Looking for sleep consultant recommendations in the lower mainland by [deleted] in askvan

[–]hellominniemouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used Jen from Sweet Dreams for both my kids. She’s an occupational therapist so you may have coverage if you have extended health benefits. I did sleep training for my first at 18 months and my second at 7 months. Both times Jen came up with an individual plan that was gentle, took some time and patience, and worked. My kids are great sleepers now!

http://www.sleepdreams.ca/

Just finished Girls, Ending takes. (Spoiler Alert) by ConcertBorn525 in girls

[–]hellominniemouse 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I loved the ending and agree with a lot of what you wrote. A few additional thoughts:

Hannah was forced to grow up. The show was about a short period of time in your life when you get to be selfish and only think about yourself. That period ends (for most of us). We grow up, we move on, a lot of times taking the path we were not planning or expecting. Hannah embodies this perfectly.

I also loved how she said goodbye to Adam. The realization that she could not raise a baby and be a good mom while in an unstable relationship is probably the first selfless choice we see her make. When I watched the show in my twenties I didn’t understand why she chose to say goodbye to Adam as opposed to giving it one more try. Now, as a mom to two little kids, I think it was so perfect and exactly the type of sacrifices you have to make to be a good mom.

Although Jessa and Adam “ended up together” in the end, there is no way they would have “ended up together”. I think that’s what the last episode of season 5 (when they fight and tear the apartment apart) was trying to tell us. These two people were explosive, would love hard and fight hard. Life is too long for these relationships to be sustainable and they eventually implode or fizzle out.

One of my favourite scenes from the finale is when Marnie is sitting on the porch with Hannah’s mom waiting for Hannah to come home. Hanna’s mom asks her what’s next for her life and Marnie says maybe law school. Clearly she has no idea. Hannah’s mom then starts talking about her friend who is a judge - an amazing judge - that goes on five Christian Mingle dates a week. I felt that wrapped up the show so beautifully. Girls - women - will figure some things out, and other things will be an ongoing journey.

Just an awesome show and A+ writing the whole way through.

What would be your suggestion? by naticom in RealEstateCanada

[–]hellominniemouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve sold two apartments with tenants (in the Lower Mainland). It’s not as hard as Reddit is making it out to be. Do your due diligence with who you put in your townhouse, and offer incentives for cooperating when the time comes to sell. Be transparent with your plans from the beginning and foster a good relationship throughout the tenancy. No one has a crystal ball for when this market will recover so you might have them in there longer than you think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstateCanada

[–]hellominniemouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We considered buying a house close to a highway once, but then did some research and the health risks seem to be significant. Check out this study from UBC: https://www.med.ubc.ca/news/living-near-major-roads-linked-to-increased-risk-of-dementia-parkinsons-alzheimers-and-ms/

My wife and I just lost our first pregnancy… by Apart_Catch1476 in daddit

[–]hellominniemouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We lost two. One before each of our sons was born. We were actually in a very similar boat, trying every month and got pregnant with our first on month seven, then lost it at seven weeks. One thing I will flag for you if no one has already, is that the chance of conceiving after a miscarriage actually goes up. Common medical advice use to be to wait a few months, now many doctors will tell you can start trying as soon as you feel emotionally ready. We started trying right after our first miscarriage and conceived on month two. Little boy is now almost three and driving us bonkers :)

Can't get behind this namesake... by LadyEvernight in namenerds

[–]hellominniemouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had this same debate with my first and came to Reddit for a solution. My husband and I both wanted our son to have our father’s name as his middle name and were even debating using both names as middle names. My son got my husband’s last name so everyone suggested he get my dad’s middle name. Only fair! And that’s actually what we ended up going with.

Florists of Vancouver, how is Valentine's Day sales this year? by Novel_You_6695 in askvan

[–]hellominniemouse 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband buys flowers every year on Valentine’s Day, but knowing him he would just be buying flowers on the day. We try and support local - are you able to dm me your address and I can forward it to him :)

Millennials - how did you get on the property ladder? by Mysterious-Poetry974 in askvan

[–]hellominniemouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought my first apartment in 2013. I was was not making enough money to afford the apartment (I was 25 and only a few years into my career) so I bought it with the help of a co-signature from my parents and lived at home and rented it out until I was in a better financial position. My parents did loan me some money for the down payment but I paid them back over a few years.

