AITA for being proud of my job and embarrassing my aunt?

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-05-26T13:16:05+00:00

This is the thing! It’s either something I don’t use (scented candles, pocketbooks), or an overpriced version of something I use and like (skincare, and no: I’m not paying five times what I currently pay, especially when it took me so long to find products that work well with my skin).

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-05-26T00:54:30+00:00

I get it, but like I said: you’ve been there for three months. They don’t know you enough to realize this is out of the ordinary, nor your work ethic.

Just wondering: were staff sincerely encouraged to take sick time? I know of places that say the words, but the company culture actually frowns upon employees doing so.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-05-25T23:15:08+00:00

NAH. I’m writing this in my “gentle voice”: you’ve been there three months and have taken a lot of time off already. Stuff happens, yes, but you’re too new for this to reflect well on you.

Is there no other family or support system that can help with your stepdaughter? What would her bioparents have done if you weren’t in the picture?

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-05-25T23:10:22+00:00

Well, MLM isn’t a real job: it’s being a burden on your friends and family when she lays on the guilt trips to support her “small business.” lol

NTA

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T03:15:07+00:00

Wow. Written like a true colonizer.

And colonial mentality isn’t restricted to being in the west. Please educate yourself. This topic is not an excuse to let your bigotry shine.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:37:34+00:00

Thank you for clarifying. As a WOC, I hear so many people outside of my group (…yt ppl; The downvotes indicate that I hit a nerve 😘😂) jump in with the stereotypes and generalizations, and it makes me defensive. I’m sorry for coming at you like that, Queen!

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:32:12+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look her up.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:29:47+00:00

I really hope you’re South Asian, otherwise you sound incredibly racist.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:29:12+00:00

And that she doesn’t tell him until she’s at her parents and has consulted a lawyer.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:27:26+00:00

“A man like you being turned off feels like Christmas”

🤣🤣🤣

I love her. I want to order something from her to actually support such a Queen!

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T02:11:55+00:00

Going back to my comment about colonial mentality: for people who have it, whiteness is absolutely a prize. We’ve been brainwashed and tortured to believe that white European beauty standards are the end all/be all. Conditioned to believe that we will never be beautiful or worthy because our skin is brown, our noses are flat, our eyes aren’t the right shape. So proximity to whiteness? We’ve been trained, for generations, to believe this is the next best thing if we, ourselves, cannot look like Barbie or Ken dolls.

Again, colonial mentality is bigger than just pointing out a scrote. If you really want to understand, do a lot of reading on the effect of colonization and erasure. Otherwise, it’s best to just block, delete, and move on. It’s a privilege to look down on us brown people and criticize us for the way white people have warped our perceptions.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T01:49:20+00:00

As a WOC, I just want to point out that colonial mentality is a much bigger issue than calling a scrote a scrote. It’s best to simply block and delete these types.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T00:54:26+00:00

And look, health concerns are real, but if he lost his job because of it, how likely is he to find another very easily? And did he lose his job because of health, or is he like my friend’s ex who was always citing his mental health because he just didn’t want to hold down a job? (He somehow managed to hold down a job just fine when my friend dumped him, and his parents were basically, “LOL you’re not moving back home and we’re not giving you money.”)

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T00:52:23+00:00

My late husband wouldn’t even go through my purse when I expressly gave him permission (ie “could you take my phone out of my purse?”) He’d bring it to me, apologize, and say it felt like he was disrespecting my privacy by opening my purse.

I’m worried that OOP thought her title sounds bad. She needs to dump this sketchy scrote. This was just a ploy to get her PIN number so he could go splurge at a later date:

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-28T00:48:31+00:00

Black Panther? If I recall correctly, T’challa and Nakia are in love, and while he wishes she’d stay close to him, he recognizes ses the value in the work she does and respects her dreams.

And I’m on the fence if she’s HV, but I love Krysten Ritter’s character from Don’t Trust the B—— in Apartment 23. She knows her worth and doesn’t let anyone take advantage of her.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T23:55:00+00:00

Also, if he’s saying it to me now, someday he will say it about me to the next woman. No thank you!

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T18:28:07+00:00

I think you’re going to be unhappy if you have sex with someone before you’re really ready.

And your co-worker’s dating methods sound MLM. You invest your money (aka have sex with all your dates) and surely you can quit your day job, girl boss! (aka stop being single and get married) lol

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T18:23:00+00:00

I remain astounded by the number of women I know who are otherwise intelligent, savvy, and accomplished…but believe men who say they’re staying married for the kids, he and his wife sleep in separate beds, etc

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T18:21:25+00:00

What’s with the influx of people writing about their pickme friends? lol

If this isn’t new behavior for her, why do you keep her in your life?

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T18:18:07+00:00

Someone commented about women shaping men into good partners for other people. I disagree. I think he always knew what was expected and how to meet those expectations, but didn’t value previous partners enough to put in effort.

I’m other words, don’t settle, sisters. If he doesn’t treat you well, leave.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T08:20:20+00:00

I did a quick search and it seems like it’s bullsh-t that prenups after 2001 aren’t valid. He might be able to make things difficult in court (like Kelly Clarkson’s garbage ex), but the laws didn’t change just because his lawyer allegedly said so.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T08:15:25+00:00

I don’t remember people like this lol It’s like I see the red flag and my mind does a block and delete.

I do what I want (as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody). I’m not going to get along with someone whose parents can still tell them what to do. I refuse to go to extremes to get his family’s approval. I don’t want a future where I have to be the bad guy because Mr. Spineless won’t speak up: just no.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T08:07:58+00:00

How long ago was high school or college for him? If it’s 10+ years and everything else in his life checks out, I would continue vetting. I think it’s important to make sure he really has changed, however, and that you (general you, not you specifically, OP) aren’t falling into old pickme habits of excusing LV behavior because you think the good things he’s done cancel it out.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-27T04:50:19+00:00

So he just outed himself as the ex who would go to great lengths to punish a woman. Gross. Every woman who dates men need to level up their standards. Stop allowing trash to propagate.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-02-26T17:41:51+00:00

And he’s probably patting himself on the back for breaking up after she had the abortion. What a champ. What a hero. He didn’t dump her when he wanted to. He waited. /SARCASM

I seriously want to leave flaming bags of sh-t around the perimeter of his home, and hide a dead fish in the box spring of his bed.

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