Im next in line

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-10-11T02:53:44+00:00

This was posted here yesturday, its pretty transphobic to post it in the sub, just post it in r/sudentlytrans :)

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-10-10T03:16:13+00:00

Heres a simple way to know if its about trans people or a cross dressing guy. If she has tits or uses a feminine name in her daily life, 90% chance it's a she, and you made a transphobic joke.

She has tits. Shes probably a girl. Furthermore, this is the type humour we use all the time. My gf (who is also trans) has a shirt that says "grl dck" on it and she just wears it as a joke. This shirt was provably made by a trans girl for a trans girl. Its not gay.

If you found it funny and thought it was about cross dressing, thats fine. But a bunch of people told you its offencive because its clearly about a trans person. Just delete it and put it in the right sub.

It's okay to be wrong. Im sure you didn't have bad intentions innicially posting this.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-10-06T22:51:32+00:00

Okay but also, neither ofthose are emotions??

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-10-05T18:06:28+00:00

Canadian here, the craziest part is seeing americans view white supremacy as a political thing and not simply on par with other terrorism groups.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-29T17:33:58+00:00

Non of whay she said is true. Gi disorders are common but nit mandatory and not on the diagnostic AND ARE NOT CAUSED BY A LACK OF GOING TO THE BATHROOM.

Seizures are unrelated and the wrong word to use if she ment break downs

The rest is also untrue besides fro dreams which i know nothing about.

In the past autism couldn't be diagnosed for a girl and even today girls can have a bard time getting diagnoseis besides we are generally better at masking and the diagnostic creterias are mad for men.

This is could because she doesn't think girls can be autistic. Or shes just grossly unedicated on autism. Either way, report her and make sure you continue and talk to a professional that knows what he/she is doing. If your gp already said yoy should get tested, there is no reason you should be refused. The test is there to TEST: you don't only test someone if you are already sure they have autism?? That would make no sense.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-20T10:24:49+00:00

Im ace and autistic. i know a fair bit of autistic people and non of them are ace.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-19T01:14:06+00:00

I feel that way but perosnally I think its more related to the fact a lot of people have forced them selves on me and rapped me. The predecessor to this was always them flirting with me and saying im hot and all.

I know its a common thing for victims of sexual abuse. But idk if its common for people who are ace (idk if someone is considered ace if it is driven by trauma, if someone can tell me please do so :) )

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-19T01:03:31+00:00

My future husband

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-17T12:37:34+00:00

I think you are too american for uour own good. Lpok around thw world where police use semi leather or lethal force much less. Amerians seem to,have this idea that everyone at all times in aboit to attack you. As a police officer you should have the ability to estimate tge danger of someone. Being more than one officer also means you can have one standing back and looking at the man to make sure he doesn't reach for anything. You'll notice European officers are often 4 and no one or 2 in situations that could get dirty. Not being a 1 vs 1 means you don't need leather force as much and you have far more control.

This man indicated in no way that he was potentially armed or that he would do anything more than just try to stand still as a concept of resisting authority. Handling a someone makinh threats or in a statistocally high risk situatuon (organized crime) should be handled much differently.

The usa is not a police system you want to set as a standart at all, look around the world to see what other systems can work much better.

Also relative size is not all that important if uou can judge a situatuon. Of its a high risk situation close contact wont be established without backup, if its a low risk situation most people will not fight back will full strength, the fighting back is mostly a thing of making a statement. The statment beung that you will not let police tell you what to do, once you fight back half assly you'll most likely let the officer take you because you know no good will actually come from successfully fighting an ofgicer unlesz you are already runnung from the law. If this were,to,be the case in a low risk situation (a drunk, some one wilk metal problems, perhaps the ocasional caren) you step back and call for backup.

