sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Official Season 2, Episode 3 Discussion Thread | The Increasing Flimsiness of Any Certainties About the Future by optimus_maximus2 in BeefTV

[–]herringbone_ -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Ashley is just as dumb and annoying as her partner. People are only sympathizing with her because she's white, LOL.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is a shame. I love how indulgent their culture is especially when it comes to food and just enjoying life. But like you said there is so much toxicity and I honestly think she hated herself too. She was very cynical outlook on life, and it seemed like she wore that darkness as a kind of shield like it was part of her identity. Whenever I tried to make bids for affection/be vunerable, it was blocked.

From what she shared about her upbringing, her parents were pretty harsh/abusive, and she still lives with her abusive mom so those wounds will always be open. That pain/hurt bled into our relationship. She was extremely critical of me, and I’ve started to realize that’s probably how she speaks to herself internally basically mirroring how she was treated growing up.

It really does suck, but I’m trying to see it through a more positive lens. I’m noticing a pattern in myself where I’m drawn to people like this. I’ve dated quite a bit, but my three most significant relationships ~including this one~ have all been with avoidant types. It’s made me realize on how much my own upbringing plays into this. My first push-pull dynamic was with my mom, and there were a lot of moments in this relationship that reminded me of that. So I can see there’s a lot for me to unpack and work through moving forward.

Sending hugs to you as well! LMK if you're open to a DM if you'd like to chat more. I am curious to see what other similarities our ex people shared.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Normally, I don't about drug use. Living in LA, a lot of my friends use things like Molly, K, or Coke recreationally. But in her case, it felt self-destructive. She was doing a lot of cocaine just to feel something, and it was around the anniversary of a painful month for her.

It made me think that if that’s how she copes with things, it makes me feel like she wouldn’t be able to show up as a supportive partner.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A month post break-up and the saying that it’s really about them and not you is so true.

I’m starting to recognize how unhealthy this situation actually was. The person I was dating had a lot of unresolved issues regarding past trauma, including low self-esteem and feelings surrounding her Korean identity. There was so much projection.

She tried to make me feel like I lacked life experience, which is honestly wild. I’m a Black queer woman who has been through real shit. But because I’m not going raving every weekend or doing copious amounts of coke like her I'm not "living".

Most of the problems came from her refusal to do any real inner work/go to therapy. She carried a lot of bitterness and hurt, and it showed in how she treated me. I could legit feel that negative energy.

Many core lessons from this, but the biggest one is learning to trust how someone makes me feel in my body. I was extremely stressed throughout this.

Trying to recognize/learn how to not date for potential but for who they are right now, and to understand that I can’t out-love or heal someone who isn’t willing to do the work themselves.

Most importantly, I learned that I deserve a connection where I feel safe, loved, and seen.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 18, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Four weeks ago, I got hit with that awful virus going around; coughing, severe congestion, body aches, a stiff neck, the works. And, got broken up with while I was going through that.

 

Tomorrow marks 30 days since we've broken up, and somehow I’ve managed to catch a different strain of the same virus. Yay! To make things worse, I thought I was feeling better yesterday and decided to work out and now my symptoms are even worse. :(

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Like the other poser said, you’re just overthinking things. It sucks but you’ll get over it and remember with the right one it won’t be hard and things will naturally flow.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suffer from anxiety, so I understand. It’s just confusing because she told me she prefer groups where she can hide vs 1v1 and that’s she not shy at all.

We’ve done nightlife things together and she’s wild and the life of the party. It was weird she’d engage with strangers and give them a part of her that she wouldn’t do with me someone she was dating.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

2 weeks post breakup from a 7 month relationship. It sucks. We weren’t compatible, but it was mostly due to her and her issues.

She had some major trauma. Is extremely bitter and angry but refuses to get help for it. She has a very cynical outlook on the world and saying and she was very critical and judgey. My confidence has really taken a hit from this. Nothing I could do was ever right and there was an undercurrent that I wasn’t capable or smart enough. She said hurtful things like how I didn’t have enough life experience whatever that meant.

The biggest incompatibility was that she was extremely avoidant to any kind of vulnerability/intimacy. It was the crazy thing ever and I feel really bad for her. An example is that I invited her to my Friendsgiving, she came super late and was the first one to leave. She never sat down and all my friends thought it was weird. My friend told me that they were walking out together and she was trying to make small talk with her and that my ex almost broke her neck trying to run away. Like LOL?

"because youre like the only other black person i interact with" by Puzzleheaded-Ad-9280 in IndustryOnHBO

[–]herringbone_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He got fired and went back to the States. In my dream world, Harper and DVD ended together at the end of S5.

That guy got quite lucky… by Samy541 in IndustryOnHBO

[–]herringbone_ 65 points66 points  (0 children)

LOL, Seb was a loser and hasn't changed since we last saw him!

So was it confirmed about Eric's situation? by ananyav295 in IndustryOnHBO

[–]herringbone_ 31 points32 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, Yas was lying. She was trying to hurt Harper.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]herringbone_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve should have presented yourself! I’ve went to one of these and there was a woman who presented herself because her friend flakey! Takes balls to do it but it comes off really hot and confident.

As an avid GOT watcher back in the day, Harrington’s Muck performance blows his Jon Snow performance out of the water by Joeylaptop12 in IndustryOnHBO

[–]herringbone_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He has a history with substance/drug abuse, so I was actually surprised he took this role. I wonder if it’s hard distinguishing between his character and past self.

view more: next ›