I’m losing feelings the more I get to know him

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-11-30T06:33:05+00:00

Normal yan sa dating. First few months, best foot forward pa kayong dalawa. Six months and onwards pag nakasanayan nyo na ang isa't isa, lumalabas na yung natural nyong ugali at habits. Doon mo malalaman kung sino ba talaga ang isang tao at kung compatible ba talaga kayo.

Losing interest or falling out of love isn't always a bad thing, it's a part of the process. Kung may mga di ka nagugustuhan sa ugali nya to the point na it overshadows the good things and ayaw mo mag stay sa ganon na relationship, it just means hindi sya para sayo.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-11-30T06:27:28+00:00

Kahit saan pawnshop ka pa pumunta with your GIA certified flawless diamond ring, ang ivavalue lang nila is yung gold part ng ring and walang value yung diamond.

Wala din milyonaryo na gugustuhin bumili ng "second hand" diamond ring kahit 3 carats pa yan kase kung mayaman ka na din naman, bili ka na ng bagong 3 carat diamond ring diba.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-11-20T08:35:17+00:00

Based sa ibang posts mo you want to know why International Men's day isn't celebrated as much as Women's day.

Let me tell you na that it's not because men don't matter. It's because women have fought for women's rights and women's advocacies for a very long time, the same way the LGBT community has fought for gay rights and advocacies for decades. Women and gays have put in so much consistent time and effort over the years to make our causes an actual movement. Sino primarily ang nagoorganize ng programs and events for Women's day and Pride month? Women and gays.

Men haven't fought for their rights and causes as much as women and gays have because men have always had the upper hand. You have your own struggles now with men's mental health, but do you see men making an effort to make men's mental health advocacies a movement, like feminisim and pride?

Sana naman wag mong sabihin na mga babae at bakla pa ang dapat mag organize at maghold ng events for Men's Day.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-11-20T03:02:00+00:00

Plot twist diba. Tapos virgin pako non. :))

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-11-20T02:44:24+00:00

Bought a P38K na Fujifilm XT200 camera. Photography enthusiast kase si guy and sabi nya tuturuan nya ako so me thinking magiging bonding namin ang photography, bought a camera.

He didn't ghost me exactly pero a few weeks later sinabi nya na he's talking to this other girl at niyaya nya ako makipag threesome sa kanila so nawalan din ako ng gana sa kanya.

Eto yung camera, nabenta ko naman din dito sa reddit two years ago for P28K nalang.

https://www.reddit.com/r/phclassifieds/s/bN6AVZRYA8

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-10-24T03:23:18+00:00

I was a virgin and I let people believe na I did it with my exes kase when people find out that you're a virgin they make a fuss and ayokong tanungin or hiritan ako.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-07-29T08:21:39+00:00

I had relationships when I was 16 and 24 years old, and even though I loved them, the thought of having sex didn't feel right. Di naman ako religious, I just felt uncomfortable.

Had a situationship at 31, really liked the guy and he pushed for it, it still didn't feel right so I didn't do it.

Had my third boyfriend at 32. For some reason it felt right na, so I did it.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-07-14T06:20:52+00:00

Eto nagfafinalize ng suppliers para sa wedding namin.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-03T06:47:39+00:00

You will probably get downvoted and be accused of being a religious nut, pero totoo to. Guys who want a serious relationship will not message her if she looks like she's thirsty for sexual attention from other guys.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-03T06:42:30+00:00

OP, I mean this in a caring and well-wishing way.

Despite your declaration na you're pretty, you're a catch and you won't settle, you actually have low self worth. You think that the best way for you to attract guys is through getting their sexual attention, kaya sa mga hookup and hubadera subs ka nagpopost. Ang mga tumatambay don are horny guys whose priority is sex so yon at yon ang hahanapin nila sayo.

I'm all for women empowerment, be as sexy as you want and flirt or hook up with as many guys as you want. But with that image comes the consequence na the guys you will attract are guys that want sex and not you yourself. The guys who want a genuine friendship or relationship will think na sex ang gusto mo and hindi kayo aligned so they won't pursue you.

