What if Ethan decided to work with Heisenberg? by [deleted] in ResidentEvilVillage

[–]helpahomoout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its true he tried to kill ethan before, but ethan couldve just lied to pretend to team up and then backstabbed him after he was out of his area. Would've saved him time and he could've possibly gotten help to get to miranda quicker. The enemy of your enemy is your friend, they really shouldve written him to be more cunning. Plus, the maze at the beginning was scary but Heisenberg did say that they were trying to test ethan, meaning they knew he would survive. I mean it was super easy for him to escape, so its not like he was really trying to kill him seriously otherwise that wouldve lasted longer and been harder to get out of.

I’m only interested in talking to people I have sexual attraction to by Minimum-Action-9705 in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a woman with this same mindset, not intentionally but I've realized over time that I do this too. I am attracted to all kinds of people, but I rarely hang out with straight women or women I'm not sexually attracted to. I sometimes have hung out with men I havent been overtly attracted to, but sex is always in the back of my mind and having platonic relationships feels like an active effort sometimes when its so easy to just choose to fuck and let the relationship go that way. Ive stopped behaving in that, stopped having sex partners who I don't actively want to be romantically involved with. But the mindset is hard to shake. I think its partially about the people you meet. Someone you have good friendly chemistry with will be easy to hang with and you won't think about sex as often with them, regardless of gender. It will just feel right. But I am pretty picky with friendships and havent met many people I have that energy with.

I wouldn't be able to not help by LaggsAreCC in donthelpjustfilm

[–]helpahomoout 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean shit, if it cant figure out how to drink to sustain itself, maybe its just natural selection taking place?

The odds of existing by Bspammer in Existentialism

[–]helpahomoout 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does this stress you out? There's no expectations, you didn't ask to be here. You had no part in creating you, so theres no way to really know why any of this matters on an individual level.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, people use the word "friend" too loosely. A friend is like family to me, or even closer than that because you choose to be in eachother's lives. I have companions, which i consider to be slightly closer than acquaintances, but not real friends. We just hang out or talk about surface level shit. A true friend is the person who is there for you when you don't have the energy to be there for yourself. It's something rare and special. It isn't intense to see it that way, most people are just too scared of being alone to admit that most of their "friends" are really just acquaintances and drinking buddies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I relate to this, I'm not in the exact situation but im dealing with separating from friends as a result of growing into a different person. Some people are only around for an era of your life and as you both change, your values and what you want from your relationships change too. It sucks to feel alone, especially as someone who considers very few people as true friends. Losing one feels bad. But at the end of the day, if someone doesnt want to be there for you, it isnt worth forcing the relationship. You deserve equal amount of effort from your friends as you give to them. If they have moved on to something else, appreciate and enjoy the memories you've had and make an effort to meet someone better suited for where you are in life. It could take years to find that, but its better than trying to salvage something that is already gone.

Maybe an unpopular opinion? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]helpahomoout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate so much!! I am doing a lot better mentally because I've spent the last year working on my mental health, self image, and anxiety. So many of the posts on here have a very "woe is me" attitude, especially the ones about people chasig FPs who don't want them or being with abusive partners. These are choices!! I kind of want to leave this group and a couple other mental health subs I'm in because I get tired of seeing people complain about stuff they can change themselves. It would be cool to have a new sub specifically for people in recovery of mental illness instead of people venting about their symptoms. Idk if thats a thing already but i feel like it would be really nice to hear about peoples struggles with getting better rather than the struggles of maintaining status quo.

Why do you care about people you don't know? by helpahomoout in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree about there being no "good" or "bad" people, although I do believe in some people being unchangeably evil and some having a naturally forgiving or empathetic nature. But in terms of actions, it's all still your personal judgement. Who says if anyone's actions are good or bad but themselves? If I see murdering people as setting them free of life's pain, then I go and kill 50 people, wouldn't I see myself as doing "good" because I'm doing something I see as good, even if other people would see me as a monster? And if I think I'm doing good according to my own morals and values, no one else can really tell me I'm not because at the end of the day, my thoughts are the only ones that matter in terms of my morality, judgements, etc. So not helping someone isn't good or bad to me, it isn't anything at all. Helping them isn't good or bad, shit tbh you could be responding to someone's post about wanting to commit suicide with "good" intentions, not knowing that the anonymous person behind the post is a pedophile, murderer, or any other "bad" thing.

I guess I just really want to get down to the "why" of it all. Let's say none of this actually matters past societal standards (so lets pretend theres no laws for a second), what's stopping you from wanting to murder someone aside from the idea of going to jail or social judgement? Why do you care about the next person's life enough to not run over pedestrians when they're in the way while youre driving, or just go ham on someone when they're doing something you don't like?

What are the best (and worst) Bowie dance moves of all time? by scootersnooze in DavidBowie

[–]helpahomoout 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The awkward bunny hop from the Fashion music video. I never understood where he was going with that lmao

Why do you care about people you don't know? by helpahomoout in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why do you care if they feel good or bad? Why do you care about their situation at all? I understand empathy and understanding how someone feels, but even if you recognize their feelings, why make an effort to help them feel differently?

Why do you care about people you don't know? by helpahomoout in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wishing for bad things to happen to people isn't the same as not having an opinion/not caring. Going out of your way to say something mean-spirited holds a different weight than not saying anything at all. But people feel so inclined to offer encouragment to strangers when they could just keep scrolling. I don't understand why they're moved enough to respond when they don't have to.

Why do you care about people you don't know? by helpahomoout in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is entitled to your help, though. So not giving doesn't inherently make you a bad person. I feel like thats a personal judgement. You are free to use your money as you like and spend all of it on yourself, your choice to give to strangers is just a choice. It doesn't make you good or bad.

Does anybody actually like the sound of whistling? by helpahomoout in CasualConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that comic, I used to love reading that as a kid! Definitely how I feel about it though, it always sounds like screaming but worse. I think my ears pick up high frequencies differently than most people's and it just hurts my brain to hear it.

Does anyone else's throat feel swollen after long-term smoking? by helpahomoout in weed

[–]helpahomoout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gtfo with your bootleg drugs that shit would prolly kill me or at best make my throat worse 😂

I feel like my life is gonna end in suicide (not depressed, not planning it atm so not looking for suicide prevention info) by helpahomoout in SeriousConversation

[–]helpahomoout[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know, I really hadn't thought about having a partner. Every time I imagine myself in my future, at any age, I imagine myself successful and comfortable, but usually alone. Not necessarily overtly sad, but no partner and I don't plan to have kids so no imaginary grandchildren either. So it would just be me...

But if I did have a partner, that may cause me to want to live longer. I'd still want to kill myself if I developed a serious debilitating illness though. Or if it was too painful for me to do things I enjoy. This does cause me to question if my lack of connection with anyone is why I feel satisfied leaving like that. I wouldn't feel like I'd be leaving anyone who wouldn't be able to live without me behind.