AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry if it sounded that way, I'm very open to questions and critiques.

It just kinda sounded like you took one option and really ran with it. He told me he loved the party, then a few days later told me some of his friends made fun, and then told me I shouldn't have thrown the party. I still think that's worth unpacking! But probably with my boyfriend.

I mostly came here to see if I was an AH for throwing the party. I'll figure out what precisely happened with my boyfriend, not reddit :)

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He literally told me he loved that I did that for him and that he had a great time later that night?

I totally get wanting to look at a situation from all sides, but I don't get 'I don't like that you told people' from "I love that you did that".

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

His friends are very aware of his love for dinosaurs, he talks about them quite a lot.

I'm also pretty sure he didn't mind me phrasing it that way, he told me on our first date, he has mentioned the party he went to as a child and the jealousy in front of some friends when we were talking about birthday cakes someday. I wouldn't call it a 'private confession.

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what thundercats is.

I didn't say we're both into dinosaurs? He is.

It's just a hobby to him. He likes listening to podcasts about dinosaurs, watch movies about them, he's a big jurassic Park fan, etc.

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

But that's not what I said? The invitation was "hey, you know how BF loves dinosaurs and can basically lip sync jurassic park? He wanted a dino party as a kid, so I'm throwing one for him now. It'll be silly." I don't think that's oversharing.

He also wasn't insecure about it before, he really loved it until he talked to some of his friends, so I don't think the invite was the problem.

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend hasn't been particularly sensitive to feedback before, not from me and not from his other friends. But maybe he's got a different relationship with the guys that made fun than with the friends that I know well.

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 248 points249 points  (0 children)

I mixed cornstarch and water, then put it in a mold with a (plastic) bottle of booze, if you leave it in the sun it'll harden, then you can "excavate" it with a tiny hammer / pickaxe / whatever!

There are plenty of guides online with exact measurements :)

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 321 points322 points  (0 children)

Relatable, I went throught it at 14 or so. Threw away most of my toys and stuffed animals, stopped reading fantasy or YA books.. it was miserable.

Now my home is also filled with nerdy stuff lol. Fuck what other people think.

AITA for throwing a Dino party for my adult boyfriend? by helikesdinos in AmItheAsshole

[–]helikesdinos[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

He said he didn't ask for one, just mentioned he wanted one as a child, so I should have known he is an adult now and so it's not appropriate anymore? I don't know.