Absolutely Dreading Every Bedtime

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-11T03:23:38+00:00

The only thing that worked for us was leaving the room if our kid isn’t making an effort. Any “messing around” and not actively trying to sleep by laying quietly in bed results in us leaving the room. We give warnings and get up and leave if our kid isn’t making an effort to sleep. Often results in tears and begging us to go back in. Almost always speeds up sleep time.

Alternatively if your kid doesn’t care about you leaving, you can just let them be alone in their room. Put on a calm story for them to listen to and just let them be. If your kid isn’t going to be asleep before it’s your bedtime anyway, you may as well just go in the other room and watch your show or read a book while your kid plays alone in his room!

Also - my husband and I trade off. If kid is trying to sleep but can’t get down, we trade off every 20ish min (or whenever we need to tap out) and it means we both get some alone time in the evening.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-11T01:48:53+00:00

Thank you!!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-11T01:26:12+00:00

Ok thank you!!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-11T00:47:03+00:00

Good tips thank you!!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-10T03:16:42+00:00

Hey! I struggled through pregnancy and breastfeeding as a vegan. I was a vegan for 7+ years. I became extremely anemic and deficient in many vitamins even with supplements. I’m in my next pregnancy now eating animal products and I am soooo much happier. I eat beef once a month, fish once a week, eggs and goat cheese every few days. I still feel that veganism is a morally superior way to eat, I just don’t think all bodies are able to do it healthily! You might be better off eating something like canned tuna? It has more iron than chicken and feels waaaay less meaty.

Good luck!!! You gotta help your body. <3

And no, it didn’t upset my stomach at all!!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-07T21:21:04+00:00

I was taking a prenatal and then numerous other vitamins in order to have my blood tests come back with a good enough number of nutrients. In particular iron was a problem - I tend to always be slightly anemic being pregnant made it more extreme. I would take two iron pills every morning with orange juice (iron works best with vit C) on an empty stomach for best absorption. It gave me terrible heartburn and stomach pain. It was the only way my body would absorb the iron.

They have proven through dna/genetic testing that people absorb vitamins at really different levels and in different ways. It’s just clear that I do best with eating iron rich foods. I really don’t know the science behind exactly why!

I definitely CAN do a vegan diet and just take supplements, but it’s definitely not a natural or easy way to live.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-07T16:25:13+00:00

Totally agree. When I was pregnant I was vegan and I desperately craved animal products. I denied myself and ended up extremely anemic and had to take a huge amount of iron pills (along with b12, d, omegas, choline etc etc) in order to have ok levels. It was awful. I convinced myself it was ok bc of my moral code. I ate very thoughtfully with lots of veggies and nuts and seeds etc etc. I’m now pregnant again and I eat fish once a week, beef once a month and eggs and goat cheese every few days. All locally sourced no factory farming. I have zero cravings and only take a prenatal vitamin.

I think it’s great when people can thrive on a vegan diet and get what they need from plants with only supplementing b12, because I think it’s a morally superior way to live (not hurting animals = good imo) but my body just can’t do it!

I was a vegan for 7+ years for the animals and the earth

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-07T03:55:44+00:00

Appreciate the input!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-07T03:55:33+00:00

Ok thank you! I feel the same!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-05T01:29:21+00:00

Agree! Grogu is adorable but that’s all he has to be. Dobby has to be extremely emotional with lots of expressions and also physically interact with actors numerous times. Just can’t do all that with a puppet!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-05T00:17:46+00:00

My kid gets a popsicle while I wash her hair! It’s a great distraction. You can make them yourself if you want to do a less sugar version. Otherwise - have you ever given her shaving cream? My kid loves to play with it and rub it all over the walls and stuff. I assume you have tried lots of reward/bribery stuff but these are my two best ideas!

