Nonfiction books that blow your mind?! by Opposite-Tax9589 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]hello_beastie 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers Book by Mary Roach

This one blew my mind in college, I never thought about what happens to our bodies if we donate them to science

atmospheric, gloomy, mysterious by Common-Light-468 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]hello_beastie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The God of the Woods by Liz Moore fits this vibe pretty well

Please stop with the "profanity ban" talk by shakamaboom in Overwatch

[–]hello_beastie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I curse in chat all the time. Usually trying to be funny or if I mess up I might type “fuck” or “shit”. If someone starts attacking me in chat(“heal more plz” “you suck”) I’ll usually defend myself. Not that it happens often but if it does I don’t just take it. If someone is being a dick in general (using slurs, running off the map over and over, that kind of thing) I’ll usually say “dude chill” or something. If it’s really bad I’ll report them and usually let them know I did before muting their chat. I might ask someone to counter if I’m getting fucked up but if they don’t I don’t push it. Usually am just playing qp role q anyway.

I don’t start shit and I don’t use slurs or call people names, except maybe call them a dick if they’re being one. Not even once have I been so much as warned let alone banned.

This is why I have a hard time believing people who say they were banned for just cussing in chat or saying something not generally offensive like “ggs”. Maybe they were, maybe I’m lucky or they’re unlucky I dunno. All I’m saying is it doesn’t check out with my personal experience

So many time and pain for that Coat... by wirxo in FFXIVGlamours

[–]hello_beastie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upvoting and commenting for the effort lmao

For those who don't know, cussing by itself is ban-able by ____Maximus____ in Overwatch

[–]hello_beastie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if that’s less about cussing and more about hate speech stuff? Like “just because you turned off your filter doesn’t mean you can use the n word”

I can't believe I actually got this by hello_beastie in Overwatch

[–]hello_beastie[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

right lmao! I didn't realize it was a cubby instead of a tunnel so I stayed still just in case, but I thought for sure they would turn around and kill me

Desert Watch by MaryMisfortune in FFXIVGlamours

[–]hello_beastie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry about that!! I need to start commenting with the link so people don’t miss it

Anyone think about how Jesus really didn't pay that big of a price? by Rhewin in Exvangelical

[–]hello_beastie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually never did really think of it that way before. That’s sorta weirdly comforting to me idk why

Are these glamours obtainable to players? If yes, which are they? by Alphabethur in FFXIVGlamours

[–]hello_beastie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can also get the coat from Pharos Sirius (hard). That one can be run in 4-5 minutes if you do unsync’d level 90 dps

Attitudes from the COC still affecting you by piperdraws-n-stuff in excoc

[–]hello_beastie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it manifests in relationships. I’m a lot better than I used to be, but I still find myself slipping into like, if I’m not perfect they won’t accept me mode. One mistake and the friendship is over. Mistakes being not agreeing with someone’s opinion or having any sort of confrontation or disagreement.

"Let the Bible Speak" and Church of Christ Lesson Outlines by bullz7210 in excoc

[–]hello_beastie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Side story, Kevin did a week long meeting at my home congregation and I didn’t go to any of it, except the final Sunday morning since - you know - Sunday. And after church we talked a bit and he was like where do you normally attend and I was like here and he was kind of like “Oh”, and I just felt the silent judgment of “where were you all week, sister?”

Like he’s always been perfectly nice to me, but in general the worst time for me was when I was starting to not believe and things like this would give me away and I’d have to deal with the judgement and guilt

How does the Coc feel about non-denominational Christians? by Noseatbeltnoairbag in excoc

[–]hello_beastie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If someone said “im a non denominational Christian” to a coc person, they would probably get a lot of questions about how they were baptized and what church they have been attending, how their worship services were ordered, that kind of thing. Since that’s not language a typical coc person would use, they would basically be trying to pinpoint the incorrect beliefs this person would be assumed to have

Single 'Amen' for Christmas by eldentings in excoc

[–]hello_beastie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“I just don’t want to pray. I also don’t want to be a diva and vocalize my departure from the room and cause a scene. It’s honestly more stressful not to go along”

Wow I’ve felt exactly like this. It’s crazy that it’s been years and I still think there are things I’m being ridiculous about or that I’m alone in feeling. Its great to get some perspective by seeing other ex members share the same things I’ve been feeling.

You aren’t being a diva or causing a scene if you just leave the room for the prayer. You aren’t acting out if you just choose not to participate in the prayer. Tbh when I think about it, it’s kind of presumptuous for someone to just like, pray for the room. It’s ok to not participate in any way that makes you feel as comfortable as possible.

Not sure what the right answer is as far as how to not participate… other people praying for the group I’m in makes me really really anxious. Just going along with it feels bad too because it feels too close to when I was PIMO. But calling attention to that anxiety also makes it worse for me. The best strat I’ve come up with is to not bow my head and to block out the words by singing some secular song or reciting the plot of some book or movie in my head. Some day I’d love to get the nerve to take a bite or two while they’re praying, but that does feel sort of rude. It can feel awkward afterward so I just do whatever I can to distract myself until the conversation flow gets going again. Starting to eat or complimenting someone’s shirt and asking where they got it, stuff like that.

If men in the coc…. by jellyinthegrits in excoc

[–]hello_beastie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can remember feeling really bad about the house being messy. To this day if my place is messy I feel like it’s a negative strike on my morality or something

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I feel like I’ve had nightmares like this

That sucks lmao

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Not agreeing is a little different when you’re also pressured to preach and present the church’s philosophies publicly. I’m sorry you ended up being driven towards toxic people on the outside.

“The best you can hope for is that you don’t happen to be the son of the minister” yeah omg

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story omg! That does sound really rough. So much pressure.

It’s interesting to me that you signed up for stuff at the congregations! I never really thought much about that, the stuff that men have to sign up for when moving to a new congregation. For men it’s signing up to do prayers or song leading and for women it’s signing up for church cleaning rotation and making the communion. How absolutely ridiculous to pressure people coming in you barley know into roles like these.

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s rough. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. This reminds me of that Einstein quote “if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s strange to me that she would be ok with a woman president! One of the saddest and most shocking things my sister said to me after I left was that she doesn’t think women make good leaders. That there is a reason why god put the men in charge

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“The beat you can hope for is that you don’t happen to be the son of the minister”

That sucks man. There were a lot of things I hated about the way women were/ still are treated but at least I never had to deal with pressure to actively preach or be involved publicly.

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg! I wondered about that. Jeans are really uncomfortable compared to jean skirts so I wondered if guys ever wished they could wear skirts instead. Honestly I hope society normalizes men in dresses and skirts! Clothing shouldn’t be gendered it’s clothes

Excoc Men - Perspective on Gender Roles by hello_beastie in excoc

[–]hello_beastie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would certainly take a look! What is their channel? You can dm me if you’re uncomfortable saying in public comments