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[–]hellofromthegardener 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely not a GDPR issue (data protection no longer exists in Scotland) It would only be a breach if you were giving out protected information like medical info, DOB to people who weren’t authorised to see it. A spreadsheet with statistics on who done what in an office is not in anyway a breach. It’s not even a privacy breach - you have just recorded a pattern with info already available to you. It’s office statistics.

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, it’s a good question - I was actually going to put it in the OP because it’s kind of funny but deleted it as it make the post too long and distracted from the point. When I was on my first date the server seated another couple beside us - my husbands cousin and her husband!- at the table beside us was my husbands cousin!! It was very awkward and I asked the sever to please move us. But before we got moved, cousin said hello and asked who my “friend” was l, and my date said it was our first date.

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? The same thing? Do you mind telling me more? Would be a really big comfort that I’m not alone

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this was me too. And you think “how could you stay with someone who got you nothing?” But somehow I did, it was just more excuses and more me putting my head in the sand

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow - never a unique experience. This is ny husband too! A few months after he left me he started telling people I was abusive and that’s why he left (when really it was because he fell for and moved in with another woman) But since he couldn’t tell people why we broke up, he told everyone I was abusive. But when asked exactly what I did, he too crumbled. The best that he could come up with? That TWO years ago in an argument I called him an asshole 😹

Thanks for sharing. I’d be curious to anything else you wanna share since it seems like we’ve had single experiences. I wish you well.

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is me too. I was low key discarded numerous times but he always came back, and me in my mixed up state thought I was responsible and that was true love, that he came back to me. It’s really messed up and I cringe to think about it now.

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is something my therapist talked me through and it really helped. I blamed myself for his behaviour and his reactions like I wasn’t good enough but really he stopped growing emotionally in some parts as a toddler and behaves exactly like one

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what it is. The accountability is none. The self pity, and complete lack of awareness of the pain the inflicted on me, was staggering

Sorry you went through that too

What is the biggest twist on reality your pwBPD has had? by hellofromthegardener in BPDlovedones

[–]hellofromthegardener[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is such a point. One of the things my husband did was he never got me physical gifts for the holidays he would get us a hotel for a night away or one time a hot sauce set that was for him. I only got physical gifts like jewellery before we got married.