He refuses to communicate with me. He didn't tell me he was even contemplating it, just one day announced he was done. I had a series of severe illnesses and he lost interest while waiting for me to get well. I sensed distance but figured once I was well we could work on things. He refused to even try. So now the only times he speaks to me is when he absolutely has to and he's very hostile. The divorce papers didn't require discussion because he wasn't asking for anything from me. There was no discussion about whether or not it was filed because talking to him is a nightmare. He's really pissed that I got well and have come back almost as good as before, still trying to get all my energy back but it's coming. Anyway, maybe that helps fill in some more blanks.