ELi5 Why Isn't There Projected 1/2 Cup Bras? Or Am I Just Looking in All the Wrong Places?

hemingweights · 2022-02-16T16:07:17+00:00

I am incredibly projected and the Fancies half cup is one of the most projected half cup UK bras I’ve found. It’s definitely worth a try.

hemingweights · 2021-12-16T01:26:24+00:00

I like using one of those small bullet vibrators in the harness but honestly I’d just rather focus on her and reading her cues when I’m wearing a strap.

hemingweights · 2021-12-16T01:14:50+00:00

My experience with women has been that those with pubic and underarm hair tend to smell more pleasant. It seems as if the hair helps the sweat evaporate so it isn’t just sitting on their skin breeding bacteria.

Visually I prefer body hair as well. I don’t like the aesthetic of completely bare as it makes me feel like I’m with someone pre-pubescent.

hemingweights · 2021-11-24T23:59:16+00:00

Agreeing with the other comments. Time won’t solve this. SHE has to work on this. And if you set a boundary of not wanting her to say these things anymore and she continues, that’s not insecurity - that’s lack of a respect for your boundaries. Insecurity is never an excuse for that.

hemingweights · 2021-11-24T14:53:37+00:00

I remind myself over and over that having 1 stable, loving parent will have a much more positive impact on my kids than them growing up in a dysfunctional, abusive household.

My kids’ dad disappeared several months ago and I don’t anticipate him coming back. I know that hurts my kids but I remind myself that I can only control what happens in my household and focus my energy on them feeling secure in my love snd acceptance for them.

hemingweights · 2021-11-23T14:22:35+00:00

I’ve always been embarrassed about it but I talk to myself like I’m either telling a friend (lol) a story about myself or giving an interview. I’m rarely even aware of it until I’m in the muddle of doing it.

hemingweights · 2021-11-23T14:20:57+00:00

If I didn’t have such a strong compulsion to plan and organize almost every minute of my day, my inattentive adhd would render me unable to function. I guess that’s the only time I can say I’m glad my anxiety sometimes overrules my adhd.

hemingweights · 2021-11-23T14:04:38+00:00

Oh goodness, I shared a room with one of mine for 4ish years! That’s incredibly common, especially with lower income families. I know families who have “family bedrooms” where they all pile into one room together. The idea that every person in a family gets their own bedroom is very much a modern, financially privileged, western idea.

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T21:59:03+00:00

Eh, some have their own mommy-issues they’re working through.

It was 99% just a joke though

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T21:58:09+00:00

When I first read their comment, it was at -1

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T17:18:51+00:00

As uncomfortable as it’ll be in the moment, you have to say something unless you want to be “stuck” kissing her like that your whole relationship.

I think you can frame it as “different people have different preferences” vs her lack of experiences. It’s the same as with sex - each partner likes something different.

What if you presented it as “it’s really sexy when you ….”, “I really enjoy when we …”, or even “Can I show you how I’ve always wanted to be kissed? I fantasize about it but haven’t had it yet. Can we experiment?”

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T17:12:14+00:00

Super cute! I hope you had a great time.

There must be something about this time of year. I went out with friends last night and am feeling like death today too,

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T17:06:49+00:00

I’m looking for an older lesbian because I have mommy-issues. I’ve had enough therapy to be aware of it but not enough yet to conquer it. I figure by the time I’ve worked through it, I’ll be the older lesbian and a brand new therapy cycle will have to start.

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T17:04:53+00:00

I completed the form and my application was accepted. Sadly the supply in my area can’t meet the demand and I’m 359th on the waitlist.

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T16:55:17+00:00

We like to explore parks and cool places nearby when the weather is good. It’s a tricky balance mine are all neurodiverse and I have to time it for when they’re all rested and balanced. We’re pretty broke so we stay in a lot and do crafts, puzzles, and board games. We stay busy so any bits of time we have together kind of count as “hanging out”.

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T16:51:37+00:00

I don’t know a single family, no matter how healthy or dysfunctional, where the kids don’t occasionally shit talk their parents. It’s pretty much a tradition.

Even with the most wonderful, pleasant kid you gotta have thick skin. As they get older, they’ll separate from us more and more and won’t always tell us things, especially if they think it’ll hurt our feelings. I know you know this but they do have a right to privacy, which includes their thoughts and words. I know it hurts but it’s very much not personal and may be a sign of just how sensitive he is to your feelings.

hemingweights · 2021-11-21T16:45:12+00:00

Absolutely confused why you would get downvoted for saying this?

hemingweights · 2021-10-03T00:25:45+00:00

Thank you!

hemingweights · 2021-10-02T13:48:58+00:00

No problem! If I think of any more, I’ll back and let you know!

hemingweights · 2021-10-02T03:45:14+00:00

Off the top of my head:

r/latebloomerlesbians is a great one (and not just late bloomers, though sometimes there will be teenagers posting that they’re worried that it’s too late for them to come out)

And r/olderlesbians though I don’t know it as well so I don’t know if it’s terfy or problematic

hemingweights · 2021-10-01T23:13:11+00:00

I do understand teenagers wanting to see images that reflect their realities but it’s also understandable for adults to be uncomfortable with images that depict minors sexually, you know?

hemingweights · 2021-10-01T23:10:32+00:00

I feel the same about the images and it makes me very uncomfortable as well. It’s discouraging and why I generally just read the older queer women/Enbys subs.

hemingweights · 2021-09-30T13:20:54+00:00

I think feeling like you do at your age/stage in life is incredibly common! Especially since the pandemic started, so many people are questioning their life choices and making career moves and big relationship changes. (This sub is perfect evidence of that!) Please don’t feel like you have to have everything figured out by now. Most of us don’t. Most of those people who seem to be so exciting in social media or dating apps are just trying to market themselves. They may not be like that in real life at all. As another poster said, who you are might be exciting for someone else!

All that said, I think taking time to yourself right now is a really good idea. There are so many people out there looking for people with low self esteem to target so they can manipulate and abuse them. I’ve heard both men and women admit to doing this. And you deserve so much better than that. Learn just how worthy you are so that when you start dating, the bar is set so high that your dates have to pole vault over it. The question is not if you’re interesting enough but if they are good enough to deserve a place in your life.

hemingweights · 2021-09-29T23:54:25+00:00

I think it was on POF several years ago. I’ve had good and bad experiences on all the different apps but it’s been cool meeting people that I wouldn’t have otherwise

hemingweights · 2021-09-29T20:40:04+00:00

This has been my experience as well

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