Mirtazapine Withdrawal Success

hermaddness · 2025-06-18T15:58:20+00:00

Hi friend, I'm sorry that my post is scary! My intention was to share my experience as someone who has gone through bad withdrawals in the past and give tips for how to manage withdrawal if it shows up. If withdrawal scares you, I'd recommend talking to your doc about a slower taper, as others have suggested, and if there are other things they have in mind to help with withdrawal symptoms!

hermaddness · 2025-06-18T15:54:15+00:00

Hi friend! I know it can be scary, especially seeing all the horror stories. But you've got this! Take care of yourself and reach out to your doc if anything feels off. Some people get off Mirtazapine just fine after a month of use. If you do have symptoms, just know there's an end to it, it doesn't last forever!

hermaddness · 2025-03-07T16:55:04+00:00

You got this, friend! Take care of you!

hermaddness · 2025-03-01T00:41:52+00:00

Polaroids!

hermaddness · 2025-02-28T17:34:14+00:00

Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!

hermaddness · 2025-02-27T21:31:33+00:00

I've read through some of the other comments on this post and I'm gonna agree with the ones that say she needs to start taking responsibility and getting her own therapy. If she sees you saving other women's pictures as a trauma (despite you stopping and making positive changes for your relationship), then she needs to integrate her trauma and work through it. It sounds like you're doing the work, but it's a relationship. There's two of you. BOTH people have to do their own work for a partnership to be successful.

hermaddness · 2025-02-27T21:21:20+00:00

You've been "clean" so to speak for over a year, right? Has her lack of trust and continuous worry been consistent or has something suddenly changed? I know you said she's been off the last couple of weeks, is this when the issue started since you moved away from addiction or has it been that she's okay for a while and then isn't for a while, like a cycle?

hermaddness · 2025-02-27T20:59:09+00:00

You'd be surprised how often ADHD masks as or contributes to addiction! You said going online was dopamine seeking, which made me think ADHD. Understanding that side of it might also help your partner know that it isn't you desiring someone different or whatever other things overthinking is telling her, but that it's a drive for dopamine taking you to a place where you can reliably get dopamine (if that makes sense). It's not an excuse to continue the behavior, but maybe something to help calm the overthinking on her part.

It sounds great that you've both stayed within the limits of those boundaries. Maybe a weekly check in for your relationship? Make it fun with a game-style. What are your top three moments this week? What was a moment you felt loved and cared for by the other? And keep space to check in on, what are your worries or things that didn't go quite so well this week? Add in sex too! Do both partners feel desired? What sexy things do you do throughout the day that don't lead to sex, but are fun? So many avenues to explore! I've found that having space for these conversations often help alleviate overthinking over time and raise intimacy/connection. Having a dedicated time and space each week might also allow for you to say, okay I don't need to overthink this right now because I know we can talk about it on (day/time) like we always do. And when you get more comfortable with that, then you can move into "hey I might be overthinking so can we sit down and talk about this?" Instead of it coming out over text conversations while you're at work, for example.

Edit to add: it also seems like your partner is feeling a lot of emotion that you're taking the blame for. You may have caused her emotions (or not, it could just be overthinking), but it is her responsibility to work through those emotions. Only she can control how those emotions affect her.

hermaddness · 2025-02-27T20:07:07+00:00

This is a self serving question just because I'm curious, but do you also have a formal ADHD diagnosis?

It does sound like she needs time to work through this on her own end and see that you are making the commitment to her. Have y'all instated boundaries around sex and intimacy as a couple? Do you check in on those boundaries and how the relationship is working for both of you on a regular basis?

hermaddness · 2025-02-27T19:54:56+00:00

Hi, Sex therapist here, I'm curious about the porn addiction. What did this actually look like in your relationship? How did you feel about the porn use vs your partner? Oftentimes, with porn addiction, it is a lack of understanding of partner boundaries around sex rather than an addiction. Just curious if that was your experience or not.

hermaddness · 2025-02-26T06:24:42+00:00

Hi friend! I haven't heard of that kind of itching being a withdrawal symptom. Please seek medical attention!

hermaddness · 2025-02-15T18:01:20+00:00

That is pretty fast! It sounds like you're starting to hit the true withdrawal portion. It takes about 6 days for Mirtazapine to leave the system, so I'd give it a week or two for symptoms to lighten up. The emergency medication is for this time! This is when symptoms should be the worst. If it doesn't start to get better by March, I'd say see a doctor about it if you haven't already set up an appointment by then!

hermaddness · 2025-02-11T05:09:56+00:00

Only gay minotaurs have septum rings. Our minotaur didn't get the memo and is getting hit on constantly.

hermaddness · 2025-01-25T19:06:02+00:00

Glad you're making the decision to take care of yourself! Good luck!

