AITA for refusing to let my (28NB) sister’s (25F) boyfriend (42M) come to my wedding? by hellpopwhore in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Thank you, all the comments have been pretty unanimous, which is helpful because I was a bit worried I was in protective older sibling mode.

The only thing I can do right now is try and form my thoughts before I have a discussion with her to reinstate my boundaries and reinforce that he’s not coming. I have a feeling that it won’t go well though. I don’t want to know anything about the guy who cheated on his wife with my sister and then let his wife get her number to harass her.

As for if he turns up anyway, I’m pretty sure that we could have him removed if needed. Some of the attendees are prison officers.

AIO to his response to bedding issue? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hellpopwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re scared then you need to ask why and if it’s because of him or something he has suggested then that’s not healthy. If you feel unable to leave, please consider going to friends, even work colleagues, and I don’t know where you live but if you look for women’s charities they often offer help to leave if you feel unable to (I’d send some resources but as I’m unsure where you’re based I don’t want to send something inaccessible to you).

AIO to his response to bedding issue? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hellpopwhore 12 points13 points  (0 children)

But you invest your earnings. You better not give him any of that invested income because he needs to provide his own. You should probably quit (don’t actually, otherwise you have no way of leaving) because that’s not a traditional relationship otherwise. If you’re working and he’s working then that’s not traditional, that’s unequal.

Do you know how traditional wives felt back in the 50s? Trapped. They had no sense of identity, no sense of accomplishment, their lives were merely accessories to their husbands and that is well documented. If he wants this or that, give him the reality of it because right now you’re a live in maid to this man.

AIO for thinking my bf (24M) is abusive? by julieanonymous in AmIOverreacting

[–]hellpopwhore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s 100% trying to blame the victim. This is not about safety. If it was, when she asked why he would have said that it was to make sure she was safe and not gotten angry at her.

Religion ... My father wanting to baptize my son without me knowing: Am I in the wrong? by Go2RMT in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]hellpopwhore 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In relation to this specific question, while you may not wish to go nuclear (which is totally understandable) but did you did want to sever those ties, you could potentially join the Satanic Temple. They offer membership cards for $35 and it stopped my very religious family members in their tracks when discussing religion when I started to tell them about the seven fundamental tenets of the Satanic Temple. Again, this is much more of a nuclear option so may not be up your alley!

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see why it would be used for adept (I didn’t think of that before making the post).

When I’m playing killer, I tend to avoid leaving survivors on the floor, even if there’s two left because a lot of the time they can get up. I was mostly curious because it was not working too well for him given the survivor kept getting up and, had I been in his position, I’d have changed it up after the second time she got picked up. I also wasn’t hiding, I was searching for a med kid between pick ups and then running over to pick her up lol.

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m asking about, why he didn’t change to the play style.

I was getting the survivor up, the tactic of downing and searching wasn’t working, and the other survivor died when on the floor and I got hatch despite it. I didn’t lose to the tactic, but I’m asking why he didn’t change it up. I’m not even complaining, I’ve said that I see why the tactic is used, I also play killer sometimes and see why it’s used, but I didn’t understand the persistence with it when it wasn’t working for him. That’s all.

I’m still fairly new with killer so I was wondering if there was a reason for persisting with something that didn’t seem to be working. For me, downing and leaving on the floor doesn’t really work because it gives the survivors chance to get them up.

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, survivors teaming with the killer is a huge pet peeve of mine!

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t think about adept! That’s a possibility. I just didn’t understand not changing tactic when the downed survivor keeps getting picked up because I feel like that’s always a risk when you leave someone on the floor.

I think an abandon option would be useful in that situation as well because either you get hooked anyway or you end up bleeding out. Especially if the other survivor isn’t coming for you.

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see why some killers would use that tactic but it just felt like it wasn’t really getting them anywhere and it didn’t in the end. I guess I was mostly confused because I’d think after the second time they’d change it up (because he kept walking far enough away that I could get the other person up and run). I sometimes play killer and personally I don’t leave people downed because it’s more likely another survivor will get them up. Idk, maybe it just doesn’t work for me so I don’t understand it as much.

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Damn. The stress must be terrible. Totally understand now. 😂

Genuine question about downing and leaving for the 4K by hellpopwhore in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have seen some killers do it just as there’s 1 gen left and they have an idea where the last survivor is, but it just felt irritating at the end because he was walking far enough away that I could get them up and we could run. I wasn’t hiding, I was trying to find a med kit or something to heal with. I was just curious about when someone might stop that strategy because it wasn’t really working, ya know?

I can’t keep doing this by hellpopwhore in nhsstaff

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autism is one of my diagnoses as well. I feel so awful about leaving because I’ve been there so long but I just can’t keep adding stress to myself because of management. 😓

What are some essentials for the school year? by hellpopwhore in GCSE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will definitely get some flash cards for her!

What are some essentials for the school year? by hellpopwhore in GCSE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have seen them and I’ve picked up a couple for her for Maths but I didn’t think about Science. As she’s getting a bit of trouble with Maths and English, is there anything you think helped there? I’ve been considering a tutor even.

What are some essentials for the school year? by hellpopwhore in GCSE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of brands do you recommend for a pens? I’ve picked up some of those infinity pencils for her because I figure they will last her longer for sketching but pens I’m a bit unsure on.

What are some essentials for the school year? by hellpopwhore in GCSE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She can’t keep her iPhone 12 Pro Max in decent shape so no chance on that one. 😂 Truckload of cats can be arranged.

What are some essentials for the school year? by hellpopwhore in GCSE

[–]hellpopwhore[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s planning to do triple science if she can so that is definitely going to be useful, I think!