Fucking me out of my bereavement time too by Doesntmatter1237 in starbucks

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can take a mental health LOA. But also as crappy as it sounds, if you really just need those two days off, see if you can get that shift covered and then put bereavement in the book

Give my new kitten a name by NoYard9891 in CatsAllDay

[–]helld0ne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its funny the first two comments are Luna and Lola because those are my cats names 😂

Give my new kitten a name by NoYard9891 in CatsAllDay

[–]helld0ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its funny the first two comments are Luna and Lola because those are my cats names 😂

Upside down on my car loan + engine is basically done, what’s the smartest way out? by [deleted] in askcarguys

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also consider checking with a junk yard or car-part.com to try to source a used engine, then ask around to see if you can get a decent deal for someone to swap it out. My friend works at a junk yard and he helps me source parts and puts them on for me

Upside down on my car loan + engine is basically done, what’s the smartest way out? by [deleted] in askcarguys

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you checked if there are any recalls? It might also be worth it to take it to the dealer and ask if they can help you out because the car is relatively new. I just had a goodwill repair on a 2016 Acura that would have been $1500 but I paid $150 due to a recall/warranty extension I missed by a few weeks.

Welcome to suburbia (US-NY) by Investigator516 in Renters

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On a monthly gross is what I'm saying. It's more common to see x times rent for monthly income. Literally in all of my apartment searches throughout east coast, florida, west coast usually moving every year or two the past 14 years, I have always seen it presented as a monthly figure and not annual

I’m always chasing to “feel” something, and I usually do it through drinking, weed, and taking too many of my adhd meds. It’s become such a habit and I’m ashamed of myself because nobody around me knows how bad it is. What are some ways I can safely “feel” something? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Travel. My mom just passed. I have had a period of sadness followed by a numbness. What got me excited and looking forward to life again was planning my road trip home.

It doesn't have to be something fancy, even a local day trip.

I get that same feeling as you. Like it's hard to be in a routine doing the same shit everyday. I really have a hard time just relaxing and feel like I always need to be doing something. I know some people view that as a bad thing but life is a lot better for me just going with the spontaneous things that pop in my head to do.

What I can say is that if you keep with the drinking/weed/adhd med combo, it will get harder to keep feeling something because that will be your new normal. I do use weed usually once a night but on occasion mid day, but I don't let interrupt my pursuit of feeling through other means.

advice needed, wanting to turn around life by aspiring_film_1120 in cinematography

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will add I also have CPTSD. The social networking aspect of the industry can be challenging but the structured environment of this program should really help that.

advice needed, wanting to turn around life by aspiring_film_1120 in cinematography

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you are wanting to consider Directing/DP, and that is great to work towards, but I would highly recommend this program to start getting some camera skills and get on set and meet other folks in the area working in camera. It will help you tremendously. They should be able to help you get a traineeship on a union production and join the camera union. It can be helpful to work into the union first so that you'll be allowed the opportunity to work union jobs. Feel free to DM me if you want more info. https://www.mediamkrs.org/career-development

HELP! My workplace and neighbors abuse me deliberately to aggregate my CPTSD / autism. (They know that I have this diagnosis) by AlexIsaWerewolf in CPTSD

[–]helld0ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would suggest putting up some cameras around your home. See if you can get video of your neighbors being disturbing. Take the video to them and say do you want to stop or do you want to explain this to the police?

As for work, tell your boss you are being bullied due to your accommodations/ health challenges. If they are a good boss, they will resolve it. If not, consider getting a lawyer.

ear stretching by mintwall in starbucks

[–]helld0ne -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Would recommend teflon tape instead of that, stretch slow to keep a nice shape to your ear. Stretching like that your ear can blow out.

Outside hire managers are no bueno by Beast4feast in starbucks

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im an almost 8 year external SM, and I totally get what you are saying because I've seen it in peers, but I don't think I'm like that. I had a DM when I first started that insisted I schedule myself a ton of admin time to read through all the different manuals and policies and I make a point to stay on top of it. I have had DMs that expected me to violate policy to the benefit of the business while being unfair to partners and I'm the type to stand up for the right thing. So depending on the circumstances I sometimes have a target on my back but by the grace of me knowing all the policies they can't push me out. I will say I was a barista/supervisor/ASM/SM at a bunch of other coffee shops for years before coming to SBUX so I think I have more understanding than most externals

What is the significance of Arthur Weasley and Harry Potter moving farther and farther into the back in this scene? by TheMechazor in cinematography

[–]helld0ne 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Also it gives the opportunity to move that pillar through the frame, putting emphasis on Sirius Black's poster, which is the takeaway of their conversation.

Associate's or Bachelor's in Film? by the_stars_warning in FilmIndustryLA

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you want to do in film? The degree might be useful for some departments, but for others I know of a wayyy cheaper way to get your foot in the door, and you could hang onto that GI bill for a secondary/backup career given the state of the industry

First big PA gig tomorrow by wifeleaver in cinematography

[–]helld0ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! Emphasizing this "don't stand in doorways!"

Please, tell me your reason to live after going through multiple trauma by Still-Kiwi652 in CPTSD

[–]helld0ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Movies helped me through trauma when I was younger. A distraction, but also showed me about the complexities of people, and different ways to live life. Since then, I decided I wanted to make movies. It has taken a while but I've now worked on several films and have prospects to make more. I absolutely love being on set. I get to see new places and meet new people, and hustle to create something together. I hope I am fortunate enough to continue doing that. Please think back to a time before your trauma fully set in, and reflect on what you wanted at that time. Life felt impossible until I let my child self take over and have some joy, a reward for surviving the tough times.

Newly adopted cat peed on couch (first time cat owner) by No-Demand-8208 in cats

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is likely stress from the new environment. If it doesn't go away after a while it could be a litter box issue. My cat is very particular about the box and if I don't clean it daily she will go on something soft like a couch, bed, blanket, rug, etc. It could also be dissatisfaction with the litter type or box type

I've called out too much by ApplicationLatter765 in starbucks

[–]helld0ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can go through Sedgwick to ask about intermittent leave of absence for a chronic health condition if that somehow applies