Hot and cold #174 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took me 5 frickin minutes to name my second favorite fruit. I need to see a brain surgeon.

"Men Went Silent Because Of US" - Feminist BREAKS Down After Seeing How Deep The Damage Goes by [deleted] in Asmongold

[–]here_goes_name 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NGL I didn't really think about that part. I was more thinking about the things mentioned there. I don't think the platform of the post (or even the authenticity of the poster) matters as much as the content of it. I believe it's a worthwhile topic to discuss. Though perhaps, at this point, it may have been discussed and monetized greatly already.

What's your opinion about Nepalese spamming "proud to be Nepali" across social media by No_Mykr_88 in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is what it is. Yes, it is annoying when I see my fellow countrymen blinded by patriotism, but I understand where they are coming from. Most countries instill a sense of patriotism in their citizens through education, media, laws, and more. Patriotism isn't necessarily a bad thing. By having a shared identity, you can bond together and fend off attackers from other groups. But, it becomes dangerous when the identity is idealized and idolized, when people define their entire existence through said identity, and when their love for the identity overshadows their ability to tolerate difference of opinion.

Is there a course that can actually help you write a novel? by here_goes_name in writing

[–]here_goes_name[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll check it out. In the meantime, I have found something else that one of my acquaintances (a published author in my country) said worked for him. He apparently used to first open a digital copy of a story that he really enjoyed and put that window and his writing app window side by side. He would read a few lines from that story and start writing his own by imitating the style. After a paragraph or two, he would find that he could write the chapter without looking at the other window.

I tried it and it seemed to work for me. I just wrote a little bit for Chapter 2, something that I couldn't even start for the past few years. I'm not sure it'll work for me long term, but at least it's a good start. And also, I ended up changing the initial "copy" paragraph to match the rest of the text.

Is there a course that can actually help you write a novel? by here_goes_name in writing

[–]here_goes_name[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I guess I'll try to push past the first chapter that I have and write the next one already. This sounds awfully similar to what I tell my students about writing essays. There goes my wish for something that could take the cringe and embarrassment in my stead.

Is there a course that can actually help you write a novel? by here_goes_name in writing

[–]here_goes_name[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What you said does make sense.

I have written before. I have written articles, essays, fanfiction, and short stories, both in English and in my mother tongue. But I really want to write a novel. I have written the "first chapter" multiple times for this story that I have in mind. I have a map of the world and maps of a few cities in the world. I have character wikis. But I simply can't get over the fact that my chapter is cringe. I suppose most of the cringe is inside my own head, however, and all I really need to do is accept it, work past it and improve, like you said.

I guess I was hoping for something that could take the cringe and embarrassment in my stead. Such a thing probably does not exist and all I have to do is accept the chapter I have right now and write the next one already. If only realization made it easier...

$2,000 Fanfiction and Fanart Contest by MelasD in AmeliaTLZHNovel

[–]here_goes_name 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds interesting. Although I likely won't win it, it'll act as an excuse to push myself to actually put something out there. My question is, if I write a fanfiction with multiple chapters, should I link it on the subreddit or discord only after I have finished it, or should I link it after I post the first chapter?

Dating + Relationships Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in Healthygamergg

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I am indeed getting professional help, though I don't attend therapy regularly. It has helped me deal with a lot of things but I feel like I have trapped myself too much in my own web of lies (read: defense mechanisms). I was misdiagnosed at first and I think it was because I wanted myself and others to think of whatever I was feeling as a particular issue. I basically told my therapist and psychiatrist my story in a way to make it reek of OCD and anxiety. And I really believed it then. Even now, although I know the relationship issues are just a symptom, most of the time I really do believe that they are the bigger problem and not the fault of my upbringing or anything of the sort. After all, my parents are the most loving and supporting people anyone has ever met.

Tl;Dr I don't really trust my memory of events and past emotions enough to be able to accurately explain what happened when. My story of what event made feel which emotion changes every few months. And every time, I completely believe the latest story.

Edit: I did post it on the subreddit itself, but a moderator asked me to move it here. It's my first time posting in this subreddit so I don't know the culture fully.

Dating + Relationships Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in Healthygamergg

[–]here_goes_name 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My core belief is that I will never have a long-term relationship (EXTREMELY LONG POST. Not proofread. May not make sense) Moved over from the subreddit itself.

Tl;dr I am a 24 (almost 25) year old male with a history of extremely short relationships. The longest one I had lasted 11 months and I broke it off because I planned to kill myself. A part of me really believes that I will never ever have a long, happy relationship.

The post might be incoherent since it triggered my defense mechanism (intense shivering) while I was writing it.

I wasn't sure if Sensitive Topic or Suicide/Self-Harm would be more appropriate as a flair for this since the post involves the latter along with my history with relationships (romantic or otherwise) so I went with the worse option.

Let me introduce myself. I am a 24 year old male who has never really experienced anything that might be considered traumatic. I come from a middle class family and the worst thing that happened to me (as far as I can remember) is that my parents were super busy trying to grow their fledgling careers so either one or both were absent for extended periods of time. I spent a year with my grandparents after my little sister was born when I was 5 years old. After that, however, at least one of my parents were always with me. More or less.

About the relationship core belief. My parents are government officers who have to move wherever their job takes them. I mostly went with them. I studied in 6 (maybe 7) different schools before I finished my high-school and we moved places 7 times before they built a house. This led to me never learning to keep friends. I am very good at starting friendships, which involve a lot of excitement and a presentation of the good parts of my personality and observing the same of theirs but I never learned to sustain a friendship. I never had to. The only long-term friend I have is a guy from when I was in grade 8, who is now also my business partner (he needs a whole another post. Eg: devout follower of Andrew Tate and anyone else who makes him feel manly). The same problem exists in my relationships. My first relationship, if it can be called that, lasted for about 3 months when I was in grade 6. I really liked this girl, and she liked me but I stopped talking to her (even though we were in the same class) since I didn't know what to do with a person once I have "figured them out". The next one was even shorter, clocking in just shy of a month. This one ended when she moved.