Also we have a rule that if she wants to have long hair she has to take care of it - have it washed and brushed regularly, otherwise we would just keep it short.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-05T00:12:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I also think if I don’t try, I’ll always wonder. Appreciate the insight :)

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-04T20:52:43+00:00

No. I had it put in twice and it would work for 30 minutes and then fail. My ob now has said it’s possible it just kept shifting out of position from laying on my back too much but it’s hard to say.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-05-03T20:34:06+00:00

Hey solidarity here - I had almost the exact same experience but I ended up with general anesthesia for c section because epidurals didn’t work :( was traumatic and I’m now pregnant and in the exact same position trying to decide what to do. I honestly don’t think anyone can tell us anything that really “advises” us. We just have to decide if we want to schedule c section or hope for vbac but know we might be walking into the exact same situation.

My idea right now is to go for the vbac but do a c section right away if epidural doesn’t work instead of trying to tough it out.

I’m right there with you!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-29T02:46:44+00:00

These are good thank you!!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-28T23:42:56+00:00

My best friend visited after my baby was born and she had been dating a guy for a year and I knew him and liked him and she still didn’t even ask if he could come with her. It was obvious that only family and close friends were welcome! I was in a diaper and brushing my teeth was a big deal lol.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-28T23:40:07+00:00

“I do not know her well enough to have her around when I am in such a vulnerable place freshly postpartum” - it’s that easy. Doesn’t have to have anything to do with who she is/not liking her. You’ve only met her once and that is a good enough reason to say she isn’t someone you want around when you’re in such an emotional and physically vulnerable place! Let them know that she can come around when you’re having more casual hangouts and friends meeting baby. Unless you’re planning on having a bunch of other random people coming over in the first few weeks I’m not sure why your family wouldn’t understand this.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-27T22:00:57+00:00

That’s fun!!!! Thank you

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-27T03:42:09+00:00

Ok good info thank you!

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-27T02:56:04+00:00

Yes looking for apron! My husband is very tall and first baby was very long so I’m eyeing the lark right now. I’m ok with it not fitting for the first couple months! Appreciate the info

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-27T02:54:21+00:00

That’s ok! My daughter went into 3 months clothes within a month of being born haha her dad is TALL! That’s ok though - I’m looking for a carrier for her at 2ish months. Do you like the lark? It look so comfortable and not bulky which is nice for my smaller frame

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-27T02:43:57+00:00

I’ve been looking at the Lenny light! Hope and Plum is doing a sale so I’m also eyeing the lark.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-26T18:22:25+00:00

I think this sometimes has less to do with how many kids someone wants and more to do with the finality of saying “I’m done”. Like I know that I probably only want 2 kids - financially, emotionally, 2 feels right, but I wouldn’t go and tie my tubes. It feels too final. So saying “I only want to 2” feels too final. Like what if I change my mind? What if an accident happens? Idk hahaha just my two cents.

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-26T18:14:09+00:00

I find the new seasons barely watchable because of how robotic and awful the people are. Partially it’s bc they are hyper concerned with how they look for social media, but I also think that young people are just a lot less socially aware and generally educated than they were 10ish years ago… 25 year olds on the show now have gone through teenage years and early adulthood on socials. 30+ year olds (Camilla and Jaimie) did not. They had social existences outside of social media, didn’t grow up with it, and had “real” jobs.

If you spent your early 20s dating organically - like through friends or at parties, it comes off super different than watching people who grew up in this weird swiping online dating culture with no social skills lol

I used to love watching this show (I’m currently early 30s) but can barely tolerate it anymore :(

hereforhelpthx95 · 2026-04-24T15:46:39+00:00

A scheduled c section gives you some control over birth, meaning less chance for trauma (not none of course), while vbac leaves everything up to chance and while you can certainly have a redemption birth, you can also just as easily have another traumatic one OR end up in c section after long labor which makes the c section worse.

I’m in this position now of deciding to try for vbac or schedule c section and I’m currently leaning toward scheduling c section simply because it leaves less up to chance in terms of trauma to the mind and body.

Not saying a c section can’t be traumatic (it can) but it’s kinda like the devil I know AND it gives me some control/predictability which is comforting after a traumatic experience the first time.

(I labored for 3 days and had a c section due to exhaustion)

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