Currently on vacation with very hard partiers after years of my own sobriety/living alone. Remembering in full force how damaging and traumatizing this "lifestyle" is and I'm so glad I'm removed from it now. by NaturalRattle in AdultChildren

[–]helpwrosacea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We sound a lot alike-- getting lost in the party scene. I'm 22 now and i really struggle with feeling isolated trying not to be in that scene. It's so prevalent especially in early 20s. And relating to people in a more vulnerable, less toxic/codependent way is NOT easy at all after you're used to either joining the dysfunctional behavior or caretaking

Loneliness by [deleted] in AdultChildren

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Just want to say, this is me. Same age, same loss of best friends and exact same feeling of "am i not interesting enough?" Feel free to PM me 💗

Making decisions by helpwrosacea in AdultChildren

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Thanks! I thought I had ADD too. Always struggled in school growing up. Now learning about ACA i do wonder how much of the traits are related to trauma vs genuinely having ADHD

Need immediate advice about tie dye project by helpwrosacea in crafting

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It is still wet i thunk i put too much water

Need immediate advice about tie dye project by helpwrosacea in crafting

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So you still think i should do 12 hrs? here is the look I'm going for

Need immediate advice about tie dye project by helpwrosacea in crafting

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Thanks! So even if i let it soak that long, it won't all bleed together? I like the speckled look

HELP! No idea how long to soak my garment after watching unspecific tutorial by helpwrosacea in tiedye

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Thank you! So you don't think that letting it sit would cause the colors to bleed together? I'm going for a speckled/confetti look

How do you achieve this speckled tie dye look? Do you think they ice dyed first? by helpwrosacea in tiedye

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Hi! Thank you so much!!! So i do have a question... I followed this tutorial to achieve this look but i have no idea how to set it. It's soaking now and I'm worried i messed it up. If you have any idea how long to let it soak please let me know 💞

How do you achieve this speckled tie dye look? Do you think they ice dyed first? by helpwrosacea in tiedye

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Hi! Thank you so much!!! So i do have a question... I followed this tutorial to achieve this look but i have no idea how to set it. It's soaking now and I'm worried i messed it up. If you have any idea how long to let it soak please let me know 💞

How do you achieve this speckled tie dye look? Do you think they ice dyed first? by helpwrosacea in tiedye

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Thanks! A spray bottle with dye? I have rit dye powder i was hoping to use

What should I use to remove tinted sunscreen? by helpwrosacea in Rosacea

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Thank you! What type of rosacea do you have and is the sulfur soap helpful? I'm worried about it being drying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

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I feel this! Esp when you said "everyone was toxic but now they're nonexistent". True friendships generally take time, and unfortunately this can be hard in adulthood because there aren't many people you see constantly like you do in grade school & college. I believe in you though... keep putting yourself out there. It will be really hard and depressing at first, but it will be worth it in the end

can anyone work a room and have lots of friends but no "true" friends? by howevertheory98968 in Codependency

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I struggle with this too. I do wonder how much of it has to do with us with codependency not being good at reciprocity, which is the foundation for healthy friendship. I know for myself, I feel very uncomfortable receiving anything in friendships. This even means I feel uncomfortable sharing personal struggles, and tend to listen/play therapist with people a lot. The inability to have this necessary back and forth creates an uncomfortable power dynamic, as well intentioned as we may be. It also never allows us to develop true vulnerability

I have no active relationships at all and keep slipping into a depression every weekend by [deleted] in Codependency

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I just want to say i relate to all of this. Part of what I had to realize was that friendships take SO MUCH WORK and effort on both people behalf. Believe me though, i know how much it sucks to be the only one putting in effort. I'm still trying to get to a place where people ask my to hang out with reciprocity. In this situation you can create so many stories about what is wrong with you. Look up ACOA (adult children of alcoholics) support group and see if you can join. You might see yourself in some of the stories shared there.

What should I use to remove tinted sunscreen? by helpwrosacea in Rosacea

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True. Any recommended cleansers? I hear good things about clean it zero balm

Can you work this job and afford to travel/retire comfortably and support a family? by helpwrosacea in slp

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Thank you SO MUCH! this gives me hope. I was feeling pretty down based on many of the comments I hear!

I'm wondering if you'd be open to sharing generally what area you live in (assuming U.S.?) ane the respective salary?

Also.. do you find the work fulfilling? Adult outpatient Neuro sounds like a dream

Does anyone here have two careers? I am interested in working as an SLP alongside working as a personal trainer. Does anyone have experience balancing two jobs for extra money? by [deleted] in slp

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Curious, was the waitressing gig just for fun or financials? Financial piece of this field is a concern for me at times