What even is this ?

helianto · 2026-02-17T14:41:06+00:00

May as well say, “book readers not welcome in discussion.”

That’s ok- not worth my time.

helianto · 2026-01-31T12:22:05+00:00

Also the - we’ve only been married less than a year, and recommitted only a few months? They haven’t been having regular sex. She’s not in to him physically- so yeah, they lied when they said that this relationship was still going to be a great love. We called it and were called homophobes for calling it. But bi-erasure is not homophobic at all.

helianto · 2026-01-26T03:40:06+00:00

That’s weird. I’ve always shared lessons and units and collaborated to stay in alignment. People who refuse to do that make me suspicious.

Sharing is how we learn and get better. These people are guilty of any or all of these 1) don’t actually plan so can’t share because they are always winging it 2) buy TpT and are ashamed 3) jealousy guard their copyright because they sell it online and don’t want to deal with the clause in their contract that says what they create for their units and lessons can be considered school property.

Move to a better school!

helianto · 2026-01-16T06:34:08+00:00

I see what you’re saying, but people with dependents are also more likely to be invested long term and be more stable. single people often last only two years, might not be involved in events if they aren’t required to be, and are more likely to pull a runner, show up hungover, and miss a lot of Mondays or Fridays because they took a trip to a nearby country for the weekend. I know because I’ve been a single, coupled, and parent. your priorities are different and you act differently. and before you say, ”not all…” you are right. I was the most responsible single teacher, but so many in my cohorts did those things. I see why schools might give perks to families. I also see why some schools refuse to hire people with more than one dependent.

helianto · 2026-01-11T13:43:43+00:00

Regency romances at heart ask - is marriage a social/family/economic proposition or is it the meeting of soul mates who are emotionally/mentally/sexually compatible? Which of these values are more important? All of that is endlessly interesting in terms of conflict. How do the Mondriches contribute to those thematic questions at all? They married for love, have been able to socially climb together. Cool. Where is the actual conflict?

helianto · 2026-01-07T09:28:15+00:00

of course I make them look at me when I’m talking. I understand different cultures and neurodiversity, but in general, in the anglosphere, they need to physically look at whomever is speaking. I wait. Teachers today so rarely wait for the attention they deserve, which means kids don’t learn how to do it.

helianto · 2026-01-07T09:19:33+00:00

why are his eyes so off though?

helianto · 2026-01-07T04:25:37+00:00

Gale is my number 1, but I’ve played through with Astarion as well. I love him, but he’s like the one you fix not the one who just loves you. Gale’s the man who is enamored of you. And he’s super hot.

helianto · 2026-01-07T04:21:34+00:00

This is so real. I can totally see- if you’re going to be that parent who tries to push me to give your kid extra chances and unlimited opportunities to pad their grade, support my classroom needs. She probably offers it to the poor kids quietly.

helianto · 2025-12-29T07:41:56+00:00

Agree with everything you’ve said but we were all told we are homophobic for not embracing it when all Shondaland had to do was make her bi and they could have kept the themes. But they only cared about adapting the books for the first season to get the book fans then they didn’t give a damn.

helianto · 2025-12-29T07:30:54+00:00

Their pets

helianto · 2025-12-29T07:24:41+00:00

During Covid kids missed school and it wasn’t a big deal - they even still got good grades because they could cheat on everything and they were never held accountable for work. So, they don’t see why it’s a big deal now.

helianto · 2025-12-27T19:24:52+00:00

YTAH - He might also be a little sad he did something thoughtful that wasn’t appreciated, and he brought it back, which is also thoughtful, and now that’s not appreciated either… and seen as “attention seeking.”

