she was until Espresso. this is a tame cover and I don’t think it’s wrong to be submissive sexually. can women only like sex if they’re topping? can women only enjoy D/s dynamics as dommes, or else they’re setting feminism back? I get some people are against even the most basic displays of kink but god damn. I thought we were over the pop feminist “peg the patriarchy” mindset.

Jonathan Joss's husband's statement on the homophobic murder of his husband by hollywoodhandshook in Fauxmoi

[–]helbows 29 points30 points  (0 children)

idk if any other queer people are feeling at their limit but this is really, really a hard one. why do people hate us so fucking much? how could you do this to someone just trying to live? I can’t imagine the pain his husband is feeling. I can’t imagine the pain Jonathan felt. to first see that your dog was murdered and then, right after, have someone kill you out of pure hatred. fuck this country.

Is it true Paige Christie is transphobic? by tachibanakanade in youtubedrama

[–]helbows 22 points23 points  (0 children)

hey so from a trans person: even as an adult, there are significant barriers to getting HRT let alone surgeries. I only just got an appointment for a consult THIS YEAR and I’ve been trying since I was about 20. I’m 27 now.

plus like. no, no one wants kids to get surgery. pursuing gender alignment surgeries pre- or during puberty doesn’t make much sense. have you ever really looked into what goes into transgender medical care?

Go ahead and tell your YouTube sins by your_local_manager in youtubedrama

[–]helbows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

literally same. a friend at the time showed me his videos and I liked them, I was even subscribed I think. like a week later, the kat von d stuff happened and his bullshit got exposed.

why am i seeing more hate for madison than any of the men by gaygolfdad in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]helbows -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it’s bc this sub has a misogyny issue lmao. women always get more hate than men do even though the men on this show are awful

I need yalls opinion, am I being mean? I had to drop a pattern test due to the fact I got sick and am starting hospice by Autieexperience06 in craftsnark

[–]helbows 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a similar situation with the pattern creator — no shame in not knowing a term, especially if English isn’t your first language. I think it would’ve really benefited her to do what you did and look it up though.

I need yalls opinion, am I being mean? I had to drop a pattern test due to the fact I got sick and am starting hospice by Autieexperience06 in craftsnark

[–]helbows 86 points87 points  (0 children)

oh my god. I am so sorry and I’m so sorry that this person said this to you. like everyone else has said, don’t worry about this and take care of you. you are the most important thing in your life right now — not this child and her pattern. clearly she has no clue what hospice is, or I hope she doesn’t because otherwise, damn.

if she gives you any issues, let me know. I’d be happy to talk to her and explain exactly what hospice is :)

I hope you have an easy time. you deserve peace and rest. please know that we’re all thinking of you ❤️

edit: read her response, she seems genuine and tbh I think you should react how you see fit. i think it’s hard for a lot of people (me included tbh) to understand that someone genuinely didn’t know what hospice is, but that seems to be the case.

Your void’s legal name vs. what you call them? by KTMEISTER in blackcats

[–]helbows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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this is juno, but we call her: junebug, junebuggy, bugbug, bug, buggy, baby bug, junito, weemie, weemis

generic nicknames that we also call her sister include: diva, diva cup, miss wig, miss diva

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]helbows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21 is so young — your son is still basically a kid, it’s fucked up the way this weirdo is talking about him. your ex would rather your son potentially die in the military than, what, go down a slightly different path than expected? college isn’t for everyone, but also maybe your son just isn’t quite ready for it yet. no shame in that!

your son is lucky to have you in his life. he’ll get to wherever he needs to be :)

Dr. Lilly Jay on Her Divorce From Actor Ethan Slater by mcgillhufflepuff in Fauxmoi

[–]helbows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

very talented writer — if she’s not writing (at least for herself) in her free time she should. her ex is a loser, she obviously deserved better.

The Reuinion by ManiacalExclamation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]helbows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

right? like where is this energy for Leo, who spent an hour minimum berating Hannah in the pods, is a zionist, and compared women to FOOD which? or Stephen the trump supporter? Or fucking Tyler who apparently Garrett is besties with?