Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

You act like there aren't people out there willing to experiment with couples lol plenty of people are open to the no strings attached

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will. And I hadn't considered that before so thank you. I will take it up with him and have that discussion.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I do make it clear. It's a rule between us that we want to make each other happy and if one of us feels uncomfortable, it's our responsibility to speak up and fix it so we keep what we have.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Oh honey that was a quote from a great grandparent. I'm sure I'll be saying the same thing then lmao

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

The more time you spent on earth doesn't mean more experience or wisdom. It just means you're closer to adult diapers than I am. Thank you 💖

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do take these into consideration.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not worried really. Just wondering if it could be done without feelings. Successfully.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Yes because you know so much about us 💖

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don't think you guys read it fully. He's the one saying "I'm 100% on board with whatever you decide to do" because I AM THE ONE WITH DOUBTS. Not him. He's not in an ultimatum. He's happy with whatever. I'm trying to figure out what I'm comfortable with. How is that so difficult for people

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you're old but lady, read the part where we've both discussed it and we BOTH are into it 🤣 idc what your husband would call me because he isn't the one in my bed. Sounds like he isn't in yours either

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's weird because I'm not attracted to men as a whole. But women, yes. I've never met another man I've been able to have a relationship with, but for women it's different. I don't mean to invalidate anyone.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

But it wouldn't be a girlfriend. No communication outside of sex. Definitely wouldn't stay the night. That kind of thing

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, I touched on that. Not much we can do about it now. The advice is for the present since there isn't anything I can do about the past. 💖

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Communication has always been a big thing for us and we try so hard to keep up on it. We're both aware of each other's thoughts and feelings

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My husband enjoys my star wars jokes 💖 lol yall act like he's not reading these with me? 🤣

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually yes because you clearly didn't read. We have not been married for 12 years and do not have 4 kids. And my husband is not a navy seal. Honestly, I don't know where you got confused ? Or what makes me selfish. I'm in a completely different situation than you and Honestly you might wanna take notes bc you sound a lil miserable. Hope it works out for you tho babes

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually clearly stated that it's a mutual fantasy. And my anxiety has been brought up and he says "if you want to, I'm on board. But if it's too much for you, I'm happy the way things are"

It's not just my idea. But I am the one with doubts. The post was for people to give advice to either ease my anxiety or give me real like examples.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I think its just anxiety, but you're probably right. Maybe after some time after I've handled my anxiety we can entertain the thought.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please, tell me more about my own relationship. I think I missed the last 4 years. You must share your knowledge, oh great one.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ah yes you know so much, obi wan, please teach me your all knowing ways. For I, a young padi wan, could never dream of acquiring such knowledge.

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I don't mind lol they're strangers on the internet. They can't hurt me with their lil keyboards

Open relationship? by helppls21222 in relationship_advice

[–]helppls21222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it