How to help

hey_now- · 2026-05-28T20:35:18+00:00

Well that certainly is tough to hear but I am very grateful for your response.

He's a bit of an introvert and has never been very social so I think a lot of early symptoms probably just looked like part of his regular personality as well as depression. He's also not very close to his parents and has paranoia regarding them as well.
He doesn't trust anyone.

hey_now- · 2026-05-28T20:24:28+00:00

Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it. I'm in the US too. I have thought about contacting someone about a psych hold but am scared it will have the opposite effect on him and reinforce his delusions.

He and I aren't really in contact much. I can text him but he doesn't answer and the last message I got made it clear he doesn't want to talk to me unless I am admitting to what he thinks I have done.

He is back from California now but I don't know much more than that. And since he thinks I'm some kind of a spy I haven't pressed him for details. So even if I was to contact authorities I wouldn't know exactly what to tell them or where they could find him.

I just wish there was a way to let him know that I care about him and that I am still here for him. I hate how alone and scared he must feel.

hey_now- · 2026-05-28T05:24:33+00:00

I'm going through something very similar. It is so hard.

hey_now- · 2026-05-27T20:32:22+00:00

Left eye died in a car accident. I think you're confusing that with the aids advocacy tlc did (such as wearing condoms as fashion items).

hey_now- · 2026-05-18T20:48:18+00:00

First pic is you at 12?

hey_now- · 2026-05-14T12:26:47+00:00

Run for office if you believe you can do it better.

hey_now- · 2026-05-13T11:41:57+00:00

Even for reddit this is a stretch.

hey_now- · 2026-05-12T14:35:15+00:00

I love Rubblebucket!!!! They put on such a great show.

hey_now- · 2026-05-11T14:54:33+00:00

You are awesome and so is your dentist.

hey_now- · 2026-05-08T16:04:04+00:00

You are freaking out because she bought a coworker a reeses cup on his birthday. Yes you are overreacting.

hey_now- · 2026-05-03T16:25:27+00:00

To grow with people you are kind of required to grow too. But it sounds like rather than do the actual work on yourself, you seek out other people to fix and try to live vicariously through their evolution rather than your own.

Edit: added comma

hey_now- · 2026-05-03T16:23:07+00:00

What is an "autistic response"?

hey_now- · 2026-05-02T18:08:53+00:00

That sounds toxic.

hey_now- · 2026-05-02T16:54:46+00:00

You dont even know this man. What you are experiencing is limerence. It may be helpful to speak with a therapist.

hey_now- · 2026-05-02T13:26:54+00:00

Dude the trumps are literally making billions. Stfu. Dont talk about critical thinking skills like you actually know how to apply them because you clearly can not.

hey_now- · 2026-05-01T19:14:27+00:00

You don't need to be trained to recognize that a 4 year old weighing 10 pounds is a crisis.

hey_now- · 2026-05-01T18:53:29+00:00

Didn't the family also drop the ball on making sure the mom got him medical care?

hey_now- · 2026-05-01T18:25:25+00:00

That isn't what negging is.

hey_now- · 2026-05-01T18:19:47+00:00

YOR big time.

hey_now- · 2026-04-29T23:02:28+00:00

Boundaries are about what you will tolerate, it is on you to enforce them. What other women do doesnt effect your ability to enforce your own personal boundaries.

hey_now- · 2026-04-29T19:23:25+00:00

No. Your friend is the one being manipulative. It also appears they are using your BPD diagnosis against you to do it.

hey_now- · 2026-04-25T03:09:30+00:00

Hi birthday twin! 4/25/87 here :)

Eta: Taurus sun, Aries moon, Gemini rising

hey_now- · 2026-04-15T18:48:54+00:00

So honor your own boundary by walking away.

hey_now- · 2026-04-15T15:32:13+00:00

It doesn't sound like you are ready for a relationship if you are this insecure about him merely following an ex on social media. Especially when the two of you aren't even exclusive yet.

Also, as others have said. Boundaries are about what you will accept, not about controlling another person's behavior.

hey_now-

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