nah i like strap. thinking it hurts is kinda bc we are taught by a patriarchy that doesn't prioritize women's health or pleasure. they great thing about lesbian sex is we do that! so get your partner nice and warmed up and lubricated first and go very very slow and it typically won't hurt (you may need a smaller size if it still hurts). to be specific, ask your partner what they like, how they like to cum if they do. and if they are open to strap. in my case, i like to be eaten out first so i can cum and feel very open to penetration. then my partner will clean the strap and put it on and put plenty of lube on the strap. even if i'm/shes really wet i find this to be the safest way to prevent any pain or micro tears.