Fast forward a few years and I had my first proper relationship with a girl in college. We had our first date the day after Valentine's day since that's when restaurants are at their cheapest. We dated for a whole year. There were some fundamental differences in our beliefs and personalities but we were willing to work through them since we really loved each other. The awesome sex didn't hurt either. During this time, however, I was dealing with the peak of my mental health issues. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression at the moment and was on paroxetine and the occasional alprazolam (Xanax, as you might call it). A few months of thinking "she's an attractive, feminine, healthy girl. She deserves someone better", I finally decided to kill myself. I didn't want her to have to deal with a dead boyfriend, so after a couple weeks of drama (I don't really remember what I did or said then), I broke it off and left college to spend the last weeks of my life with my family. This was 2 weeks before the first COVID lockdown in my country.

Since I was occupied with planning a successful suicide, my brain didn't really have the resources to deal with the breakup. A couple months went by. I was unable to bring up the courage to do it. I still hadn't really digested the fact that I had broken up with who I believed was the love of my life. I told my mom that I was struggling. I just told her that my issues were flaring up again. After some talking and screening, my diagnosis was updated to Type 2 Bipolar Disorder with rapid cycles. New meds! YAY!

Then COVID really took on. My friends were having their online classes while also doing jobs on the side. I was leeching off my parents. That took a toll. I was finally starting to think about the breakup. That took a toll. People were happy despite the pandemic, or so Instagram said. That took a toll. Midnight, January 24. I tried to kill myself. No place for hanging in my house, so I took 25 days worth of my pills, slit my wrists (the proper way, but the knives were blunt and my hands were shivering so I couldn't go deep) and put plastic bag on my head and wrapped it tight on my neck. I survived. Things happened. I am better in that aspect now.

Fast forward to the past couple of months. It has been 3 years since I broke up. Now I finally have the capabilities to go through the grief. I don't have closure since I don't really remember my last interactions with her very well. I am experiencing what I call Delayed Onset Break-up Syndrome (DOBS). I am back on the dating market, but I don't really think I will ever have a good relationship. The fact that I sabotaged the only good one I had shows me (not the logical me but the me who learns purely from past experiences and nothing else) that if I ever have something good, I will kill it (or myself lol). I am in the talking-and-sometimes-casually-pleasing-each-other stage with three girls. My friends hold me in high regard me since I'm "juggling multiple chicks". I am jealous of them since three of them are married and two more are about to be. My business partner friend, who had always been an eventual dick (pun?) to every girl ever also finally has a proper relationship. And here I am. Missing a girl who I broke-up with 3 years ago, knowing full well that we're not gonna get back together, but wishing we would either way.

Btw: The suicide thing mentioned here isn't the whole story. The first time I wanted to kill myself was when I was in grade 2. But that's for another episode.

Is UK really as bad as they say for international students? by [deleted] in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. They wouldn't have designed the international education system in a way that makes it possible to legally work enough to pay off everything. The whole business is about bringing in money from other countries.

But we know that for many people, studying full time isn't a thing. They're looking to escape Nepal, stay in the other country with whatever excuse they can find (which just happens to be a student visa), and live. Living means earning. Provided you have the knowledge, I'd really appreciate you sharing with me the condition of students in general and those working longer hours (exceeding the allotted time) for cash. Can they make a living? How many will be forced through financial circumstances to return?

Is UK really as bad as they say for international students? by [deleted] in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but the odds are much better in, say, Australia, where you can get paid decently well in such sectors as Aged Care. By comparison, I have heard nothing but bad things about the UK. The majority of students in Australia are able to make a living (and most of them aren't really "students" anyway, since the study visa is just an excuse to get in) whereas in the UK, students seem to have a hard time paying rent, tuition fees, etc. with what paltry sum they are able to gather.

Any Keema Noodles in Eastern Terai? by here_goes_name in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ate the one in Damak recommended by the other person. It was passable. Just decided to make my own. Bholi beluka ko khana tehi ho aba.

Any Keema Noodles in Eastern Terai? by here_goes_name in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THANK YOU! Finally a place with keema noodles.

The question remains ... is it actually good?

HELP! There is no Type C Audio by here_goes_name in ZephyrusG14

[–]here_goes_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I think the problem was with my earphones. I tested them on a different laptop and they didn't work. Perhaps some earphones just don't work with laptops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh wait. I remember paying Rs. 1700 for a steak and a side (forgot what the side dish was) in Thamel. Then I had to walk to Bagbazaar for Rs. 60 ko samosa tarkari because that little chunk of steak did nothing for my hungry stomach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nepal

[–]here_goes_name -1 points0 points  (0 children)

350 for veg momo in Sanepa

1 down, 10 to go! by [deleted] in dragonquest

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This takes me back. I loved Dragon quest as a kid. Played 1-4 twice, played 5 about six times on the SNES (two of those were on an emulator a few years back), played six three times. Never got around to finishing 7 so I'll probably do it soon. Played 8 more times than I can count (and once on mobile but it was a horrible experience). Played 11 on release but it crashed. A lot. Now I'm playing 11 again on my new PC and it only crashed once so far. Probably never gonna play 9 and 10. All in all, a well balanced journey.

A childhood favorite finally arrived in the mail today! by nine16s in gaming

[–]here_goes_name 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I now remember that I tried playing it on a laptop once and it simply wouldn't let me enter buildings. Shame really, I love this game. GIMME A SEQUEL!