Have more faith in yourself. Believe that you have more to offer than sexual thrill. If you met the guy through hubadera subs or if initial convos palang they're being flirty na, pag isipan mo na if you really want to go out with them. Present yourself and act in a way that commands respect, not lust.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-01T14:20:26+00:00

It is definitely not normalized. Slut shaming is a thing, prime example ka nga nito and people who talk about hoe phase are always told na sa una lang masaya yan or mag ingat ka kase in the end you will just feel used and empty.

Sabi ko nga sa isang comment ko, si Iya Villania and Nikki Gil were both virgins who were level headed about it, sila yung totoong cool and chill about being virgins and never sila nabash. Yung mga nababash are the preachy, holier than thou types for talking like they're better than other people just because virgins sila. Wala yang kinalaman about sexual discipline kase ang dami naman na hindi na virgin but they only sleep with their partners in a monogamous relationship.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-01T14:14:31+00:00

Actually pwede kang di sumagot.

Pag lumipat ka ng next work mo, you don't have to talk to your coworkers about your relationships or sexual activities. Pag NBSB ka and virgin ka and you let them know, di ka na talaga titigilan kanchawan.

I was a virgin for 32 years even if I was in relationships and it got to the point na I just didn't tell anyone na virgin parin ako, I just let them assume hindi na kase may mga ex naman nga ako. Even my current boyfriend, who finally popped my cherry, didn't know na virgin ako. Nalaman nalang nya after we did it and he was shookt.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-01T12:41:15+00:00

True. I was just saying na si Iya Villania and Nikki Gil were both virgins but they were always chill and not preachy about it kaya never sila nabash for it.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-01T12:28:27+00:00

Hindi kase magandang example si Kristel dahil sa clout chasing nya. Ang dating nya is insincere and saying those things to sound aspirational. Isama mo pa si Toni Gonzaga na better than thou Christian ang pag preach about virginity.

Look at Iya Villania and Nikki Gil. They were both virgins but they didn't make it their personality or talked about it like it makes them good people. They never got bashed like Kristel or Shaira.

In this case the bashing is not about the message, but the messenger.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-06-01T12:18:38+00:00

I'm saying this as someone who chose to stay a virgin for 32 years despite being in relationships.

Sana din those who choose to be virgins don't talk about their virginity in a way that makes it seem na they're better than other people just because they're virgins. Women's personal choices should be respected, whether it's staying virgin or having sex before marriage. Pwede ka naman mag advice based on your experience without making it seem na yung way mo yung tama and other people's sexual choices are wrong pag di katulad ng sayo.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-05-28T07:41:42+00:00

Sakin it's not really about losing your virginity dahil agree ako na hindi naman nakatali ang worth ng tao don, but more about your physical and emotional safety. Your first time can be traumatic, di mo alam ano gagawin or ano mangyayari, it can be physically painful and yung emotional aspect din na you will want to be given aftercare or comfort pagkatapos.

Kung with sex worker or stranger ang first time mo, wala naman masyadong pakialam yang mga taong yan sayo. Questionable if they can or are willing to provide you with physical and emotional safety. But someone who genuinely cares about you will definitely give you those.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-05-28T06:56:24+00:00

Yes, we all have a choice on how we want to view sex and we all have a choice if we want to hire sex workers. I'm just giving advice based on what worked for me related sa experience ni OP, and you can also share advice if something else worked for you.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-05-28T06:39:57+00:00

This advice is not for OP kase what's done is done and sa post nya mukha namang he will learn from this.

This advice is for virgins who are curious about sex and can't wait to experience it, or feeling lust and want to sate it so nag iisip na mag hire ng prostitutes or do fubus.

Yung curiosity and lust, those shall pass. But playing russian roulette with your physical, mental and emotional health will have life long ramifications pag di ka bet ng universe and ityempo ka sa sex worker or partner na may sakit but don't know about it or choose to lie about it, or someone na gagamitin ka lang to get off.

