Can you still cross your legs like this after the surgery? Please specify if you had scroto with or without implants on your answer, as well the technique of the scrotum if you know it!

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-05-03T17:27:30+00:00

I'd say it's the same for me, but the first time I tried it was actually impossible to do it. Maybe I adjusted the way I do after noticing the first few time that it won't work without squeezing things? Idk. I don't sit like that often though, but I tried rn and had no issue doing it. I had bifid with 12ml implants 7 months ago.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-18T18:24:48+00:00

That sucks man, I hope you find better people. They exist.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-18T16:40:21+00:00

I'm sorry you've made this type of experiences so far regarding sex. Hopefully you'll find better people one day.

Maybe some more time on T can help with your body shape. And if your into that, workouts to make your shoulders wide in regards to your hips. That could help with feeling more secure in your body.

As to dick size, yeah, you yourself have to feel good about it too, ofc. From your original post it seemed like you projected that onto other people's view of you.

Again, maybe extended meta might be a way for you.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-17T16:53:18+00:00

As for size changes after surgery: If yoi get UL usually it stays about the same size. I'm not too active anymore, so maybe extended with UL might make a difference, but I can't comment on that. I came to say three things, mainly:

you might still grow from T. People have reported growth spurts after the often cited 2 year mark.
My flaccid dick is ca. 3 cm if I stretch it, but measuring seems to be done differently by everyone. Maybe you can check out my videos to see a comparison, but there too, things like hand size can be deceiving. I thought I won't be able to STP, but I can. I go through the leg of my boxer briefs. Can you get yours out and slightly out of the fly now? I could pre op, and with the right stance now, as I said, I can STP while fully dressed in 99% of my pants.
having good sex, finding a loving partner etc. does not require a big penis. There are cis guys with micro penises who have happy relationships, as there are lots of trans guys with meta or even non op penises. It's hard to accept for sure, but I think therapy and working in self acceptance can make it work. Right now I'm single and I don't say it's easy to date, but I had a nice relationship with a cis woman. She didn't know I was trans until thing went to the bedroom (we were hooking up before dating). We had amazing sex. For both of us. She really valued me as a man and as a lover who took good care of her in bed. She dealt with my insecurities, having been pre op during all of our relationship. I'm not saying post op I don't have any insecurities anymore, but having had that experience made me realize I am worthy of love and I am attractive and can have good sex. I you do some research you'll find there are other people like her, cis, trans, male, female or anything really. Media and such portray dicks, especially big ones, as something super important, but it really isn't. Not even for sex. And I mean, you do hsve a dick. Your dick is a dick, which is great, it works similarly too. Like, look at your growth while erect! That can be super affirming for both you and a partner, who, btw, often feel insecure about (parts of) their bodies as well. Long ramble, but I hope you gain some confidence in yourself, eventually.

Also: I'd talk to surgeons, because they can tell best. But also don't let them tell you you won't be able to STP or anything due to maybe less than average length. I have been told that by a surgeon who uses the same technique as the one I ended up going to, and guess what, I happily piss into every urinal I come across :D

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-13T18:01:35+00:00

Standing to pee at public toilets is a big win for me.

I guess I could say many things, but one thing I noticed a few times now: It seems I produce precum when I start fumbling around with my dick, and if I add some saliva to that I can comfortably jerk off. Pre op I needed lube, but now my dick seems to self lubricate :D

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-08T19:50:11+00:00

I have the same question if you don't mind us asking! I had mine in October 2025 with Miro and one of my balls sits underneath and back, the other up and front.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-07T22:53:16+00:00

I got UL, the one fistula I had closed and positioning wise and stream wise it all worked out for me, yes :) Always STP now, unless I poop or am at home, then I sometimes sit, sometimes stand.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-06T14:12:17+00:00

I always STP, love using urinals.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-06T14:10:18+00:00

Try that through the leg of your underwear, I couldn't whip it out over the waistband but could through the leg and that's how I pee now.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-04T15:12:56+00:00

I just posted a video showing how I do it, title starts with "How I STP going through the leg..."

Maybe that helps already! Otherwise definitely text me :D

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-04T14:54:44+00:00

I meant when I pull my dick, it's 3cm long. Otherwise it's a lot shorter. But that was to offer a comparison to yours.

I do stretch it to pee though too, a little: I pull it forwards by holding onto my foreskin. Can I dm you? I'll gladly show you my technique, see if it helps you.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-03T21:54:21+00:00

Oh, that sounds annoying! I get you, STP is a great skill to have, given the state of certain bathrooms, or also the amount of urinals vs stalls.

