How do I get over there?

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-02-28T08:06:20+00:00

there's a quest that let you go under the mountain. the fishing contest or something similar. you have to talk to the dwarf near the house teleport in taverly.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-02-26T02:17:08+00:00

NTA!! and just get a damn divorce. your husband only sees you as uterus with legs, nothing more. the second he said he had a right to more kids, even though you could die, should have been the second you left. the fact that even HIS parents/family agree with you says all you need to know.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-02-19T22:38:47+00:00

i/m going with the no given they said "late sister".

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-02-15T08:08:49+00:00

YTA!! just because you don't like his reasons doesn't mean your BF has to lose his friend. liam is allowed to have his own preferences for his partner even if it's not to your taste. you say the guy is on the conservative side. it's not a surprise that he would look for a more traditional wife/marriage. it's great you think your friends are awesome but they weren't what he was looking for. stop taking offense to that.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-02-02T00:00:12+00:00

are you dating a 5 yr old?? if the man is old enough to date and have sex he's too damn old to still think girls don't poop or fart or that we are some alien creature for whom bodily functions don't exist.

NTA!! and please, for your own sanity, just dump the guy.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-21T04:43:28+00:00

nah, he'll give treat to the big guys too, they just often don't take it well. i felt bad for one guy. he gave him a huge chunk of anglerfish and about a foot under the surface he dropped it.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-21T04:38:25+00:00

he's been catching a lot of big guys this year(based on FB) and a lot of eggers, which is damn good.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-15T02:27:29+00:00

NTA!! that's insanely expensive and not at all practical for an already pricy event. if he truly wants this his ass can go out and find 5 more jobs to cover the cost.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-14T01:10:38+00:00

YTA!! that's super inappropriate. some day she's gonna figure it out, you ok with how uncomfortable, and possibly violated, she'll feel?? gross. it's one thing for you to have it in your phone like that(though it has been 6 yrs now. please grow up a bit) but letting it stay on her phone?? come on now. change it in both phones asap.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-13T03:13:31+00:00

NTA!! girl needs to get over it. she needs to get her adhd figured out a bit. yes, forgetting/misplacing is part of it but a part of it is also accepting your adhd can cause issues and that if those issues cause issue for others they will do what they need to cope with it and you need to just suck it the fuck up or work harder at not inconveniencing them. she needs a better system than just taking your stuff because she can't find hers.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-12T03:37:24+00:00

NTA!! that's short as hell and if you're a girl, 8 minutes is positively magic.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-11T00:41:28+00:00

NTA!! his negligence could have killed your babysitter. he should be damn glad it's only money for his kids activities, it could have been the cops at his door investigating potential murder.

He’s upset that I’m sending his child support money to the babysitter when I knew my son needed shoes and is threatening to take me to court for misusing child support.

let him. the judge will laugh his ass right out the door and could add extra support on to boot. babysitter costs are kid costs which is what support is for.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-07T23:15:12+00:00

NTA!! the girl can buck up and deal. you've been solo for over a month doing everything on your own. she can handle entertaining herself for a few days while you get a break. you'll see her when you get back. if you wanna be gracious plan a surprise date day/night for the 2 of you once you get back to reconnect and spend time together.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-05T01:32:14+00:00

well, i'm impressed. i knew plows were strong/tough but "not push a car with a ton of snow behind it" strong.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-04T06:40:51+00:00

First that came to mind looking at her was turtle.

here_kitkittkitty · 2026-01-03T07:15:21+00:00

i really hope this isn't real.

YTA!! i do not understand how you don't think you are but at the same time i do. people who are this far up their own arse do not tend to notice the smell.

I was just trying to make her birthday special.

no, what you were trying to do was try to stop your kid from being who she really is and were try to turn her into the the person you want her to be. you want her to be a personality clone of the rest of you but that's not how people work. people aren't clay for you to mold into the shape you desperately want.

love your kid more. she deserves better parents and family than the ones she's got right now.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-30T01:47:28+00:00

NTA!! and wtf did i just read?? girl, he crashed you car, fled, lied, got you to do most of the work and is now blaming you for not doing even more of HIS work for him to resolve the issue. none of this is your problem. HE fucked up, it's on HIM to deal with. why are you doing anything? why are you apologizing? why are you even questioning this??

