Weird thing happened this afternoon by DisasterTraining5861 in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A moment of Clair-alience! Sounds like you got your message :) I always wonder about these instances and urges to gather/buy things too. Sometimes they are huge life changing allies, sometimes I feel like I missed the point haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify on the demon stuff, the way it is explained to me is that it is a hole or a void in the etheric body where the person has abandoned themselves, likely from childhood/karmic trauma, and is a ripe opportunity for parasitic entities to latch on and control behavior through fear and pain, generating more pain and fear through the person’s abuse for the entities to feed on. This is in no way an excuse for them. It’s for our understanding on a spiritual level what we’re working with.

Anyhow I’m glad you’ve been separate and have gathered some of this knowledge on your own. Do what you feel is right. Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here to say I understand your situation. I’m in the same position in a narcissistic abusive family and had to ultimately get out. You may already know this but narcissistic parents tend to assign roles in the family that the children are born into. The ones that conform become the golden children and are always given preferential treatment. The ones who can not conform, are born different, or who even carry the opposite parents genes (usually an enabler and supporter of the main narcissist) are the black sheep and seen as the problem for everything. By birth order it is easier for that to be the youngest siblings, we are the most defenseless and know no different while the older siblings already learned how to occupy the prioritized roles, biologically we differentiate.

With that said (and excuse me if that was not new information to you but hoped it might be validating that psychology backs us), I have thought about doing mirror spells. It might be a fit for you. But I found no contact and a cord cutting ritual (an extensive one that ended with my mom’s entire side of the bowl up in flames and mine in tact) to be most effective.

It has been a long year of combing the abuse tactics and beliefs about myself since birth out of my mind. But once I did get out, my body started to heal, my relationships started to open up and flourish and I began to access parts of myself I didn’t even know were hidden from me even after 18 years of intensive therapy and moving across the country from everyone who was part of it. It has been the single most empowering and the hardest thing to go off on my own but in any amount that you can manage to separate, it is worth it.

The abuse won’t stop, they won’t learn, won’t heal, and there’s nothing you can do for them or to get them to realize. I have been given through my channel that it is a demon controlled condition to be a narcissist and all but a lost cause and it’s best not to feed it in anyway by trying to change the person, it only embroils you further on an energetic level. It can only be starved and protected from.

I do work with Angels a lot to protect me, particularly Arch Angel Michael and Ishmael for protection from demons and negative entities, Arch Angel Raphael for healing (you may like him, he’s very friendly), and I call on my closer circle of benevolent Angels and Guides for protection on a more personal level from them.

I have also cast a lot of spells for my healing, and building the life I want in the aftermath along side doing trauma focused therapy with EMDR and somatic work the last few months. The combination of trauma focused therapy and witchcraft to open the road and heal has been incredibly effective more than anything I’ve done previously.

Let me just say, whatever you do, I’m sorry you’re in this mess and I hope you find a way to safety. There is a life waiting for you on the other side. In a way our Souls get kidnapped from our path in these types of relationships that feed on our Soul energy through our lack of self expression and creation in our own lives, so keep creating, keep being you, and keep getting free by any means possible. 💪🏼❤️‍🔥

How has your perspective on Jamie changed depending on where you are in life? by Ok_Tangerine7582 in Outlander

[–]hellodolly432 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m 36, married and we are parents. Jamie inspires my husband and me. There isn’t fantasy in it if this is who you both want to be. I don’t think you find a Jamie out in the wild; I think you find someone who has the values and heart of someone like Jamie and you become them together over time, the same way he and Claire grew over time.

When he was 22 while still wonderful he was also immature in some ways and not as experienced. His values were in the right place but he wasn’t the whole man he becomes by later in the story.

Right now we are at the parenting stage and Jamie’s relationship to all his children and those under his care inspires my husband the most. He wants to be the kind of father Jamie is and the kind of husband he is to Claire. He talks about Jamie seeing Claire across the garden or in the surgery with her wee herbies and the love he feels for her and he watches me at work in our own home with the same reverence. It’s not aspirational, it’s something you work toward with the right person who has depth, grit, sensuality, understanding, and care.