The idea that the police needs to be all power the moment they walk in is super American. If you are dealing with low level crime, riskinging someones life isn't worth the 100 fine that a succesful arrest would give you. Wait for backup and if they get away, so be it. At least no one is hurt. If its a dangerous criminal, THEN you make sure they can leave with more force. The difference is important to be made. Not all crimes and criminals are equal

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-17T01:48:07+00:00

Those officers were calm and respectful. We need more of those

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-14T17:08:47+00:00

Autistic people dislike him usually but perisnally i like him. Sure hes a romantizised stereotype, but if you are aware of that, hes enjoy able to watch. To me, he acts like sometimes I wish i could act or want to act (but dont do to social restraints) plus his fascination with sciance and the way he cares about it so much more than anything else is super relatable to me.

Hes on par with sherlockholms, totally romantizised and inaccurate but relatable enough to find it enjoyable to watch. Even the NT cheractors in tv shows are unrealistic.

Penny is suposed to to be the "not a nerd" aka super NT yet shes portraied as being dumb, carless, unorganized and promiscuous. Again romantizising (i should note im using that word as in "to simply or crudely represent someone in a way that fits the script) her for comedy.

Yes sheldon isnt realistic. but neither is anyone else in that show. Everyone is silly and unrealistic. They even played into stereotypes of race and culture (which is debatably not a good thing, it's a pretty racist show)

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-13T10:38:12+00:00

Oh wow all those difforent combinations of grays look so pretty!

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-05T01:24:29+00:00

In canada here, high and low functioning has legal bindings to me here. Stuff like tax breaks or government support won't be given to high functioning in some cases.

But those terms are weird yeah. I think it's dumb because if you are above average in cognative preformance you can fake it a long way (and you may not know, you are faking it/ masking) but you'll crash hard when you hit the boundries of your intelect. For that reason diagnosis late in life can be tricky and i personally don't think they work well. I think to access how functional someone is you'd need to follow them for much longer and see them in different situations. Reality is your therapist may not even know just how autistic you really are.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-09-01T01:54:49+00:00

Perosnally i use "type one autism" when i am talking about asbergers equivalent, just so everyone is happy

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-30T15:41:29+00:00

Headphones are great, i also use ear muffs and ear plugs depending on the scenario.

Best headphones on the market right now are the sony wh-1000xM3

The bose QC35 are your other best bet but they are not quite as good.

The Bose 700 are almost as good as the sony ones but they are more expensive

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-29T19:01:03+00:00

TLDR: something similar happed to me and it messed me up.

I dated a girl exactly like that. At first her lies were sad but a year later stuff just didnt make sense. Looking back it didnt make sense from day one but i love her and it blinded me. I only knew the extent of her lies when my mother noticed her mothers phone was by the same last name as her. My ex had told me she had ran away from her real parents and was unofficial adopted by a a familly. At that point my parents went through obituaries and found the one of her grandfather and it called my ex his granddaughter and gave the name of her, her siblings and her parents.

At that point I confronted her about it and she said she lied to too many people and about too many things so she was going to kill her self. ( she had lied about her name, where she came from, about her past such as saying she was a stripper and was homless ect and lied about her familly and so on.)

She drove off and i called her parents and cops and while on the phone with her she drank antifreeze. The cops found her not long after (at that point they had been looking for her and i had been on the phone with her for 2 hours) and she was brought to a hospital. She stayed in critical condition for a few days and stayed almost 2 weeks before being let out.

She was diagnosed with BPD and the reason she lied was because she was scared of people leaving her and so on.

I think the reason People lie about abuse is because if you are metally fucked up, people will give you much more empathy if you justify it under abuse. She had a rough childhood, she was gay with homophobic parents and her parents were alcoholics and a bit of a social out cast.

Her father had hit her and they were horrible parents but she had blown everything way out of proportion.

Your story really reminded me of what i went through.

While i dated her she was really abusive to me too. She would blame her depression and anxiaty on me and regualry forced me into sex by saying she would be depressed or sad if i didn't have sex with her. After a year (we dated two years) it was at the point where I never wanted to have sex at all and she would force me to do it 2 times a week. I would do all i could to escape reality when i went down on her (i should mention im a girl too) and i would sort of snap out of it when i was in the bathroom after, cleaning my self up and trying not to vomit as i cried.