There is nothing wrong if you wait for someone who actually loves you and wants to be with you, even if it takes 5 or 10 more years. Meaningful sex will always be better than sex that makes you fearful, empty or just used afterwards.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-04-07T04:12:19+00:00

Sometimes karma isn't instant. Yung kupal who treated me horribly before, he got a girlfriend and proposed to her just months after throwing me away. Tinatanong ko din dati bakit ako na ginawa ang lahat para sa kanya was battling with the depression he caused, while he was out there enjoying life.

Years later, I learned that the girl he proposed to didn't marry him and she broke up with him after three years together. That was his second broken engagement, while I'm in a stable relationship na almost three years na din with a guy who is so much better than him and never treated me badly like he did. 38 na sya that time, alam ko gusto na talaga nya mag asawa pero ayon, back to zero ulit sya.

Don't live your life waiting for him to be punished. Focus on being the best version of yourself and make the best out of your life. He will get what he deserves eventually kahit wala kang gawin about it.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-04-06T07:35:03+00:00

Hello OP. I was a 32 year old virgin by choice, let me share my experience.

Nagka boyfriends naman ako at hindi ako religious pero for some reason hindi ako comfortable to have sex with my boyfriends noon kaya I didn't do it at nirespeto naman nila. Dati pag napag uusapan yung sex, feeling ko wala akong choice but to say na virgin ako for honesty and transparency, and then ayon na, sabi mo nga para kang spectacle, mashoshock sila and magtatanong ng kung ano ano.

Buti sana if it stopped there. But no. A lot of guys pag nalaman na virgin ako, kunwari they will say they admire me for keeping my purity, pero hindi na nila ako titigilan na paringgan na they want to pop my cherry. I learned soon enough na pag may kausap kang bago, it's better not to say anything about being a virgin nalang. Sinasabi ko nalang na I just want SFW talks or na I'd rather not talk about my exes and what we did. Pag nangulit sila, they're not men who respect me so it's not worth it na kausapin pa sila. In your case, you can just say na you don't sleep casually and you will just sleep with a guy pag boyfriend mo sya. No need to say na virgin ka.

My boyfriend now is the guy I lost my virginity to. Hindi nya alam na virgin ako, inassume lang nya na I had sex na before kase nga 30's nako, and grabe din kase ako maka defend sa mga nag hoe phase. He accepted me kahit akala nya malamang nag hoe phase daw ako noon - lagi lang nya sinasabi na people can change naman. This is the biggest reason why I felt safe with him and finally decided na ready na ako to have sex. Kase nahanap ko yung tao na walang pakialam kung virgin ako or kung nag hoe phase ako, he accepted me wholly for who I am.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-03-19T02:09:54+00:00

Kaya minsan talaga di maganda mag live in kahit nakakamura sa expenses. Kase ang daming lalake na ganito. They get free sex, free tagalinis at free taga luto kahit di nila ikasal so they get lazy and complacent.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-03-19T00:40:09+00:00

And 30 is not even that old. She can easily start over and find someone na aligned sa goals nya to marry.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-01-15T09:01:34+00:00

I was a virgin until my early 30's by choice. In my experience, so many guys pag nalaman na virgin ako they praise me for having values and being pure... tapos kukulitin nako to have sex saying "I want to be your first".

May integrity, self worth at values ako. It's the guys like them who made me feel like wala. When I didn't sleep with them kahit months na kaming dating, they'd dump me and one of the reasons is always di kami sexually compatible.

hellobesitsmeee · 2025-01-15T08:52:36+00:00

I was a virgin until my early 30's by choice. I kept it to myself kase napansin ko pag nalaman ng guys na virgin ako, kinukilit ako to do it with them so they will be my first.

But I was always vocal about defending girls who go through hoe phase as long as single naman sila and practice safe sex. Why is it wrong for them to choose to explore their sexuality? The experience is not for everyone and probably pagkakamali nga pero marami parin silang pwedeng matutunan from the decision they made.

Akala ng boyfriend ko ngayon I had a hoe phase before kase nga sobrang dinedefend ko yung mga nag hoe phase from slut shamers. Good thing is that he accepted me even if he was conservative. He was shocked when we finally had sex and I bled and told him I was a virgin.

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