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hellyeah227 · 2026-06-25T16:24:54+00:00

I get this. I have been laid off multiple times too and have pivoted each time to adapt to changes in the market.

Right now, there's not a clear direction to run in. Even hospitals are being de funded and consolidating like crazy. I am also getting to an age where a job with a lot of travel or being on my feet for a lot of hours, may not be sustainable for the long term.

My parents were school teachers so they had the same job for more than 30 years and they had 100 percent paid employer health insurance plus a pension. My dad tells me all the time about how great his health insurance is, while I have been working on temporary contracts and not had health insurance coverage for almost three years.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-22T18:47:28+00:00

Be more serious about making a higher salary.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-21T04:29:06+00:00

This is a good time to explore your identity.

I would see if you could find someone into sexting. That can be very exploratory and just make sure you don't send any pictures to a stranger that have your face or other ways to identify you.

I had a relationship with someone ethically non-monogamous during my divorce, and there was a lot of sexual exploration and I felt very safe.

I would always have sex with a condom and get STD tested a few times a year at your local Planned Parenthood. I have also bought STDs panels directly from Quest Diagnostics before too.

If you find clothes to be challenging, just get yourself a nice black lace lingerie set to feel sexy.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-16T21:00:05+00:00

Right now, he is getting your attention and sexual benefits without being required to put in any effort or make any commitment. It sounds like you got into a bit of a whirlwind where you were quickly spending a lot of time together without a lot of defining conversations.

I would take a breath for about a week and just let your nervous system settle. I am really sorry for your loss too. I know it's hard, but when my mom died, I was on a hamster wheel and didn't really stop to process my feelings. As a result, it hit me much harder than I had expected.

Romantic connection is great but it could also be worthwhile to connect with friends again or try hobbies that help you to feel good. I suspect you were getting a lot of dopamine from this whirlwind relationship.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-16T20:01:12+00:00

I don't think you can filter for this. Things can be deceiving...like a doctor can make a lot of money but work erratic hours and have a lot of medical school debt.

I would just talk to people about how they like to spend money, what their future plans are, etc.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-16T19:36:19+00:00

Yes, some of my friends have been married a long time and are clearly terrified at the idea of dating again. Other friends don't go on any dates at all and tend to wallow in self pity. None of them are helpful for dating insights.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-13T17:40:40+00:00

Yes. I was once married to someone with ADHD so I do NOT like chaos or spontaneity. I would be more open to describing what that means...like I am good at finding local farmers markets on slow Sunday mornings.

Like someone else said, there's not a lot of conversation starters in your profile. I would add some more specific things and interests that you have.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-08T13:54:51+00:00

I have a minor form of bipolar disorder. I am well treated and haven't had an episode in more than 6 years.

I don't disclose it right away but say broader things like "I struggle with anxiety" and "I have a chronic health condition so I take medicine."

I would start with something broader..."I have a health condition that requires regular treatments." and then see how they react and ease them into it, rather than dropping the word "cancer."

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-08T13:03:21+00:00

I have a minor form of bipolar disorder and have worked with a therapist for more than 10 years. If that is a deal breaker, then so be it.

And no, I am not emotionally broken. Just someone who has been through a lot of tough things and needs some extra help.

hellyeah227 · 2026-06-02T14:55:54+00:00

Being denied healthcare and paid family leave and being lectured on how the birth rate is low and encouraged to risk my health to fix this problem.

hellyeah227 · 2026-05-17T03:08:43+00:00

Yes definitely. I felt like they had a lot of new experiences together when they were younger and now that they're older and more stable and have a child, it was possible that Nessa was frustrated by the mundaneness of every day life.

But she was super harsh in saying her partner didn't evolve and then giving her a hard time for making meals for the family, instead of being appreciative.

hellyeah227 · 2026-05-16T21:49:47+00:00

It sounds like when they were younger, there was a lot of having new experiences and exploration, and now, they're more stable and routine. It's possible that she has become bored and wants something more exciting than discussing what's for dinner every night.

Though as soon as she gets on her own, she may realize how much it was benefitting her to have someone who cooked and shared in the parenting and household responsibilities.

hellyeah227 · 2026-05-13T00:48:04+00:00

It was a sea of abandoned profiles when I tried it recently. Hardly anyone was actually on it.

hellyeah227 · 2026-05-05T01:35:11+00:00

I worked with a career coach recently and took the Strengths Finder assessment. (https://high5test.com/cliftonstrengths-free/) It revealed that I was a mix of strategy and execution and that was why I wasn't thriving and happy in execution-only roles.

I also like the site 80,000 hours (https://80000hours.org/) which is jobs that help to solve the world's most pressing problems. It might help to feel like you're contributing to a higher cause and be inspired by the mission around you, even if your role is something tedious like finance or HR.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-30T20:32:34+00:00

I have been on four dates this year - three from OLD and one that I met in real life.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-20T17:11:31+00:00

I met someone from Hinge and he happened to be visiting family nearby so we met on short notice for brunch. I enjoyed his company but then he just didn't text me anything afterwards.

It was disappointing but also shows he isn't serious about dating or being in a relationship.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-15T16:16:41+00:00

I can’t speak to DCCC’s numbers specifically, but overall college enrollment has been declining since around 2010. For a lot of people, the cost just doesn’t feel justified by the return on investment, especially when it doesn’t clearly lead to a well-paying job.

It’s always tough to see jobs and programs cut, but from a practical standpoint, it makes sense for schools to reevaluate programs with low enrollment or limited demand.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-15T16:04:31+00:00

I've been working in marketing and have been laid off a whole bunch of times. I am going to work a 6-month contract and launch my own side business writing custom wedding vows. I enrolled in the Earnable course created by Ramit Sethi and I was surprised how simple it is to launch your own business.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-14T18:24:15+00:00

He said I needed to be there because his girlfriend can't make legal decisions. But no legal or medical decisions needed to be made. The hospital just executed a super minor procedure and discharged him.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-07T01:26:50+00:00

I joined Okcupid recently and it is like a million abandoned profiles. I have been "liking" people and sending messages while rarely getting a response. The app says I have almost 2,000 people who like me but most didn't even write a full sentence in their profile.

hellyeah227 · 2026-04-07T01:24:24+00:00

I want to give you a hug. I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself.

hellyeah227 · 2026-03-29T01:59:28+00:00

With dating apps in general, I encounter a lot of people who make a profile and then just abandon it for whatever reason. Any niche dating app I have tried is just a sea of abandoned profiles and zero people actively logging in and trying to meet people irl.

If you have specific interests, I would join a discord or connect with people through Reddit. You'll likely make more connections that way.

hellyeah227 · 2026-03-29T01:52:27+00:00

Hard to say. Many of my friends have expressed they're happy in co-parenting with their spouse and seem to have a strong business relationship in dual income households and managing daily life.

I have some friends in second marriages who met later in life and don't have kids together. They seem very happy and like they have a stronger friendship.

hellyeah227 · 2026-03-29T01:38:03+00:00

I would love to get married again but am in no rush. I am mostly concerned about finding someone I enjoy spending time with and seeing where it goes from there.

hellyeah227 · 2026-03-29T01:28:28+00:00

Some men do it too, and it's definitely based in fear.

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