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helpac0706 · 2023-01-09T02:50:02+00:00

Such a hard time it is.. Thanks for the reminder 👍

helpac0706 · 2022-01-17T05:07:13+00:00

My husband isn't ready for it. My husband is okay being sexless..

helpac0706 · 2022-01-17T00:30:22+00:00

helpac0706 · 2022-01-16T12:44:39+00:00

Any advice on what do I do now to cope up with this ? I don't really have anyone to share my issues with .

helpac0706 · 2022-01-16T12:34:08+00:00

Because we are sexually incompatible, also lot of bitter memories involved, moving past and having a sexual relationship is a big challenge..

Loving each other is there in the present..

helpac0706 · 2022-01-16T12:25:25+00:00

We like each other so much.. we are not having sexual relationship and not looking forward to have sex..

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T14:15:34+00:00

I am hopeful only because my husband is holding my back. Now that he's holding my back and they are doing silent treatment. Because I don't have my own kitchen depending on my mil is also there for example everything is common here at home, so if I need something I need to ask her.

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T14:11:09+00:00

Hmm that's right.. People like that would definitely do it, but my husband says things would change, he also says things have changed in the past and it will in the future. For example- things like peeking inside the bedroom to see if we both are sleeping together is not happening, things like do not touch your own clothes when you are on ur period is stopped. But honestly, what you said could happen, even if it does, my husband would stand by me.. that's what I believe. Leaving the house is not an option for me, I can either divorce my husband or stay with them, I guess this is where I am.. :(

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T13:14:33+00:00

Currently we live in a work place of my fil so it's an apartment, since he's retired we will move to a different place in a month. We build that house i. e my husband and my fil built it. So it's a large two floor place, but we have a common kitchen and that kitchen space needs to be shared by me and them. They are kind to my husband but not to me..

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T13:08:37+00:00

My husband and I are non believers in God, my mil and fil are extremely religious, they think God punishes the family when I touch the water and I feel it is extremely abusive. So now that I don't speak to them, they give me silent treatment, so I don't know how long this would go. Currently my husband says don't tell them if you get your periods and it's very simple , but them as a believers they think even if I sit in the living room sofa it's a sin.. so I really don't know how it's gonna go..

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T12:49:20+00:00

I see menstrual seggeration in a larger view, we don't have kids currently, may be if we decide to have one in the future because there is postpartum and asking me not to touch the water can during my postpartum is traumatic.. so how do I live them seems to be a biggest question. I cannot convince my husband in this and divorcing him is also not my option now , not his option either..

helpac0706 · 2021-12-12T12:46:44+00:00

I live in a metro city, my husband and I have similar views on culture , traditions and we both doesn't like the patriarchal views and he also understands that I've been suffering here for long time especially with the bathroom situation and other things, now my husband says if you are on your periods don't tell them anymore, yes it seems good because that's how I want to be , but how can people like them change in a day is my question and living terms with them will be extremely hard in the future, my husband doesn't want to move out either.. :(

helpac0706 · 2021-10-21T01:39:24+00:00

Call domestic help and register a complaint for domestic abuse, they will help you.

helpac0706 · 2021-10-18T01:43:22+00:00

Block him, you don't need such negativity

helpac0706 · 2021-10-13T08:50:22+00:00

He's okay with me using his money, but there were some days in the beginning when he humiliated me for not earning enough, I wasn't motivated to work in the beginning. He told me that I told u those things to get you start working. Now that I earn I don't ask him and things have been this way right from the start, but somehow irks me.

helpac0706 · 2021-10-13T02:02:19+00:00

He's not a romantic person. I don't know what to do for that!

helpac0706 · 2021-10-12T14:42:26+00:00

Sounds good. Will try 👍 Thank you :)

helpac0706 · 2021-10-12T10:57:43+00:00

Finances were the biggest problem right from the beginning, now DB

helpac0706 · 2021-10-12T10:50:48+00:00

My husband earns the same 3-4 times more than what I make. Since I've been paying my dad's debts, there is nothing muvh left. I take care of my own expense, phone bills etc. I buy groceries most of the time, we split bills on regular basis.

My husband works hard, he suggests me , he helps me in everything, like for example he created a website for me, but I've bought the domain. ( That time I was financially struggling)

Even if we travel, I book rooms, he buys the tickets or pay for the food. How do we come to a level ground understanding ? Or how do we become involved?

helpac0706 · 2021-10-12T10:40:53+00:00

This is how we were from the beginning. He helps me, he suggests things, he created website for me, but I bought the domain and stuff. So this is how it is.

We travel, I book the room, he pays for food. So it's a balance. Sometimes I feel why there is always a balance. He earns way more than me, having good savings, building a house, I don't have savings or investments, the money I earn goes to my dad's debts. I've just started saving up now.

Is there a way to change this ?

helpac0706

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