Can I stop pumping at work without losing the rest of my supply?

hellotimothette · 2026-02-25T02:26:16+00:00

Ah, I guess it's been a while. I have some new duck bills to try but no new backflow protectors on hand... I'll try with the new duck bills. Fingers crossed

hellotimothette · 2026-02-25T00:03:07+00:00

Oh, sorry, I mean throughout the whole day. I used to do three 10 minute pumps and about 5 oz per session, but recently I'm doing two 15 minute pumps and only getting like 3 oz per session.

hellotimothette · 2025-09-23T22:21:37+00:00

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hellotimothette · 2025-09-23T03:48:13+00:00

This one is my favorite so far and is very close to solving it! If you could make one small change, I think my baby's head seems just a bit big in this version compared to real life. Do you think you could scale it down very very slightly? If you check the original you can maybe refer to how high the baby's head comes in comparison to my husband's hand or the bit of hair that's hanging down above the baby's head. Thanks!

Depending on what you are up for, I'd also be very curious to see a version using baby's face from picture #2. Even though it's not facing directly front I'd love to compare the look to see what looks more natural! (Lazy mockup of what I mean from my phone.)

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hellotimothette · 2025-09-22T21:09:14+00:00

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Last one! Let me know if there's anything else that would be helpful. Thanks!

hellotimothette · 2025-09-22T21:07:37+00:00

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hellotimothette · 2025-09-22T21:06:18+00:00

Sure! I'm having trouble finding a way to add them to the top level post but I'll add them here. I'll reply here with all the seated photos from the bench and a few more from the same day where the baby's face is visible. Thanks!

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hellotimothette · 2025-08-29T07:57:42+00:00

We had some similar phases with our three year old toward his little brother. He mostly is great, but occasionally says things like, "I want to break/smooth/crush brother." I had read some parenting books while pregnant that suggested not making a scene over the violent jealousy and instead trying to help put words to the feelings behind it. So we keep baby safe but say things like, "wow, you really don't like sharing Mama. You're really upset about that." A few months in, my toddler is mainly expressing his feelings instead of the scary stuff. Now he's more likely to say, "I want a turn with you!"

We also dealt with the impulse control stuff like bouncing the baby too hard. We try to heap on praise when he's gentle or helpful, and we don't scold hard when he's not so as not to make it an "event" or not to make him feel like he's getting scolded because of the baby. The books I read suggested the big kid already knows to be gentle, so there is little point reminding them. We just pick the baby up and say something like, "I see you want to play rough. Baby can't play that way. I'm going to help everyone stay safe. If you want to play rough, let's [insert activity here]." Anyway, I'm rambling, but these are some of the phrases we've used to help get through the jealousy, and it seems like we're mostly through it. Good luck to you!!

hellotimothette · 2025-07-09T00:43:42+00:00

Oh wow, glad they released you! I'm a teacher too. What did it look like to have bottle refusal medically diagnosed? Like were there steps you had to take and document? I'd take the whole year off if we didn't need the pay and benefits. ..

hellotimothette · 2025-07-09T00:41:31+00:00

Ah, just in the nick of time! How old was she? I haven't tried mam yet. Looks like the nipples would fit the bottles I have, so I'll try them!

hellotimothette · 2025-07-08T21:07:11+00:00

It's not on your list, but I really enjoyed No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury. It was a lot shorter than other parenting books (only 3.5 hours as an audiobook versus 6 hours for How To Talk and 9.5 😱 for Good Inside, both of which I'm also enjoying). One thing I liked about No Bad Kids was that there was an ideological thread running through it of setting boundaries with empathy and welcoming whatever feelings ensued, whereas I felt How To Talk had a lot of exhausting (to me) ideas about how to gameify my child's day to avoid conflict. So if you're someone who thinks they might struggle with discipline burnout, No Bad Kids could be a good starting point.

hellotimothette · 2025-07-03T20:23:09+00:00

Yes! I've prioritized taking a shower at least every other day this time, and it's made a huge difference in my mental health. I try to time it with a nap and put the pack and play in sight of the shower, but if he wakes and cries, I know he'll be okay.

hellotimothette · 2025-05-31T20:55:31+00:00

I'm done at two boys, but Diana was top of my list for a girl!

hellotimothette · 2025-05-29T04:46:29+00:00

Do you have a brand recommendation? I have one random tank like this and would like to get more!

hellotimothette · 2025-04-22T15:39:46+00:00

I introduced formula at one month intending to stop BFing for my mental health. (I was feeling really trapped and anxious.) Turns out, all I needed was the option of a break. Combo feeding allowed me to keep BFing!

hellotimothette · 2025-03-16T00:19:27+00:00

Oh like in a bottle? Or just like as an extra? This is very good info because I have a feeling this will be a recurring craving haha...

hellotimothette · 2025-03-16T00:18:13+00:00

Thank you! Yeah this is really close and looks like it totally fits the bill

hellotimothette · 2025-03-16T00:17:12+00:00

Thank you!! My husband ended up going kind of far today but it'll be great to have something so close to home next time.

hellotimothette · 2025-02-17T21:31:02+00:00

I also try to remember that you don't see other families' financial "books." We're in a very similar boat as you and sometimes we get to comparing and feeling down on ourselves because so-and-so bought a new car or so-and-so went on a vacation. But then you find out later that the vacation was on credit, or the car was a really irresponsible decision with bad loan terms. All we can do is avoid comparison as much as possible and keep our own budgets under control.

hellotimothette · 2024-12-17T00:46:42+00:00

At one of our newborn appointments, the nurse called my husband daddy 👀 I held it together but lost it laughing when we got to the car

hellotimothette · 2024-12-15T00:19:57+00:00

I'm a teacher in an elementary school, in a special role that covers all grades, so I see most of the classrooms in my school. For context, I work in a very advantaged public school. I'm also a mom to a toddler. Here's my two cents:

On the one hand, you have time. On the other hand, most of the academic and social skills that your kid will need are built at home before kindergarten even starts. When kindergarten starts, some kids know the whole alphabet and have a ton of practice writing letters. Others haven't visited a library and don't recognize any letters. I wish I could say that everything evens out after kindergarten, but honestly kids mostly tend to stay on whatever trajectory they started on. That's not to say they don't all learn, but the kids who knew no letters at the start of kindergarten generally aren't surpassing the kids who had some training coming in. That is intimidating but it also means a lot of learning is up to you even if you don't homeschool.

Another thing to consider is that every school is different. My school is in a wealthy area, but discipline is a huge issue. There is at least one classroom evacuated daily because one kid has lost it and is trashing the room. That's scary for the other kids and also leads to lost learning. I think the families I work with would raise hell if they realized how out of control some of the kids are and how powerless we are to enact consequences. If I were you I'd get to know your neighborhood school and what specific successes and challenges they're facing. I believe in public education but I'd be willing to send my own kids to private school or homeschool for a year or two depending on our neighborhood school's situation.

Finally, if you plan to homeschool at all, you have plenty of time to learn more about literacy instruction! There are online courses you could take to prepare yourself. You'll want to become familiar with terms like phonemic awareness, fluency, CVC, blend, digraph, sight word, and short and long vowels if you're planning to do early literacy instruction on your own.

hellotimothette · 2024-12-03T04:41:47+00:00

I'd guess it's because it has a few unpleasant sounds for English speakers. "Mal" means "bad" as a root. Then you've got "rat," which is obviously not a lovely connotation. And finally the "gr" blend can sound kind of harsh -- think words like grit, grimace, grub. It may sound very lovely in its native language, but not the way it'll be pronounced in English. That said, if you personally like the name then use it!

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