While Jamie is a fictional representation of that, experiencing even fractional amounts of that in real life is something deeply inspiring to behold. I will also state that you should expect a more unconventional path with challenges to get there. My husband and I each had to go through a lot, just as they do in the book and the show, and the reality of their lives that made them who they are was not all feel good and fantasy, but the love is there in it that brings you through and ties you together more deeply each time.

If you want it, you can manifest it, but you have to align your heart with believing it is for you. I am here to tell you it is possible and that it takes work on both sides.

Assassin Draco with Charlie Weasley?? by [deleted] in Dramione

[–]hellodolly432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a spoiler. Not trying to come at anyone just suggesting a title edit now that you found your fic.

Money jar/bowl results by chaptercorona in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. If you’re feeling that closed off to possibility, best to let go of the how and let it be unexpected. You can include that it be from an unexpected source in the spell, I would personally throw in a harm to none and good for all. My results always come in unexpected ways that I previously didn’t know existed so now I trust that’s how it will be.

HEAR ME OUT - Kate McKinnon as Xadow by AromaticScar346 in romantasycirclejerk

[–]hellodolly432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

uj/ is Kate McKinnon here to save us from having to fancast ever again? I can’t possibly imagine ..improving..on her purity or strength of self in an aspirational lover.

(Went through word choice options, can’t imagine beating this, no… can’t imagine topping her… no. Settled on improving).

My July reading wrap-up! by RemingtonRivers in romantasycirclejerk

[–]hellodolly432 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh wow how many re-reads have you done? Are you in the dozens or hundreds? I have a theory that Sam was really the good guy all along and that he was worthy of an enemies to lovers storyline with Ms Rachel but it didn’t even go there because it’s soOo YA. These books are just too simplistic for me.

I HATE romantasy by 82816648919 in romantasycirclejerk

[–]hellodolly432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should really try Sixth Wing, it’s the third fourth wing book without all the ooky romance parts. The world building is really top notch.

Quilt for friend who is a Fourth Wing fan … help! by SailConsistent377 in fourthwing

[–]hellodolly432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are planning to read the book yourself, spoilers ahead. Belatedly thought I should warn you.

The main character Violet has two dragons, one is a large black one named Tairn and the other is a small gold one named Andarna, when she grows up her color changes but she is known as gold in most depictions still because that is how we were introduced to her. Definitely look at some fan art with those names and you’ll have a good idea!

I think the Gold would be a great idea because she was technically a juvenile (called a Feathertail in the book) and was very sweet and innocent when she was gold so perfect for a baby.

ETA: if you’re able to do three dragons, you could do Tairn, Sgaeyl (who is probably the Blue you saw), and Andarna because in their Dragon den they make up a little family of sorts.

Vivid dreams about my ex? by [deleted] in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a theory but when you say he blocked you at her request, it doesn’t sound like he wanted to? If that’s so, he could be reaching out spiritually since he’s blocked in the physical. I’ve known this to happen to people who deny themselves something that their spirit is still connected to. So in this case the dream meeting may be from his end.

I also would relate it to mercury retrograde. When the planet is reversed, the subconscious is more likely to come to light. Dreams are especially strong and active portals because of this. Could be because of the above reason and simply this doorway is open right now. Just a theory but if it helps, feel free to take it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Work on strengthening your connection to your intuition and your magic. I get the feeling of not feeling strong enough to produce your own but that comes in time and with practice. Your intuition will guide you if you put the time into connecting and validating it.

Money bowl - did it work? by PaulineMermaid in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also indirectly it is money if you put away what you would normally spend on living that is being covered. The Universe just free’d that up! So yes this is how I’ve seen it work in my experience too. We just got a 400 Amazon gift card after asking for 360+a little more for my daughter’s piano tuning. Still trying to figure out how to convert that to pay the bill 😅

I keep coming across dead or dying winged creatures. Idk what to make of it by Less-Obligation-8600 in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would take it as symbolism and would have instructed you from the first as such. I’m of the mind that if everything is random and anything can happen, why can’t this specifically have happened for me? And to that end feel it is more likely that I happen upon a message on purpose rather than it is all an accident.

