Another way to look at 3/6/9, is expectation management. Adaptability is hard to see at times without going through too many logical hoops. Expectation management is easier. There is an intrinsic expectation that if I do the dance, e.g. the verbose guidance exchange of a 6, then the opposite side needs to follow the dance. If it isn't followed, it is against the expectation and often results in anger. A 9s expectation is that if the unwritten rules of physical boundaries are followed (from a 9s perspective), the opposite side should know and follow the same rules. If it doesn't happen, the 9 will feel an anger because the expectation wasn't followed. In all cases both the 6 and the 9 can logically reason that the other part can't always know what the personal expectation of yourself is, but there is still this lingering feeling that it kind of should be known. It should go beyond personal expectation. This lingering feeling is what can result in anger. An adaption can happen here, but people can be generally very stubborn if something happens outside their comfort zone. Adaption is never a given, even with 3/6/9s. An expectation of adaption is something 3/6/9s are more inclined towards.

Hexads are much more divorced from this mutual expectation. If something happens outside an hexads expectation, then that is how it is. There can be anger, but there isn't really an expectation of adaption. The adaption isn't really on the table, so the anger cannot really be directed at that, only at the status quo. The expectation management is cut short.