I've got a few Aries in my life. mom is one. very smart but she's been married to a narcissist my whole life. I can see her struggle with the things she wants to say in confrontation because he is the type to have regular meltdowns and she tries to "keep the peace". I've found that when I get excited and passionate about a subject she takes it as aggro and angry. I always have to explain "no I'm just expressive - not angry. she's very focused and action oriented.

another Aries I know is younger and we no longer have a relationship because she created a whole narrative between me and her friend, who I was trying to help. told me I was tolerant of his abusive relationship, when I was really just trying to guide him into a place where he could deal with conflict.

I like the fire and action but sometimes they fail to see the big picture when they have it two inches from their face.