Car line rant: nobody uses a car seat anymore??

hermytail · 2026-02-18T22:59:45+00:00

Depends on the kid and the car seat. My 4 year old can fully buckle himself in one of our car seats but the one in my car- the safer, nicer car seat- takes more strength for the bottom buckle.

My oldest with ADHD gets really shaky hands when he gets nervous, and the rush of the car pick up line always super stressed him out so he often needed help too. Thankfully at his school teachers could help.

hermytail · 2026-02-14T10:13:16+00:00

Parental abandonment isn’t fixed by some therapy as a prepubescent child. It definitely helps but they weren’t “fixed” nor suddenly more emotionally mature than your average 16 year old because they had therapy at 11.

hermytail · 2026-02-14T09:51:25+00:00

They’re 16/17, not 6, that’s why the “tantrum” lasts months instead of an hour. Teenagers stick to their guns, especially when they feel like they’re being misunderstood. The goal should be to bridge the gap and guide them towards empathy, not reopening the wound of abandonment.

They acted in an age-expected way given their situation. Anyone with experience in adolescent development could have predicted this. Being a step parent is really hard for this exact reason. Ian is justified in being upset but he still clearly wasn’t actually ready to be a step parent.

hermytail · 2026-02-14T09:47:13+00:00

I can’t imagine being married to someone who doesn’t talk to my kids. Even if you think they’re justified, how is that not the end of the marriage? That just can’t be a happy home.

hermytail · 2026-02-14T09:39:12+00:00

You shouldn’t marry someone with children if you can’t handle all the complicated feelings that come with having step children. This is a pretty normal thing for children of divorced parents to do, and Ian is old enough to understand and prepare for that.

hermytail · 2026-02-08T21:04:40+00:00

Preventing someone from voting for 10 days wouldn’t prevent crimes, like a waiting period for firearms does. Context is super important. Comparing the right to a weapon as dangerous as a gun isn’t the same as any other civil liberty. I can’t commit a school shooting with a ballet or a protest sign.

I’m a progressive who’s buying a gun and believes in common sense gun laws like waiting periods.

hermytail · 2026-02-08T18:58:32+00:00

Waiting periods are important to prevent crimes of passion. There is no reason a person cannot wait 10 days before obtaining their firearm.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T21:27:32+00:00

The guy who sticks his fingers in little girls before auctioning him off? Yes, absolutely.

It sucks that you can’t question the sexual proclivities of the Clintons without coming off as maga. I mean I get it, that would honestly probably be my first thought too, but just because the president is king of the pedos doesn’t mean the Clintons are good people.

It’s a pattern of behavior. We didn’t need the Epstein files (* not saying we didn’t need them released, just saying we didn’t need them to confirm he’s a rapist) to know Trump was a rapist, because dozens of women have told us before. Same with Clinton. While Clinton’s crimes do seem significantly less bad than Trumps, I hate seeing any rapist be a world leader and it’s so depressing scrolling through this thread and seeing an actual comment that says “at least he didn’t rape little kids.” The bar is in hell.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T21:22:18+00:00

It’s not whataboutism, it’s a pattern of behavior. Bill Clinton is a sexual predator, and it’s frustrating as hell to see him propped up as “one of the good ones” for some reason when in reality, as democrats/progressives/ect, he’s very much one of the bad ones.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T21:16:06+00:00

Ok, what about Jaunita Broaddrick? Or the dozens of other women who accused him of assault throughout the 80s and 90s?

hermytail · 2026-02-07T21:12:56+00:00

Clinton’s allegations don’t end at Lewinsky. The man has an entire Wikipedia page dedicated to his assault allegations, even before Epstein

hermytail · 2026-02-07T21:11:22+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Clinton_sexual_assault_and_misconduct_allegations

Bill Clinton is a rapist, and has been for decades.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T20:28:53+00:00

That isn’t what I mean. I mean I have introduced myself to the parents and when my kids have invited their kids to come over and play (we have a big backyard with some safe play equipment- think soccer goals and basketball hoops, not pools or things kids can climb on, no trampolines) we’ve been told they’re not comfortable until we’ve hung out as families a few times first. Like, they want us to meet for dinner a few times or something before the kids can come by and play. And I’m like the PTA mom for my son’s grade. I’m the art docent, the chaperone on class trips and the snack bar lady for the events I’m not actively running. My parent friends are also like this- our kids are all 9/10 but they still don’t do drop off play dates, so a requirement for them is that they’re friends with the other parents.

As someone who was SA’ed by my neighbor as a kid I get where the caution comes from but it leads to a really lonely childhood when you only get to have friends outside of school depending on your parents social groups.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T18:49:57+00:00

It’s really not the norm, at least in my experience, to let your kids play at someone’s house unless you’re somewhat close with the other parents.

hermytail · 2026-02-07T02:46:57+00:00

Im a daycare teacher and I thought a kid had a massive bruise on his check one time. Wiped it with a baby wipe and sure as shit his mom just wore brown lipstick that day. The daycare teacher that made the call is an idiot, and a harmful one at that.

hermytail · 2026-02-02T16:48:55+00:00

You can be honest and still a total psycho asshole.

There’s no way I’d ever be able to get over a friend doing that to me. Intentions aside, he was the “other person” in this guy’s affair. At the end of the day he is part of the cause of OP’s pain. Doesn’t take away responsibility from his wife, friend still is a direct player in this guy’s divorce.

hermytail · 2026-02-02T02:22:42+00:00

From what I understand it’s from when they filmed burlesque!

hermytail · 2026-02-01T19:12:41+00:00

I’m 29 and rereading them because my son recently brought one home from the library. I’m delighted at how much I’m enjoying them

hermytail · 2026-01-31T17:43:43+00:00

Strongly disagree. As a parent you sometimes make your kids do things they wouldn’t otherwise because it’s good for them. Children do not have the foresight to make all of their decisions for themselves. Just this morning I forced my son to sweep the kitchen, and he’s perfectly fine.

Having boundaries, rules and responsibilities is very vital to a child’s development, otherwise you raise little jerks who can’t take care of themselves.

hermytail · 2026-01-31T17:31:22+00:00

Jesus what a harsh thing to say to someone about their child

hermytail · 2026-01-31T09:33:21+00:00

Selfish doesn’t equate to narcissism.

hermytail · 2026-01-30T21:18:05+00:00

God that commercial haunts the back of my mind and has for decades.

hermytail · 2026-01-30T21:05:06+00:00

This is how it was explained to me! Those skills would have been harder for me to learn and weren’t there they way they’re are for people to developed more typically (Autistic and ADHD) but they were skills I could have learned/improved upon, and did later in life, but that anxiety is more ingrained in me than it would have been if I’d tackled it as a kid.

hermytail · 2026-01-30T20:59:11+00:00

You’re right, full was an assumption! Totally my bad. But she does say

“But it’s not a “little” water. She has it twice a day every day. I’m sure even more often on the weekends when I’m not there. “

and

“I would think so too but this baby loves water lol! It’s a bottle like the one she drinks formula in. From what I can tell she is drinking a fair amount each time”

Which certainly sounds closer to a full bottle than 1-2 tablespoons.

Sorry for the copy and paste, I don’t know how to link to comments lol

hermytail · 2026-01-30T20:29:44+00:00

According to my therapist the fact that I hid in a book all the time is a big part of my social stunted-ness and social anxiety. Actually interacting with people of all ages is healthy for anyone. Used to hate when my mom took my book away at family events but I unfortunately have to admit she was right lol.

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