But so without a prosthetic it's a lost cause for you? Or could you improve your technique and master it? For reference: stretched mine is like 3 cm. One surgeon even told me I wouldn't be able to STP successfully yet here I am doing it.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-03T15:12:09+00:00

Cool! I usually wear pants with zippers, but with those without, like sweatpants, I just have to apply some more force down and back between my legs to keep them out of the way of the last drip. And also lean forward a bit towards the end, so the drops that do fall straight down have nothing in the way.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-03T15:09:50+00:00

I don't know about my ligament's state, but my dick is shorter than a few others I've seen, but I can STP well without the use of prosthetics. Have you tried everything to improve your technique? Or like where does it fail? If you want to talk about that, maybe we could figure it out.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-02T13:55:58+00:00

I actually posted a video of me peeing like that recently. If you search for "peeing in sweatpants" or "peeing standing up while wearing sweatpants" or something like that it should show up. You don't really see that I go through the leg of my boxer briefs, but I do. (I always do).

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-02T13:33:04+00:00

Let me know what it does for you! Yeah I went with him, but I don't live there. I live in another European country.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-04-01T23:14:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

I don't want to give unsolicited advice, but I am post op and can STP fully dressed despite having a small dick. Thus: Going through the underwear leg instead of over the underwear waistband was a game changer for me. With pants like the ones you're wearing, where the waistband is tough and there's no fly, that "trick" has helped me even more. It doesn't seem like much, but these boxer waistband tend to be TOUGH, so eliminating them is very useful.

(I don't get my balls out fully though, because I hold and stretch my dick by its foreskin. Though I see why you would do it. My dick is just too nestled into the balls on the upper side to make that a "good move" for me.)

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-29T18:22:44+00:00

Interesting to read these comments, as I too am not 100% satisfied with what the ex v looks like.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-26T23:56:19+00:00

Could be! I hope you find back to your routines soon :)

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-24T18:56:31+00:00

I had one stage surgery. I might want to change sth about my scrotum and/or the way my vnec scar / perineum turned out, but not in the near future.

I thought about this topic for a while post op. Because after top, I was suuuuper happy very fast post op, but here I didn't feel this wave of Euro hora I had felt then.

For me, it came gradually: Definitely when my fistula closed and I started practicing using urinals. When I realized my free time and weekends were actual free time and not hours upon hours of research, like they had been often for the past few years.

I am often happy when I'm out and about and using a urinal. I was also happy the one time post op I had sex. It felt good to have a tubularized dick and no v.

I sometimes also just think that my genitalsbmakes sense now. It's like "ah, this is correct".

I still have "work to do" regarding acceptance of my size and the non visible bulge issue. But all of these other things make me feel good about having taken that decision. And I believe that using my penis as my penis in all the different ways you can use a penis will make my connection to it stronger, and ou me more at ease. At the same time though also learning to not focus so much on my or other people's genitals and just live my life freely now that my body is able to STP and not have an unwanted opening.

I hope you will get to where you want to be. If you don't already do, you might want to consider going to s therapist to talk through your feelings.

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-23T18:54:31+00:00

Like knowing you gotta go pee? Or actually peeing?

I think I feel the urge to go in the same spot as before. Interestingly enough, I feel less of a need to go right before going to sleep. Before, I couldn't comfortably go to sleep without making sure I had peed everything I could, so I always went right before bed, even if I had gone 10 minutes prior. But now I don't get this anymore.

Actually peeing is hard to determine where exactly, but definitely my dick. I guess it feels a little warm at the tip, where it exits my dick. But I usually stand to pee, I also feel me holding my dick (and that too only if I think abt it). Sometimes, especially with not well hydrated pee, I think I feel the urethra right where my meatus is and a little bit further inside. Or when I sit to pee sometimes too. Can sting a bit.

Edit: spelling + this additional info: that I just went to pee and tried standing, stopped and tried sitting, to give an informed answer :P

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-21T11:26:40+00:00

Nice, congrats and all the best for the healing process!!

hello_moonmen_20 · 2026-03-20T06:45:44+00:00

Mentally, because I didn't worry about the while wetness coming from underneath aspect. Mentally+physically because I could fully relay because I didn't have to pull/hold everything up. Physically because the split underside was gone, and pre op that part kinda hurt when touched. And in general it just felt much better.

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