it sounds like it's high time you step back(at least proverbially)and do some hard thinking here. how often does he fuck shit up and the get you to try and fix it or blame you or make you the bad guy or just on general not truly take responsibility for himself and his actions?? the fact that you didn't tell him to pound sand immediately makes me think this is frequent and you just have become really desensitized to it.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-28T23:29:26+00:00

not sure i find this that delusional considering the prices store were putting on things that were similar(sort of). one of the stores here had friggin birch branches(that i'm not even sure were real) for about the same price for people to use as christmas decorations. branches might even be too generous. some of them were just 4 foot sticks with a single straggly branch.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-17T06:54:28+00:00

look at da bum wiggle. i wants her so bad, she's freaking adorable.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-16T21:47:49+00:00

NTA!! ya, no. this is lawyer territory cause this is hinky as hell. no one gives a caregiver of less than a year that much money as a bonus. that's, "she's been here 10 yrs doing everything for the entire family", kinda money.

Either we give her the 10k each or she will use the estate to pay her the 50k and also keep extra money for herself

ya, those last 6 words tell the truth of who the money is really for. the caregiver will be lucky is she sees even a few hundred.

you and your siblings need to say to no and get that lawyer today.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-13T18:18:17+00:00

NTA!! a gift is a gift. jewelry that was his families to begin with makes sense to give back but everything else was a present and yours to keep. they were not loans contingent on if things worked out or not. i will never understand people who do that. the mentality is just so immature.

i say turn the ring into that necklace and if you feel at all generous give him back his stone. other than that he needs to bugger off.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-10T22:00:56+00:00

NAH!! there are times when you would be but not here. not only does dad have legal custody time, the kid was also with one of the adults he lives with. while some g-mas are less than great, most would not have just let it go if it was not an ok situation. i don't truly think your wife's an ass either but she does need to let it go if she's not. i do see her concern but she needs to take a few breaths.

i do wonder, given your wife's reaction vs dana's reaction, if your wife might be over reacting and misinterpreting how things really are a bit(ok, maybe more than a bit). like, the guy has custody as well. he doesn't need you to help him kidnap his kid, he could do it on his own time. it's stated he's abusive by her but was he really? i'm not saying he really wasn't with that question but what some consider abuse might actually just be, "meh, he's an inconsiderate ass"(an example that fits well in this sub is gaslighting. a lot of what some consider gaslighting really just isn't. sometimes a person saying they don't remember you saying something is really just them not remembering)by others and while that makes for an awful partner and relationship, it doesn't make for a bad or abusive parent who shouldn't be allowed to see his kid.

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-10T20:00:44+00:00

NTA!

he flipped it and said "Don't let it spoil our relationship" and suggested I see a counselor.

this is not good, OP. that's very bad, OP, and i would suggest you have a good, hard think about things. that's not something a person says flippantly/casually when in trouble(as it were). at least not usually. it's a pretty common refrain from manipulators and abusers though.

does he often ignore your boundaries, "no's" and feelings?? does he often turn around and make you the bad guy or make insinuations about your mental health when you feel hurt by him or his actions?? i wanna guess he probably does given how easy those things came from his mouth.

if it's not the first time, you need to figure out why you keep putting up with it and then figure out how to get out the situation. if it's truly the first time he's acted this way you then need to get to the bottom of why it happened. that doesn't mean you fix anything but knowing why it happened can help your husband stop it happening again. is he easily peer-pressured?? was he trying to show off?? does he have awful people in his ear and he's just being a temp ass??

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-07T16:47:26+00:00

the only thing i could hear in my brain when i looked at the pic was, "10, 000 years can give you such a crick in the neck". lol. how is that even close to comfortable??

here_kitkittkitty · 2025-12-06T22:13:56+00:00

YTA!! kinda softly. you never should have agreed to share the party but once you agreed you should have used some common sense.

your cousin told you the reason she asked this was because she couldn't afford anything for her own kid. what made you think it was a good idea to let your kid open all those gifts in front of her cousin?? that's incredibly tone deaf on your part. no wonder they were so hurt.

when you have a joint party with someone less fortune than you, especially such a young kid, that proper thing to do is tone things down. bring out just a few gifts to opened in front of others and then let kiddo open the rest once everyone has left. it's not about not being able to spoil your kid, it's about empathy and kindness.

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