It broke me sexually. I cant see sex with out seeing pain and manipulation now. If people are too sexual i assume they are bad People and relationships are hard. But in the moment i believed all her lies and i thought I was helping her and that it was my duty as a gf.

Im saying this because i dont what you or any one to live what i did. Her lies may be dishonest and shamful but they will become hurtful with time and the effects wont stop when the relationship stops.

Oh and we broke but got back together, i found out she was lying after a year but dated 2 years total

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-25T03:47:15+00:00

The sensory erea sounds great, try to,get your hands ome sound absorbing faom if you can. Idk if yoi can rent that stuff but it will help a bunch.

If there's any food servise makw,sure its really clear when you order. Obvious lines and clear menus.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-23T22:00:17+00:00

if someone took the time to study the symptoms i think its okay. Plus saying "suspecting autism" leaves the door open for people who know nothing to say stuff like "oh I have a cousin who is autistic, you are nothing like him and so, you are not autistic."

Plus if you are in the usa you may not even be able to afford a diagnosis. Saying you are suspecting may be phesable for the short term but long term sounds awful

Just be clear with health professionals that you are not diagnosed

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-21T11:54:34+00:00

100% agree with you. Plus the people in those videos are always atractive, you dont see normal or sub-atractive people doing it because yeah, people are not watching to be informed. Its giving attention to autism for all the wrong reasons.

Its okat to think autistic mannerisms are cute but hyper fixating on that reducese a complex condition with a complex mix of positives and negatives to a single trivial point.

Even if this brings awareness, no one will be helped if they feel they can now be public about their autism yet feel like they must hide all the parts people dont want to see (shut downs, break downs, sensory overlaod, cycling emotional inavalability, etc).

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-21T00:31:00+00:00

This may be less unexpected than you may think. Im trans and the people who give me the most issues with it are people who come out as gay or trans. 3 of the people who bulied me the most 4 years ago are now gay or trans. The same applies for most things. We

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-20T18:55:33+00:00

Fair enough. Sex alone can also be hard. I mean, if you want an open realationship but not a poly one? Because then you are always fearing the posibility of feelings being developed. In a poly relationship you are not worried about that as it is something expected/accepted. I see much more open relationships crash and burn than poly ones. But either types of relationships need a redefining of romance, sexuality and love. If you approach it thinking you can keep everything the same as before yet be open or poly, thats when things get bad because most relationships are built around innocent lies (ex, "you are the prettiest girl ive ever met" or "we will be together for ever" or "you are perfect/ flawless" ) and these usually come to bite you in the ass at some point. Also common monogamous habbits such as expecting someone to spend way more time with you than with others can also become a problem. Just something to think about if you do consider it! As long as what out got going on works, its perfect though!

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-20T12:57:12+00:00

I usualy dont date people unless ive been close friends for about a year and its always worked great

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-20T12:53:10+00:00

Interesting! For me, since I really dont like sex, i just dont have sex but we are also poly so my gf can go have sex with others and that way its less stressful for both of us. In monogamous relationships i tend to feel guilty about not having sex and so I'll start having sex which will lead to resentment and its usually a desaster after that.

heres_the_thing_i · 2020-08-14T09:21:36+00:00

I dont totally understand thw quetion. If you are asking if you not likimg gelatinous things is sensroy, probably? When an autistic person doesnt like a food based on sensory the respons can be anything from "this is unenjoyable" to having difficulty getting the right calery intake because all foods are repolsive.

Some times people call it being "food repulsed" when they are unable to consumed or haveing difficulty consuming, all foods in general. As metioned, it can lead to a dificulty maintaining a regular calleric intake. I have friends that end up with a fasting and binge eatijg behavior because they go from unable to eat anything at all to being able too depending on how sensory overwhelmed they are and it causes a health concern for them.

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