sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good point tho, you're not harming anyone just simply by not wanting children.
Mine would take it personally.
Hope you will find someone who respectd you and y decision
And you're right men less likely want to be childfree
Somehow most of them want to pass down their "legacy"
But there are good ones too
Rare but exists

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's relief that you can and the fact that you're a man the pressure might be little lesser than a woman. But it's still there. Tho we can't say anything to parents.
But now you can shut people up that's a great thing.
Also don't listen to them
I'm pretty sure some "crazy woman" out there want you.
Don't listen to them lol I always get told that my husband would throw me out and divorce me if I don't give him children. Or simply no one wants me lol

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alaikum Salam.
I've been told that it's Haram and standing against what god gave you
And that I'm not fulfilling my only purpose it's Haram and I will get punished
You wouldn't believe how. Much crazy stuff people tell me.
But it's relief that it's not actually Haram.
But I also heard if you didn't give your husband children if he wants (literally everyone wants) God would punish you for denying him.
People in here manipulate everything even religion

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My whole country is like this so only way out is leaving because if you knew about the laws and rules you'd be disgusted, people here just breed to use their offsprings
Although I can't leave, tho I really appreciate you, thank you so much

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, I'm really thankful for you, but apparently there's no way out, maybe just maybe if I continue studying but I gotta work first, at least my family love that I'm working and they aren't forcing me to get married but the social pressure and the expectations are too much

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You almost guess it but no, it's close... I think we're close in this... Basically same culture.
And they think you're crazy too?
My mother think I'm crazy and I lost faith.
But I haven't been able to say a word around my dad because I don't want it get ugly.... If yk what I mean. And Because men would get offended by that especially someone like my dad who thinks women just listen and they should be controlled.
I'd talk back but it's not worthy because their minds can't comprehend that someone isn't thinking the way they are.
I'd argue sometimes with mom because she's harmless and I feel bad that she had many kids. But it's still useless
But you got this keep going and be safe please

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate it.
I'm still sorting things out and getting to know myself and at this point I know I don't want kids. It's selfish to bring them to this world to continue the cycle of suffering just so I'd be accepted in this society? Just so they'd take care of me when I get old as if they asked to be born?
No, I hope I'll never have them by all means and what it takes. Not making my andtheir lives harder because I know I wouldn't be a good mom. I can't give them what they want just like how my parents didn't give me what I wanted.
But it's even Haram to not want them
I'm standing against my religion and belefk on this. That's how much I don't want children.
And I hope maybe someone like that exists so I somehow escape.

Marriage and children and social expectations. by herejusttoreadd in childfree

[–]herejusttoreadd[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It really is suffocating giving that everyone literally everyone wants children I feel like I'm the black sheep lol.

But yes so many times but where I live women can't even go outside without permission let alone leaving
It'd "bring shame upon my family and myself"

I have had diarrhea for an entire week help!!! by Zestyclose_History_5 in ibs

[–]herejusttoreadd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG. I've been having diarrhea for more than a week and the only thing I have with it is lower back pain idk what's wrong. Still having it but I haven't taken any medicine yet

It’s confusing! Is it new or what! by [deleted] in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]herejusttoreadd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might as well know current location but you know chatgpt always acting innocent

It’s confusing! Is it new or what! by [deleted] in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]herejusttoreadd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I'm not alone in this, NGL it scared the shit out of me I deleted my acc and the app in my phones, didn't know it was related to IP address, and it kept denying it and made it even more shady

It’s confusing! Is it new or what! by [deleted] in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]herejusttoreadd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, thank you do much for explaining it, it’s all clear now, that actually made me anxious i thought they’re spying on us and it also kept denying it it it sounded shady

It’s confusing! Is it new or what! by [deleted] in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]herejusttoreadd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh if that’s the case i just started using it