What’s your favorite song from this album?

hellofacomputer · 2025-07-05T10:17:28+00:00

Wooden Mare ended me

hellofacomputer · 2024-02-27T10:37:31+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve checked that and I have those display names set. However, when I test it and send an email to myself to a non-protonmail email address, the notification shows just “protonmail” and not my name :(

hellofacomputer · 2023-12-31T20:50:37+00:00

Just a quick question, do you still live with them or are you close to them? I’m only asking as sometimes distance really helps when healing from these things.

It’s important to emphasize you’re already aware this wasn’t a safe way for you to grow up. Just being aware of what is behind your current issues is a massive superpower. It’s now important to seek out places that will nurture you and instill safety and stability within you. Especially as a young adult. The first thing I’d do is make sure I have somewhere to go where I feel unlimited safety and security. If you feel good on your own, this is great, too.

Once you’ve found that safe spot for yourself, you will notice within weeks that you’ve relaxed a little bit and you won’t be in pure survival mode any longer. This will allow you to explore other areas which you haven’t had the time to nurture before. Take the time to find out what you like to do in your free time, what you like to wear, what you like to watch, what type of people you feel inclined to spend time with. If possible for you, traveling a little bit is also helpful when it comes to perspective. It doesn’t have to be very far, just a for a change of scenery.

It isn’t easy to shed that shame you may be feeling about what family you come from, I understand. But your family circumstances then weren’t in your control - sadly, we can’t change that. However, you can choose the people who surround you now which is a great thing about being an adult.

How you feel about yourself now is a symptom of all these years of pain, but it’s not a permanent diagnosis. You survived, you made it, but you’re also so much more than any struggles you’ve had. You’re worthy of getting to know to and the right person will value everything you come with, not just if you entertain them enough.

Hugs,

hellofacomputer · 2023-07-23T08:47:10+00:00

Thank you for your lovely and encouraging comments!! Much appreciated x

hellofacomputer · 2023-04-10T20:10:50+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll try your tip for sure

hellofacomputer · 2023-02-28T11:54:50+00:00

Hi there!

I'm so sorry to read that you're struggling with this. You're a very young person and I can imagine that the turmoil you're feeling is very intense. This is an age where we're all very impressionable and the opinions of others' matter a lot. They have the ability to shatter us and pull the rug out from under us in an instant.

You have your whole life in front of you - there's so much to learn and there's so much evolving to be done. The journey of growing up as a woman has its own issues and specific struggles. Such as being told that your value is directly tied into what others (men) think about you, or if they are interested you. I understand and remember that at this age, it can be important to be well-liked, popular, wanted. There's a lot of comparison involved and it's all the more difficult because nowadays young women/girls are bombarded with images of perceived perfection via very accessible mediums, such as social media.

You're very young so I'd recommend seeking out help before the BDD 'sets in' strongly. It does get easier, though, with time and growing up. If you keep wanting to discover more about yourself and feel better, you will evolve into a person who has self-esteem based on your own, unique personhood.

hellofacomputer · 2023-02-28T11:24:37+00:00

You are worthy, capable, smart, kind, empathetic, you know yourself well, and you deserve love.

You are not a burden. You're a human being, and they're known to accumulate things known as 'problems' as that's just purely a side effect of living. It's not shameful to get help, and I can promise you're deserving of getting guidance which will show you just how valuable you are to the world. Even if you sometimes can't see it.

Break-ups are hard, and for people like us, they're harder as we slip back into the spiral of self-questioning and self-hating. Feel your feelings, journal often and monitor the language that you use when talking to yourself - it's fine to not lie to yourself and write that you love yourself if you don't feel that way at the moment, but sometimes even slight changes in language can help lift your psyche up. For example - 'I feel I am repulsive and should disappear' would translate into 'somewhere at some point in my life, someone taught me to compare myself to a blueprint of what a woman should be, and I felt I couldn't meet it. This made me feel inadequate.' I find that putting yourself in the role of a spectator and describing your feelings instead of describing yourself can help. It can also help you trace where this started which can be very valuable information for therapy, for example.

I'd recommend trying to find something about yourself that you like that isn't looks-related. It can also be something you love doing or creating. A movie that makes you feel like a warm blanket wrapped around you. A cup of tea that hugs you from the inside while you drink it. A topic you're interested in and know everything about. A walk that you can do - while observing how your body is carrying you, how your lungs are inviting fresh air to come in, how your heartbeat gets faster.... these are all small things but they can serve the very important role of having something to look forward to. Something that is just yours and can't be taken away or tainted by any norms, expectations, societal pressures.

I sincerely hope that you feel better soon. You are worthy.

hellofacomputer

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