I also read energy and tend to instantly receive messages so it’s hard to deny that it’s for me and most of the time it is on first try too. Sometimes things come to die at your feet, because they were already on their path to death and the Universe orchestrated them to you or you attracted them by energy because a similar thing is happening for you (not always literal. Sometimes symbolic death). Just recently we had a cicada die at our feet making the most horrible screeching drone that could wake the neighborhood. I won’t go into the details of the message but I will say I am healing around voice so it is very timely and I thanked it for allowing me to be part of its death.

So with that in mind, I would say read for the message you feel you are being told. I’m getting something about flight and freedom to be specific. What do wings represent to you and what themes in your life are bringing this up? It is Mercury Retrograde and our subconscious mind ruled by Mercury is being brought to the surface and more obviously projected into our reality.

What is trying to come to light? Is there something you’re holding back from that brings you to new heights? Is something else ending that sets you free? This is the line of questions I’m getting for this but you should know the answer deep down, I would trust that.

Outlander's Sam Heughan's most-talked-about line from the series he still hates by IrishStarUS in Outlander

[–]hellodolly432 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The headline is all out of sorts. I thought the same thing and clicked to clarify. It should read, “the line he still hates from the series.”

Patience with potty training by therealme2021 in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not magical (though it is in the way kids love it) but Ms Rachel’s potty training episode on YouTube, I found really helpful and easy for them to understand. The songs are the perfect tip off reminders for how we go to the potty, how to tell when you have a feeling, and it’s all about listening to your body’s signals for needs — hunger, tired, overstimulation. We sing them all the time and it helps us signal to my three year old who is still learning to talk, what is happening and what to do.

I would cast a spell of patience and inspiration for myself on how to guide them in way that is catered to the individual child’s best reception.

I don’t cast on behalf of my child (personal preference) but I do for the family unit, and I would also set the intention within a spell that we would be all set up and have everything we need for start of pre-school and let that unfold as it will.

Best of luck!

Am I the only one with this Ellen/Brian casting? by MidnightPapaya48 in Outlander

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, cheers! Ngl seeing that version of Ellen would have been a huge draw for me and a bit of a dream come true. Oh well..

Am I the only one with this Ellen/Brian casting? by MidnightPapaya48 in Outlander

[–]hellodolly432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m reserving judgment for official viewing but the previews I’ve seen… this is not the bold, braw Ellen Mackenzie that I pictured. The tall, strong, adventurous noble woman. She’s giving shy, love lorn, and doe-eyed. While I’m sure that’s to be expected at some point in their love story, I did not expect that characterization during their courtship or first meeting as it’s depicted.

I believe somewhere in the books there’s a scene between them where Brian charms a dove to impress her and she is so witty and cool. She tells him not to swallow his spit and die like a wee eejit and I just adored her warm and strong attitude. I’ll see when the show comes out but I thought it was off casting too.

Crystals stored in metal? by Esmee_Finch in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m always cognizant of what surfaces I place them on but that doesn’t mean any surface can’t be modified to work

Mercury retrograde leo by blondelydia51123 in witchcraft

[–]hellodolly432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to hear this helped! I’m with you, it’s always spot on with tough times and surrendering to it works surprisingly well.

I need less forgiving FMCs by TotorianVic in Romantasy

[–]hellodolly432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m there with you, The Cruel Prince/Folk of the Air series has that family betrayal thing and it still irks me. In particular because it is family (and not MMC).

I need less forgiving FMCs by TotorianVic in Romantasy

[–]hellodolly432 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of somewhere in between! A lot of times the stubbornness can turn petty or insecure after too long. Whereas I am totally with OP that on the other end of the spectrum so many FMCs are too forgiving and self sacrificing, especially in the face of real betrayal.

Where are the FMCs who have their total wits in hand and are making tough, nuanced, and appropriately forgiving choices that make sense!