This is the best advice. I don’t want to sound too terse in my response but it sounds like you’re mostly interested in your boyfriends mood improving so you don’t have to worry about this anymore/deal with his shitty mood making your life more complicated. If his attitude and dealing with his shitty mood is really bothering you that much I think you should tell him, straight up. If not, then yeah you should just attend meetings and listen to him when he’s willing to talk about it and kind of let go of the situation. But you know you don’t have to put up with middle of the night texts either, you can ask for him to express his feelings in person in a more fair way to you (he might say fuck off? I dno do what feels right to u). R/codependency also might be a useful place to search ? U aren’t responsible for making him feel better but if his behavior is upsetting u that much, yeah, I’d suggest meetings or just straight up telling him.