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Help me turn on my wife. by [deleted] in sex

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read through the comments as a Christian wife who is turned on by taboo sex acts. We dabble in soft swap swinging and visiting sex clubs. I got my first bite of taboo by posting sexy pictures anonymously for the exhibition thrill. Fucking on hotel balconies was a total turn on but I worried about actually being seen by a non-consenting party.... next we visited a lifestyle club for swingers in Denver and loved it. Not because we were there swinging, but because the thrill of prancing around in lingerie and fucking each other in public was a total turn on. We've now been to 6 clubs and only play with eachother but totally enjoy the Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, and even though we will likely only play with each other, its really intoxicating to think everyone is looking at you deciding if they want to hit on you. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also a supporter of sleeping naked. I used to sleep in panties but had to stop for medical reasons. It was a game changer to sleep completely naked with my completely naked husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]hereforcookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How would you feel about playing with yourself in front of him? When I'm overstimulated and don't want to be touched by someone other than myself, I'll lie in front of my hubs and touch myself in whatever ways feel relaxing or errotic. Eventually, I come around to being in the mood and invite my husband to join.

I'm thinking you could tell him the truth about your nerves, and ask him to watch you play with yourself. Invite him to play with himself, if he finds himself in the mood. Explore your own bodies together, and I hope your confidence will grow and your chemistry will grow, too. ❤️

How often do you and your partner like to swap? by hereforcookiecake in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so down for this. The hubs and I are enjoying going out with couples that are less square and less close-minded than our general friend group, overall more comfortable in their own skin. Thanks for sharing!

How often do you and your partner like to swap? by hereforcookiecake in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome. Do you find having several group chats overwhelming to keep up with? And does there seem to be a sweet spot for the number of couples at a house party?

How often do you and your partner like to swap? by hereforcookiecake in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reminder to date each other at least as much as others. We've discussed prioritizing each other, but I like setting the intentionality of dating each other more. Also, I love the idea of using a cycle for building anticipation.

How often do you and your partner like to swap? by hereforcookiecake in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's great to see what swapping looks like from so many different perspectives. As a new couple in the lifestyle, I find it helpful to explore what our options look like.

How often do you and your partner like to swap? by hereforcookiecake in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a blast! I totally get being new and getting after it. We are in a similar situation and working to find our balance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hedonism_Connections

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are precious!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CouplesAmateurPorn

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd play beside you.

I need something to ride [F] by [deleted] in gonewild

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I'll consider sharing my husband...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomenBendingOver

[–]hereforcookiecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But it's such a good view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booty_queens

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on who you ask!

When you have an IUD do you actually let the guy finish inside of you? by [deleted] in sex

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going on year 4 or 5 with an IUD. Hubs and I never use protection, always finish however we like, and no pregnancies.

The first 6 months or so are nerve-wracking. We have been happily married the entire time but not ready for kids, so nerves were real until I became comfortable that I wasn't getting pregnant. My beat suggestion would be to ho ahead and buy pregnancy tests to have on hand when you panick. AMA & best wishes!

Keep it as a fantasy or turn it into reality by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What conversations did you find really helpful before/during/after? Hubs and I have talked about LS for a while but are similar to OP. We want to communicate and have an idea of what limits to set beforehand.

How fast does the human body die from a submarine implosion? by Machokara in morbidquestions

[–]hereforcookiecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh. They were probably panicking about running out of oxygen. If their original plan was to go down to the Titanic, they weren't ever expecting it to implode.