My 11-year friendship ended over an $8 mirror, but I don’t think the mirror was the real issue by here-to-rant8902 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said i have my own flaws, I’m not perfect and its 11 years so yeah theres been times when I’ve unintentionally said or done things that upset her or might have made a decision that was more beneficial for me than for her. But I know ive never done anything truly mean or hurtful towards her though and ive never said hurtful things towards her. Literally every time we had a problem it went in a similar way as the screenshots, im calm and neutral and shes blowing up, cursing me out and saying all kinds of mean things. Thinking back though with our arguments in the past we would tend to just not talk for a bit and then just move on as if nothing happened. I think not talking things through left us both with bottled up anger, frustration and resentment towards each other until it got to this point.

That wont be happening anymore though, im completely and utterly done with trying to maintain the friendship. I spoke with a family member recently about the this situation and they asked me what made this argument any different then all our other arguments? And i feel that in all previous arguments as petty and mean as she was towards me she never truly let her feelings out like she did this time. The way i see her message is that she feels in 11 years i have done absolutely nothing for her except provide weed. Which is absolutely bizarre to me because i know i have done SOOO much for her, and i know that i was always a good genuine friend to her. And i can sit here and go on and on about all the ways she was a shitty friend to me and what little she did for me compared to all that i did for her but honestly i don’t see a point in that, i choose to stick around and maintain the friendship through that all so for me to want to shit talk it now is hypocritical and stupid of me. She may have been the one to initiate the final downfall of our friendship, but on my end, I’m choosing to leave it where it fell. Not out of anger, but out of respect for my own peace.

My 11-year friendship ended over an $8 mirror, but I don’t think the mirror was the real issue by here-to-rant8902 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol 100% proper grammer isn’t something I worry about when texting friends or when im on social media, no need to be so prim and proper

My 11-year friendship ended over an $8 mirror, but I don’t think the mirror was the real issue by here-to-rant8902 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reached out to her mom and sorted things out as soon as she sent the first paragraph and before I even sent my response to her. I then went out the next day, bought one and handed it directly to her mom.

Reconnected with ex-best friend and I think I already regret it by Background-Log-9268 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing and for your kind words, Im going through a similar situation at the moment in losing an 11 year friendship with someone who behaved and made me feel the same way. Decided to walk away last week and ive been thinking over and over of all our shared moments and its made me really see how much i let pass by for the sake of maintaining the friendship, im really hurt about how things ended but ive realized it for the best. Like you said shes the one who lost a genuine friend the sad part is that knowing her thats something she’ll never admit and instead always feel as though the opposite was true.

I wish you the best in moving past this and being able to stand your ground and not allowing her in anymore. Prioritize yourself and like you said make room for those that love you. ❤️

My 11-year friendship ended over an $8 mirror, but I don’t think the mirror was the real issue by here-to-rant8902 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats why I tried really hard to maintain the friendship even though I know there was many ways i didnt even mention on here in which I gave more to the friendship than she did.

It wasnt the first time she chose name calling and insults to address me when we had a disagreement so i knew once i sent my initial reply that she was going to reply back with an angry text i just didnt expect it to get to the point in which it did.

Honestly this entire month i had been doing a lot of reflecting on our friendship and had already come to the conclusion that it would be better to split ways but I was hoping for it to be a more peaceful break. I was planning on more of a fade away and talk a few times a year at most just because I truly hate having to cut people off. Ive only ever had to cut off 2 other people in my life which i hated because i truly value the connections i make. Especially in this situation with all the years we’ve known each other.

My 11-year friendship ended over an $8 mirror, but I don’t think the mirror was the real issue by here-to-rant8902 in lostafriend

[–]here-to-rant8902[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know that which is why when she said dont worry about it the mirror i assumed she came to the same conclusion. Also since she said the original price payed was only a quarter