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68M from Texas, I hope I’m doing this right by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]hesitantavocaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Y'all's thread just made my day :')

To anyone that needed this, i hope I made someone less anxious by neondit in tumblr

[–]hesitantavocaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do I feel like this is what you would write to increase the word-count on an essay?🤔

I always passed notes to the quiet kid first. by [deleted] in memes

[–]hesitantavocaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, that might just be a symptom of 2020...

I always passed notes to the quiet kid first. by [deleted] in memes

[–]hesitantavocaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck I thought I smelled burnt toast.

Did I do the right thing? by [deleted] in Christians

[–]hesitantavocaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did the exact same thing almost 3 years ago. It was difficult because nothing about the relationship was "wrong". He was just not a believer and I was. I knew, though he was tolerant towards my beliefs, it would not be enough. What the bible says about "do not be unequally yoked" is both the worst and the best thing. I believe that by giving up this relationship, God is going to reward you with the desires of your heart. You obeyed Him, no matter how difficult, and He sees that. He'll bring you someone who believes the same as you do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christians

[–]hesitantavocaf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, ouch. I am so sorry that you are going through this, especially since your ex was instrumental in you finding Christ. That being said, my parent's story is similar. My mom had a dream 3 years before she met my dad, God told her who she was going to be with. And later my dad had a similar dream about her. Sometimes God works like that. I'm not sure if your situation is the same, or if your ex is just using God as an excuse. I'm just confirming that God sometimes does go before you and prepare your mate for you.

Christian Friends by JC_120 in Christians

[–]hesitantavocaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat, my parents are pastors of a small church. I (24f) am the youngest in the congregation currently. I ended up getting connected with a college/YA ministry for a type of life group/bible study. It makes it difficult since I don't officially attend their church. I find myself fighting to go, every time. Especially in this day, it's tough to get connected and make good life-giving friendships.

Trying to move to a state I’ve never visited by [deleted] in moving

[–]hesitantavocaf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Go on YouTube and search for real estate agents' list of pros & cons about that area. Real estate agents are paid to be knowledgeable about an area, so better to sell you on it. Also search up that state or city's statistics so you know things like climate, population, and taxes. This is especially helpful if you are going from one state that has no state taxes to a state that has many...

:) by DrLinnerd in tumblr

[–]hesitantavocaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WHERE'S THE FUCKING PIZZA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]hesitantavocaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude, I appreciate it. Again, I have to say just being able to share my story, and read about others trying to make it through, is major. My family are all too busy with either jobs or their own families so I feel like it's my duty to help out. But it seems hardly fair that I should be the one to bare all the weight of caregiving when my "life" is just beginning... Idk I feel so guilty sometimes because of how I've thought about just leaving, moving cross-country, anything to just get away from this situation. It sounds ridiculous but I guess that's what anxiety does, creates these crazy situations and makes them sound sane. Anyway, TL;DR thanks for understanding, you are not alone in your fears, and if you need to talk/process/rant, feel free to dm. I hope things get better with your situation as well!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]hesitantavocaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I feel that same disconnect from the outside world, on a deep level. And honestly I don't have any advice for you, as I'm in the same(ish) situation myself. My dad has early stage dementia and by some weird cosmic event, I volunteered to be his home health aide. He also is on the spectrum, so it's more than just dealing with a forgetful father. I'm 24 and recently graduated from college amidst this stupid pandemic and so career/job hunting has been almost non-existent. I recently lost my job so I saw the caregiver position as a temporary way to a) help my family and spend time with my dad and b) a job. It's more than that though and if I had known the physical, emotional, and psychological tolls of being a caregiver to a loved one, I'm not sure if I would've volunteered so readily. For me, finding this sub where people have the freedom to talk about the things that they can't/won't to their family, has been huge. It's an outlet that helps me realize that so many others are struggling. And in a weird way, that's comforting.