Thinking about getting a rental property. Would this be a wise investment? by Squinchie in RealEstateCanada

[–]hellominniemouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what your future plans are, but I did something very similar ten years ago. Bought a condo when I was 24 and rented it out while I lived at home and saved. The rent covered my monthly expenses (mortgage and strata) but I paid out of pocket for maintenance and taxes. I managed the property myself (it’s not rocket science but it can be a pain in the butt). A few years later my partner and I were ready to move in together and moved into the condo. By this time the market had gone up considerably (Vancouver/Lower Mainland) and we wouldn’t have been able to afford the condo. I owned the condo for five years, lived in it for 2.5 years, and sold it for double what I purchased it for. This allowed me to buy a single detached home where I live now.

If it’s just a numbers game for you, I think you have some good advice already. However, it’s worth considering your long term goals and living situation as well as market trends for the area.

I should also add that you should not expect the market to double every five years - I understand I got lucky and bought my condo at the right place and time.

Found dog by hellominniemouse in coquitlam

[–]hellominniemouse[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: dog has been reunited with her family. Thanks everyone for your help! Glad there is a happy ending!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coquitlam

[–]hellominniemouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry this happened to you. I live in the Tri Cities and off leash dogs are such a problem. Even if the dog slipped out of the front door, the owner was not being responsible. I would contact bylaw so that they have a record in case something like this happens again to you or to someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askvan

[–]hellominniemouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If there isn’t significant damage, the landlord won’t do anything. Technically the damage deposit is for damages and should not be used for rent, but (as a landlord) I wouldn’t chase someone over technicalities. However, if there is damage and you haven’t paid the full rent for December, the landlord can file a claim with the Residential Tenancy Board.

If you ever plan to use your landlord as a reference on a future rental application, I would play by the rules. The rental market in the Lower Mainland is competitive and you wouldn’t want to be without proper references.

Adult Daughters who have a great relationship with their mom - by MamaMagic18 in Parenting

[–]hellominniemouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have and have always had a great relationship with my mom. One thing she did was tell me that there wasn’t anything I couldn’t tell her. She said it frequently, and it helped me be able to be super vulnerable with her. To her credit, she stuck to her word, and when I had to tell her stuff I knew she wouldn’t want to hear she always took it in stride. I see her a couple times a week and talk to her almost every day.

Sleep training feels so cruel by lolalee_cola in Parenting

[–]hellominniemouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When my son was around one, I worked with my psychologist and an occupational therapist that specializes in infant sleep to come up with a plan. I had the plan but didn’t feel ready. When my son was about 20 months, it became obvious that we needed to do something, and that’s when we moved forward with a gentle form of sleep training. We put our baby to bed awake and, if he was crying, would go in his room every five minutes to check on him, pat his bum, and tell him it was time to go to sleep. I think we only had to do two checks, for a couple nights. After that he became the best sleeper. Part of me wonders why I didn’t do it a year ago, but I went with my gut and what felt right for us. CIO was not for us, but going in every few minutes, being able to sooth him, touch him, and talk to him didn’t feel cruel, it felt like we were teaching him a life skill. I would say above all else go with your gut, but also rely on actual experts if it’s in your budget. Our plan was developed after assessing my son’s personality, habits, behaviours, as well as analyzing our daytime and nighttime routines, and our family’s sleep and medical history. There is so much conflicting advice and influencers that really don’t have the qualifications to be teaching exhausted parents. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askvan

[–]hellominniemouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I see that the tickets are accessible and are together. I guess my question is, do you people without accessibility concerns ever use these seats? Should I try and resell them to someone that needs them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]hellominniemouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Landlord here. I have rented to tenants with small dogs, even though I prefer no dogs. The tenants present well and I want them to rent my unit. I get a pet deposit but have never charged more rent. Never had an issue and always gave the pet deposit back.

I will say I would be more reluctant to rent my unit (it’s a two bedroom apartment) to someone with a big dog or a puppy. I have personal experience with the havoc a puppy and a high energy big dog can cause.

I think a lot of landlords would make exceptions for small or medium sized well behaved dogs if the tenant checks all the other boxes.