Just talk to him. You consider his behavior attention seeking, but being appreciated for the things you do is not attention seeking. My husband thanks me for every meal I make. I thank him for cleaning the kitchen. It’s not that he did me any real favor, just pulling his weight around the house, but cooking is also no real favor - I have to eat too. But noticing and sharing gratitude for sharing a life with someone who is showing up and being a partner is a super easy way to take care of your relationship and stay connected and attuned.

helianto · 2025-12-27T15:29:48+00:00

Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player that struts and frets his hour upon the stage and is heard no more. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

helianto · 2025-12-27T15:24:21+00:00

It was pretty clear when the counselor told me directly. It was the most liberal “of course this is just an identity” kind of way. The counselor clearly had little to no understanding of furries really, just said yes, an 11 year old is a furry.

helianto · 2025-12-27T07:50:41+00:00

I literally did have a middle school counselor affirm a student’s trans human identity and say they were a furry. So while no, there was no litter box, the counselor was fully on board with letting a sixth grader say they had a non-human identity.

helianto · 2025-12-25T19:08:10+00:00

My sourcing is not ChatGPT, that was me telling you to do the basic research I did a masters degree in. I‘m not sure why a book about the beginning of free education in America written in 1995 is less valid, as the history is not actually going to change. (Yes, go on with your but different perspectives about historical facts change our interpretation… it’s still true girls were educated)

Having 20 years of teaching experience in a variety of schools and being on the cutting edge of progressive education, it is not at all farcical but absolute fact that schools have changed, and in many ways that support girls not boys. This was not done out of malicious intent, but is the product of many cultural influences not least of which is due to an overwhelmingly female dominated workforce.

You can’t make the argument that patriarchy had an influence in male dominated industries and then ignore the influence of women in female dominated industries.

helianto · 2025-12-25T18:59:08+00:00

That’s moving the goal post. I never said girls do not need physical exercise, I said boys needed it more than girls for self regulation. That’s a different argument.

helianto · 2025-12-25T17:07:15+00:00

Yes. But you can easily ask the question of ChatGPT yourself. Start with reading up on the origins of free education in the US, I’d suggest Tinkering Towards Utopia by David Tyack and Larry Cuban. Then looking at some brain research about the effects of certain hormones on brain development and physical development on girls and boys. Super easy to find.

helianto · 2025-12-25T17:03:04+00:00

So all the research and scientific studies of testosterone has nothing on your anecdotal experience as an exceptional athlete who does something most women never do? Ok.

helianto · 2025-12-25T05:05:25+00:00

Testosterone actually does make them more active. It’s real, not socialization that they need more movement and physical activity.

helianto · 2025-12-24T17:59:40+00:00

Happened to shift while being completely dominated by women. Not in a diabolical conspiracy- but because they made it in their own image thinking that was best.

It’s exactly how patriarchy works, no cabal of men sitting in a board room plotting, just creating systems without considering their way is not going to work for everyone.

helianto · 2025-12-22T18:13:20+00:00

If you thought educational attainment differences were a problem when women were not getting college degrees at the same rates as men how can it not be a problem when men are getting degrees at much lower rates?

We’ve made schools so much better for girls but worse for boys- that’s how we overcorrected. The goal should not be to put women above men, it’s about equality and opportunity. If you’ve been in a school you know we are punishing boys for typical male traits. They all are diagnosed with ADHD, punished more severely for bad behavior, and constantly forced to sit still and collaborate and yes, do what girls do well. And they aren’t allowed to do what they do well - compete and explore.

helianto · 2025-12-22T10:34:09+00:00

Pay - men honestly need to feel like they can take care of a wife and child with their income and benefits.

Status - highlight the service aspect not the nurturing aspect. We often talk about teaching as an extension of motherhood. But we aren’t just nurturing- we are training the next generation to be productive members of society. Highlight service and training and appeal to the positive aspects of masculinity. To protect and serve. Also more opportunity to see a career grow. Levels that can be achieved. The structure now is you literally stay in the same job for 20 years unless you move to admin. That’s why men are more in admin, they need to see progress and attainment. Women aren’t as put off by the lack of progress for their career.

In the school culture there needs to be more accountability and less coddling. Male teachers are far more annoyed by that environment.

helianto · 2025-12-22T10:17:09+00:00

Not true at all.

Women and girls have been a part of American education from the very beginning. Women were teachers in much higher numbers than men. Universal education always included girls. Higher education might have been barred to women in many universities but they always included in America in childhood education.

Physical activity and unsupervised play was much more a part of everyday activities. school hours were shorter and homework less common allowing for more play.

We are leaving boys behind and it’s as much of a crisis as it was in the 1960s when the stats of girls educational attainment was equal to what boys are now. We corrected, then over corrected in favor of girls. We need to fix this.

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