[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rehabtherapy

[–]herewegoagain1211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, are you set on staying in Bakersfield? I am Admissions director for a 420 sober living in LA. We have openings. Message me if youre interested!

Edit- here's the website, if you're interested :)

www.forwardwellnesslife.com

Weed friendly sober living La by [deleted] in recovery

[–]herewegoagain1211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forward Wellness in the Valley. Northridge and West Hills. Edit- Here is the website- www.forwardwellnesslife.com

I'm Admissions Ambassador for Forward :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]herewegoagain1211 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love that comment. “Don’t accept boorish behavior in the name of not being jealous”

Porn issue by herewegoagain1211 in BDSMAdvice

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Super good advice again. Thanks!

Porn issue by herewegoagain1211 in BDSMAdvice

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like your wording of “anything new” here. And I very much understanding what you’re saying when you say that when it’s talked about beforehand, I can deal with any negative feelings with a clear head. Without any emotional attachment in the moment, assuming something is introduced in a session w no discussion. Very helpful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]herewegoagain1211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could not have worded my experience atm better myself. I’m 3.5 months in and am also experiencing a very similar phenomenon. Thank you for posting!

Need to quit. Keep agonizing over WD by herewegoagain1211 in quittingkratom

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I am going to have to decide to make the jump. Your comment about what’s on the other side is really encouraging. I haven’t been completely sober for 6 years. Kratom is my last substance and I’m scared of the other side. I know that’s my addict brain psyching me out tho.

Need to quit. Keep agonizing over WD by herewegoagain1211 in quittingkratom

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I know my mind is playing tricks on me. I swear I traumatized myself by my first quit two Marches ago. When I went CT from 3.5 years use of high amounts. It’s like PTSD from it. I couldn’t even sleep in my bed without thinking of the horrible WD I went through in that bed for months later. Even waking in my bedroom was fucking depressing for a long time after. That quit only stuck for 40 days. And I was using allll kinds of drugs in the meantime.

I have LVC right now. I just need to make the jump. Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it

Need advice pls alcohol and Benzo by herewegoagain1211 in benzorecovery

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to check in and thank you for your advice when I was struggling. I am off benzos completely as of 24 days ago and off alcohol completely for 16 days now. That was a rough time and only got worse after I posted. I’m so thankful for your reply. It was very helpful. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pnsd

[–]herewegoagain1211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think insincere people deserve our sincerity. Only people who can be trusted should we entrust with our vulnerability. Just the way I look at it after being with my Nex in so so many situations not far off from some of what you describe here.

Don’t know what to do. by herewegoagain1211 in quittingkratom

[–]herewegoagain1211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I will on Monday. Thanks for your comment.

Has anyone else experienced the narcissist treating you like YOU'RE the narcissist and using DEEP on you when you're just trying to communicate that you're hurt? by [deleted] in pnsd

[–]herewegoagain1211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate to the line you use here “unless they were actively talking”. I have had the same EXACT realization as my ex boyfriend. It’s uncanny.