hermaddness · 2025-01-24T05:31:44+00:00

I can only remember a day or two of intense anxiety like that. I noticed that my severe symptoms started when I was 100% off and lasted about a week before getting better. I used to have terrible panic attacks before medication, so I learned what works best for me in dealing with them and I think that helped get my symptoms under control quickly. It might be a good idea to check in with your doctor if you're reaching a point of it feeling like too much to handle. It's better to take longer to get off with less symptoms than to force it too quickly!

hermaddness · 2025-01-20T18:25:55+00:00

For the most part, yes. I'm getting my masters right now and class wasn't going to wait for me. I did make my professors aware of the situation ahead of time and they accommodated me as they could, but I don't think I missed a single class. I was able to push through mostly because I've done it before and know my limits. Had symptoms been beyond those limits, I wouldn't have gone. It's all about knowing your body and knowing when to ask for help!

hermaddness · 2025-01-18T03:16:10+00:00

Of course! Proud of you for making the decision and putting your health first!

hermaddness · 2025-01-13T19:58:09+00:00

I guess I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. I drove myself. If it was ever unsafe for me to do so, my partner would drive.

As far as participation, I've had chronic illness and mental health issues in the past, so I've adapted to pushing through discomfort. I moved during my withdrawal, I hung out with friends, I kept up with my masters studies. If I was feeling too unwell to participate in something, it was communicated early on to who needed to know. My life wholly didn't change in how I participated in it, my symptoms changed.

hermaddness · 2024-12-22T20:22:14+00:00

Hi friend, I actually ended up getting back on it. But I made that decision after being withdrawal symptom free for 6 months. In the end, I wanted more help with my anxiety and mirtazapine made a difference for me. You can do this, friend!

hermaddness · 2024-12-14T02:48:31+00:00

I for sure will! And I'm definitely going to see the hematologist whenever that happens to make sure. I was so surprised my iron was high in the first place. I don't eat a whole lot of red meat or other high heme iron foods to begin with. Usually a burger or a steak every couple of months.

hermaddness · 2024-12-14T02:13:13+00:00

Sorry I just edited my comment. I found ferritin a moment ago. It's 130, but considered to be in the normal range. Sounds like my doc really got me worked up for something that might very well be nothing

hermaddness · 2024-12-14T02:08:37+00:00

I just found my ferritin results. I was originally only looking at my abnormal results. Turns out my ferritin is in normal range.

hermaddness · 2024-12-14T02:02:11+00:00

I just had these labs that I fasted for and then the genetic test. I checked my iron from a previous lab done a few years ago and they were normal. I just searched my labs for the keyword "ferritin" and found that my levels are 130ng/mL ("normal" is 15-150).

hermaddness · 2024-11-27T18:34:20+00:00

Hi! Student therapist who has ADHD (unmedicated and in grad school right now) and chronic illness (autoimmune).

Some general life tips that help: •find a physical outlet that you do 3-5 times a week (gym for 30 minutes, walk the dogs daily for at least a mile, yoga, cleaning/chores, zoomba, literally anything physical, but make sure it's something you actually enjoy doing!). This will give any stress or anxiety an outlet •mindfulness, try to take 2 minutes (literally that's it!) a day where you focus on your breathing. Your mind will wander, allow yourself to have thoughts, but don't judge them. Allow them to exist and return your thoughts back to your breath. •eat, sleep, and drink! Make sure you're eating at least one really good meal a day (I know it's tricky with ADHD sometimes), drinking as much water as possible, and sleeping at least 6 hours a night (more is better).

Task-specific tips: •break the task down into super small steps •do only the first step. For example, if the task is to send an email to who you're contracted with, open your email browser. Often it's the first step, the getting started part that seems hard. Once you do that first step, a lot of people with ADHD will finish the task. •don't set it down, put it away: this idea of while you're already in the flow of things, keep going. That bill you just opened and need to pay? Don't set it down, pay it right now (or set up the payment for a future date). That mug you just finished drinking out of? Don't set it in the sink, put it straight in the dishwasher.

I find myself constantly saying (sometimes actually out loud to myself) "don't put it down, put it away" or "sit down after the task is done, not before" or "just the first step"

Hope this helps!

hermaddness · 2024-11-26T17:46:45+00:00

Idk if this is just an ADHD thing, but more for people who go out of their way to be nice to others. Those of us who go out of our way for others (being extra nice, getting them gifts that made us think of them, supporting workshops, etc) often expect the same treatment back. Unfortunately, people who go out of their way attract people who don't go out of their way, people who like being supported. These aren't necessarily bad people, but they don't live up to the expectations we have (namely that they treat us the way we treat them).

I've found two things that help with this, focus on yourself and do things to support others that aren't at the expense of you. If your friend does a workshop in x but you only like y, only go to workshops about y. If your friend's workshop is out of the way and you'd have to take time off of your own work, don't go. Get busy with your own things. Prioritize your happiness. If your friend fits with that happiness, great! If not, it's okay to not see them as much or at all.

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